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When I first started going out solo, I seriously felt like the biggest loser/creep/whatever you could imagine because I actually did see people I knew being in a small town and someone actually made a comment about it to me! (still happens pretty often actually)
I went home that night and seriously felt like crying and I didn't ever want to do it again, but I did and now it's no big deal and it can actually be nice because you're solely responsible for your night and you decide what to do.
Now I need to just start approaching more.
Anyway, I wanted to chime in with the whole Guess thing.
I actually worked in a very similar retail clothing store for a little over a year and I'd highly recommend it if you're not trying to do it for the money. (I went in knowing I was doing it for the girls and the experience, not the money)
I was the only straight male that worked there (actually there was one other but more or less the only one) and there's a very strange power differential that occurs (both with employees and customers) when you're around a bunch of women and they know you're the only male that would fuck them there. It feels very different from "the real world" at times.
I had NO game and was essentially scared to talk to hot women (that's why I did it, to get over that) and it worked very good because I was forced to talk to every woman that came in.
Many, many of them (customers and employees) would flirt and give subtle and sometimes not so subtle sexual cues to me.
I got plenty of numbers and facebook accounts while I was there and I could've easily fucked 2 or 3 girls in the dressing rooms. (And remember, I barely had any game or experience at this point, you would fucking kill it)
One time a girl and I were secluded in the dressing rooms by ourselves (the dressing rooms were kind of secluded from the rest of the store too) and this girl was getting so fucking turned on she started turning me on and we were hardly even conversing and I wasn't anywhere near a sexual frame of mind when she first walked in.
I could just see it in her eyes and her body language, she was fucking dripping wet and wanted me to take her into one of the dressing rooms, throw her against the wall, and fuck her hard. I'm 99.9% sure I was playing into some sort of rape fantasy of her's.
I had no "killer instinct" back then and didn't want to get fired but I really wish I would've done it, that would've been a story for the ages and the girl was a solid 8, really sexy, I was pretty much rock hard by the end of the interaction and we had said maybe 3 sentences back and forth.
Fuck me for being such a pussy.
Good luck man.
Get Laid or Die Tryin'
One phrase when out: "No hiding, just trusting" or just "trust" (In myself)
4th gear, 120 on the dash (not quite going as hard as Hunk haha)
Nightly Goal (Thurs, Fri, Sat): Approach 3 "warm" women; Get at least one outside with "follow me" to isolate and escalate
Long Term Goal: 2 girls by summers end (preferably 7+ and somewhat of an emotional connection but not mandatory by any means)
Ya, I'm not too sure how that's gonna work out. I haven't got a call from them at all, and every time I call the place, the female employees make it hard. Last time j called and asked for the manager they're like "we can't tell you when the manager will be in, we can't give out the information over the phone."
I just went on a date with another non-dtf girl. She is from Poland, and a hard 6. Jesus Christ, I'm sick of this shit. I'm sick of dates. im sick of 6's and 7's, and I'm sick of 8's who want to lock me down into a relationship but not fuck me. Every legit hot girl 8/10 and up wants to make me her bitch. They wanna make me that guy that they don't fuck, but they keep around as their "boyfriend". The guy they make wait 1 month before they fuck. What do I have to do if I want to fuck these 9's and 10's? Do I have to spend 5'000$ in tattoos and take fucking steroids and walk around with my chest puffed out like an obnoxious fucking retard?
I've been working real hard lately, dressing my absolute best everyday, approaching a lot, and going out a lot. It's been great so far the past 2 weeks. I can't lie and say that I'm not disappointed though with my total lack of results in the last month. It's been 24 days since I last had sex with a new girl. My longest dry spell since early 2014. All I can do is keep going though.
I'm going out again tonight.
Edit; I went out. It was kinda lame though because I didn't go solo. I did a few ballsy approaches, but no makeout. I'm starting to seriously value my independence. I truly enjoy doing things by myself lately.
I went to a new bar though, and I discovered another place to go to. All in all, it was a pretty good night though.
@Chivas. Hey thanks for the support, and no I'm not. I'm learning french though in University and I plan on moving there soon.
