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It depends. No situation is the same. You need to read how the girls are responding to you act accordingly. One of the girls may be more talkative than the other. One of them may be more into you than the other. It all depends. I don't want to say that someone should ALWAYS do this or always do that. It all depends.
In general though when I'm approaching large groups, I usually approach the entire group with really high energy. I'll have an idea of which one I find most attractive, but I try to keep my options open. I'll usually go in and start talking to a group and be super aggressive and playful, grabbing all of them and spinning them and see who responds the best. I usually direct my first line at the one I'm most attracted to though. This is just for large groups though. Larger groups are easier to get laid from than two girls.
When there are two girls I'll usually be a bit lower energy. I'll just start a normal conversation with the one I'm more attracted to, but I'll be sure to engage her friend. I'll tease the girl I'm attracted to in front of her friend and bring her friend in on the teasing.
I was never a fan of cold approaches in bars and clubs for the exact reasons Chris outlines in his article about club game. When I did approach a random though almost always they are with a group so I would go straight up to her directly and tell her I thought she was sexy and talk a bit and then I would introduce myself to her friends. Usually I would have wings come in after this and then introduce themselves to the friends to occupy them and I would take the chick I want across the room so we could talk alone and I would try and get something going.
Usually scoring real hotties is done best in day time because they have a higher chance of being alone. Social circles is the way to go for sure for clubs and bars if you want to rack up a lot of lays with high tier girls. Make ties with social circles in the day, and go to the bars and clubs with them at night was my strategy for successful "night game".
If you have any questions OP feel free to PM me I learned a few things I did that helped me get into social circles for club game. And the first question guys usually have when learning about how club game works is "how do I make friends with chicks and get into social circles with hot girls".
The [type of] approach means very little, it's all about your status in the venue.
If you are cold-approaching, your odds are best with the girls that-
1) you hold contact with
2) aren't on the dance floor
3) are drinking
4) move her ASAP to a quieter area
**I have to think about this some more
one move that Scotty does is walk around the place, and squeeze the arms of all the girls he's interested in and leave. The girls that stare at him later in the night are interested. It's kinda like planting a seed, so to speak. I do that in bars too.
another move is a waving the girl over to you, that actually is good for clubs
By far, the most (and hottest) pussy I've ever gotten through the years can from club scene (I call it "party scene") but it didn't come via traditional cold-approach.
w/ straight cold approach - just do the best you can, touch the girl immediately
When you squeeze the arm and leave, do you look them in the eye while squeezing (and walking up to them), or do you, once you spotted her, not look her in the eyes and go in for the squeeze (without any eye contact)?
Ethan X wrote: One trick I use for super hot girls is if I see a guy has just approached her and her group, then I'll go in and start a platonic conversation with her friend. If the hottie doesn't like the guy that tried to approach her she'll actually start coming on to you so she doesn't have to talk to the other guy any more. Now you've got the friends that like you, and the hottie trying to get your attention. A great scenario.
I figured out this strategy by mistake when I was coaching. Sometimes I'd go in to a set to wing but because the girls didn't like the guy I was coaching, she'd immediately start talking to me.
Haha, I used that tactic once as well (the one and only time I actually used a 'tactic'):
I saw this hot chick in the club (it was a party of the organization with which I went snowboarding, so it was for all ages. I was about 18 at the time).
Of course since it was for all ages, there were only a few girls around my age that were hot as well.
After crossing her by a few times I also saw who her friends were.
When it was getting more towards the later half of the night, I saw the friends sitting in the smaller dancing room (that was almost completely empty by that time), so I went over, sat down next to them with my friend and after a short chat with the friend, I spoke to the girls and started casual conversation.
Shortly after, I noticed the hot friend walk in, but she was still very much engaged with some other friends of her (I assume).
I kept talking to the friends, and really in the moment as well, so I was having fun.
Eventually, the hot girl and some other friends approached us (two/three girls and me and my friend), but I just kept talking to the friend not even noticing her *wink*.