@MR. It's funny that you mention getting them tailored because I literally just did that yesterday!! I took both of my jeans to the tailor, and she's going to make them look exactly like I want. Trouble is that, I plan on gaining another 15 pounds on my bulk after my wrist has healed, so they soon won't fit. But oh well.
Yo.. I'm slowly improving my french in school too.. I see a skype group going haha.
Also, Rousseau good job with everything. I can't help very much because I am just working on my first 10 lays but I can tell with the questions you are asking on the forum that you're going to solve your problems fast. Good luck
July 11th 9/36
I'm going out again tonight, but I have no idea what I'm going to wear considering all my stuff is in the laundry. I'm stoked to go out solo after my night with a wing last night. It's just way better by yourself. I really dislike being judged every time I approach a girl; being held back from going into new bars because of a 5$ cover; and being told not to do this or do that, because it's "sketchy".
I have a date with another HOT Venezuelan girl today. This is a different Venezuelan girl. I didn't screen her at all though, so I'm probably going to end up being on a date with another non-dtf 8/10 girl. I'm meeting her VERY far from my place to, so I don't have a place to bounce her to. It's been 8 dates since I've last been laid!! I hate dry spells.
My outfit today is boring as fuck. I need to do laundry.
It looks more kool with a jean jacket, but then its kinda hot.
I ended up changing my outfit. I approached a few girls today, and i kind of understood the idea of screening. I shook the first girls hand and held it for as long as I could, and when she got all nervous because of it, I instantly became turned off and annoyed by her because I no longer wanted to talk to her because she was clearly non-dtf. In contrast to a juicy Latina that I approached after who held my hand for probably 40 seconds, and I actually wanted to keep talking to her.
The purpose of screening is to creep girls out, and the ones who want to fuck will like you touching them.
Edit: This is officially the longest dry spell I've ever had in terms of how many dates I've had. Ive had 9 dates now with none of them ending in sex. This Venezuelan girl was hot 8/10 and she had big fucking titties but she wouldn't even kiss me. At the end of the date she had this disgusted look on her face when I tried to kiss her. Like I've said before, I'm pretty sick of dates and I'm glad that I've been going out at night.
I was being kind of needy tonight with this chick after she wouldn't kiss me. I had fun with her, and j wasn't mauling her or anything, but I'm pretty sure she picked up on my desperate vibe. Despite not getting what I want lately, I've been enjoying myself more when hanging out with girls. It's kind of ironic how I've been enjoying myself more, but the girls have been less into me lol.
Edit; I've been thinking a little bit in the last couple hours, and I realized that I should be more grateful for the success I've had. Take today for example. I went on a date with a hot Latina from Venezuela with big tits who barely speaks English, and tomorrow I'm going to the beach with a cute Bengali girl who supports me 100% on my mission in life. I'm finally starting to get want I want in life!!!! As long as I keep working hard at my goals, I will get what I want in this life.
I went out and it was a good time. I definitely won't be going back to that bar though. It blows hard. I gotta find better spots to go to before I go to my main bar. I'm going out again tomorrow to!!! It's because I'm a hustla, and I do what it takes to kill it. I have no idea how many girls I approached because I approached a lot. 10/36
I'm gonna go out this week 4 times. I'll go out on wednesday, thursday, friday, and saturday night. Going out on a sunday night isn't logistically feasible to me.
I've got quite a few dates this week.
I'm making a promise to myself to never do hard drugs again. I did it the other night, and it fucked up my entire schedule and routine. I didn't even make it to class today because I got zero sleep last night. Fuck that shit. I can't be a hustler if I'm laying in my bed all day recovering from a night of MDMA.
It's now been a month since my last new girl. I know that this is only a temporary setback, and If I keep doing what I'm doing, I might tag like 3 chicks in one day. Lol.
I've only done 1 approach in the last 2 days because of chilling with my girl and getting fucked up on drugs. I realize how pathetic this is when I articulate it out loud. Rather than hustling, going to the gym, approaching, working, I was laying in my bed all day because of my decisions the previous night. Last night, was the last night I'll do drugs like M again.