After she stood there for a short while, just witnessing me and her friends having awesome conversation, I allowed the conversation to die down a bit. And when the silence occured, she opened her mouth (you can guess what it's about: "let's go here..." -> in this case the main dance room).
I replied very enthusiastically with "allright, let's go there". And so I added my friend and myself to their group.
As we walked over there, I was still talking to the friends.
When we arrived, the circle formed and it was formal introduction time: everyone saying there names to us.
And the funny thing is, I accidently ended up standing next to the hottie (naturally everyone in that group became attracted to me, because I was their new leader, so yeh maybe the hottie purposely standed next to me). So after the introduction and a very short bit of small talk, I turned my focus towards the hottie.
And after that I barely stopped to speak to the others again, I was locked in an endless conversation/interaction with her. I knew in the back of my mind her 2 friends would be so mad at me, because they thought I had interest in one if not both of them this whole time.
I actually had a noticable amount in common with that girl, probably because we were both searching for the things we had in common, because we both wanted to strengthen our connection.
After a long ass talk (with her friends completely leaving her alone with me) and a lot of hand holding and hugging, we went different ways, because I just knew she didn't want me to kiss her yet.
We came back together frequently after, but every time I felt like I just couldn't kiss her, even though we've been very touchy touchy feely feely.
Up until one moment she met me up a very narrow stage, where you could sit. I sat down there and she was in front of me, I mostly held her by the waist, we often locked hands and she also often put her arms on my shoulders. At the times she was talking in my ear next to me, I got my face very close to hers, really getting my lips very close to hers, but she always backed off. Even with strong eye contact I couldn't make her move one bit: it would just be strong eye contact for a while until one of us said something again.
I was sick of this never ending dance, so when she was going away to her friends again, I this time told her I had to say something.
I told her it was for me to not kiss her.
She came up with a bunch of excuses: we just met, I don't know you, I'm kind of seeing someone/interested in someone back at home, if we kiss it'll only be for this night, we'll never see eachother again,...
I actually tried convincing her with logic that 'we do know eachother, that we have a great connection, a lot in common, it's just for fun, we'll see what happens after tonight, maybe we can make it work,...' (ugh stupid me)
after all that back and forth of the yes, no, yes no, she gave me a quick kiss on the cheeck and almost ran away.
I saw her grabbing her friends to the toilet, very upset look on her face. When the friends came back they gave me the 'you're dead to me' eyes. She acted all awkward and distant. I even went up to her to apologize if I made her upset or creeped her out. She said it was fine, to just get rid of me.
It was actually a very traumatic experience, but I just told myself a 100 times over and over: hey, at least I tried!
Now I can see what I did wrong, or better yet, how I 'wasn't ready'. I was too outcome dependant: I absolutely had to kiss that girl: otherwise it wouldn't count as a girl I kissed, and basically nothing happened. If I didn't kiss her, nothing would've happened that night (in my mind at that time). If I was in the moment, and just wanted to have a good time, not caring about a silly kiss, she might've even became my girlfriend for all I know.
Also: I fucking apologized as if she was a total stranger. If I went up to her like she was my girlfriend and said something like: "girl, why are you acting all upset dragging your friends away to 'tell them what I did', I just wanted to kiss you, don't be a baby about" or maybe even laugh at her, and that night would've had a way more posittive ending.
Lesson learned I guess
PS: I was 18, it wasn't possible to have sex on the night you met the girl (at least that's what I thought, idk if that's possible in the US..)
2 be honest with you a hot girl its more easy for me to approach than a average ugly chick because when an average ugly chick rejects me...it hurts so much more!!! but hot girls know that they do not get approached much...outside of clubs...they usually have guy company that just want to be seen with them or just give them cool shit but when you cold approach a hot chick by herself she really respects that cuz she knows that her hotness wont last 4ever...so if u catch her by herself (and they usually are in the day) then go for it!!!
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