I just realized tonight that if I don't pull my socks up and start working really hard in the last month of my course, I'm going to fail and have to stay behind another year and take french again. I'm going to scale my approachs back to 5 a day, and going out solo back to 2 times a week.
My priority until August 17th is FRENCH HOMEWORK, not women. STUDY HARD BITCH
I'm going out tonight, but I have to do some things before I go out, like 1) french homework, 2), groceries, 3), gym. I feel really stressed out right now, because of everything. I'm behind in the gym, in french homework, and I'm getting 0 results in day game, my haircut sucks, and my jeans are at the tailor so I can't dress fly. I'm a mess right now.
I just trained upper body for the first time in a month, and it feels really good to be back at it after my wrist injury. My lifts took quite the hit, but i look at it as if im building a house. Im going back right now to make sure my foundation is solid so i can make the final product better.
I feel like a fucking loser today. I feel like a creepy cold approach loser. For real.
I'm going out tonight for sure, because I can't just sit in my house all night feeling like a loser. I did 7 approaches today and I felt like I was a weird fuck. I didn't feel ballsy or cool. Sometimes I like to relish in negativity and feel like a loser. It's like I know that if I talked myself up I would feel better, but I choose not to.
If I keep pushing and struggling to get what I want, I will get it eventually. So it's important that I never give up.
Alright, I'm leaving now to go to the bar.
@Hunk, Ya, I'm really looking forward to the times when I'm pulling 2 girls a week. I know it will happen eventually, but sometimes it feels like it's too far away.
I need to stop feeling sorry for myself all the time. I should stop being an asshole to myself, and talking all this shit, like about how rough im feeling all the time, or about how daygame results have been so shit lately. Im going to work on being more present and complaining less. I should have more of a sense of a humor about my situation, rather than whining about it in a negative tone.
Edit: i went out tonight and did 10 approaches before i decided to give up and go home. Ive been thinking a lot lately about RSD type shit, and im really starting to understand the concepts of validation and state. Im on my path to learning to fill my own cup emotionally and financially. I cant rely on girls to be nice to me so i can feel good and validated by their reaction to me. I should feel good regardless of bad results or regardless of bad reactions to me. I should feel good, soley based on how im on my path to be my own person who is self-sufficient. A person has to rely on himself in order to constantly be giving rather than taking.
I just gotta work hard, and be happy that im doing the best that i can. i also gotta dress super fly, because tonight i was off my game and i think my results suffered for it.
I gotta give myself credit for even trying and learn to constantly be giving.
I got there and i instantly cruised up to these girls, one which made pretty direct eye contact with me. I went up to both of them and put my arms around them and pulled them into me like a boss. I ended up sitting with them and talking to them for awhile. I was going to come back to them every once in awhile when i was bored, but when i came back later they were gone. The black girl i was talking to was congratulating me on how much balls i have for going out alone. They really respected it. Most girls think its weird i think.
After this, i cruised around for awhile and approached a bunch of different girls. I was really aggressive with a lot of them, so its no wonder that a lot of them were hostile to me. This is a good thing though, because i was screening without realizing it.
I think i might try and make it my goal to make out with at least one girl whenever i go out. I wanna make some noticable progrress each time i go out. Tonight i was super comfortable in the venue, but i wasnt in the greatest mood. I did quite a few approaches and toughed it out though.
Tomorrow im gonna hit up a bar that is in my city that way i can stay out really late, rather than having to leave at 12:45ish.
This is another sticking point when im out. I need to stay out as long as humanly possible. Like tonight i shouldve left at 1:30-1:45 rather than 12:45. I have to make the most out of my nights in terms of time spent. I can still catch the last bus home if i leave at 1:45.
Go get your haircut right now... Having a fresh cut makes all the difference in my confidence... I get my hair cut all the time now (its worth the money)
And 0 results in day game right now doesnt mean 0 results tomorrow... but you already know this
Edit = I just now read that French hw is your priority right now... Ladies will always be there when you get back.. We are young.... When we are pulling 2-3 girls every week for a year on end we'll look back this and laugh
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