TOPIC: Do You REALLY Feel Like You Have Potential?

Ethan X wrote:

Good Looking Loser wrote: Do you REALLY feel like you have potential?
and equally as important - WHY do you feel that way?

Brian (Scotty) and I have pondered the whole 'Sense of Entitlement' thing several times but I don't yet feel I can give you enough actionable steps to get a crazy sense of entitlement.

The reason is - EXPERIENCE is one of the main key in getting/increasing your SOE.

Let me throw something in there on this topic. I think I might have something to add that you might find helpful.

Motivation is closely tied to your expectation of success. If you don't truly believe you can do something, you have little motivation to actually attempt to achieve it.
On the other hand though, your success is based on your motivation.

Because of this, you either get a positive or a negative feedback cycle. Success breeds motivation which lead to more action which leads to more success. Or failure breeds lack of motivation which leads to lack of action which leads to more failure.

That's why I believe that having success early in your development is critical and make the difference between someone who succeeds and someone who fails.

When I first started learning how to pick up girls, my first few approaches went amazingly well. The sets blew open and girls absolutely loved me. This gave me a lot of confidence and I went out and approached every day for hours at a time for months on end and ended up getting really really good. Had my first few approaches not gone well, I might not have been as motivated to go out and practice as much.

So experience is key, but it's the right kind of experience (early success) that really makes the difference.

Motivation and pasion will follow along if u have the balls to go without them

GREat post. I totally agree, dont compare yourself to the .000001% rich/famouse, compare it to the top 10%. And even a lot of them seem like scrubs sometimes. So important but its easy to lose sight of sometimes in a slump

This is interesting.

Do I have a sense of entitlement? Do I even need one?

One thing I have been struggling with lately is no expectations and their effect on my emotions. I had this moment today when I thought about getting some phone numbers and expecting that I would, but also intentionally taking the negative viewpoint; therefore, reaching the middle ground.

That sounds weird, but makes sense when you think that No Expectations can have an intense effect on one's mind. For me it makes me untouchable. You see, there's nothing to break. Nothing to break then no pain.

What I think though is KNOWING (and this is where I start talking about the topic) is different from EXPECTING.

I know I can get laid.
I know I will get laid eventually.
I know I'm going to have a great time trying.
I know I'm going to feel up some girl flesh at some point.
I know I'm going to get kissed eventually.

AND I KNOW IT IS ALL JUST A MATTER OF TIME AND APPROACHES!

Last night I had a date. I had expectations that were along the line of 'she is fucking with me'. A 19 year old girl gave me the most sexy hand job of my life. Her hands were so small and perfect. She even did everything I like. All the while she was "No, HC, no..." in that way that tells me her ego is saying NO, but her body is saying HELL YEAH!

What I'm saying is that in my heart of hearts I KNOW without doubt that I can get some. Whatever that might be - I KNOW.

I realized after that - and now - that EXPECTATIONS are irrelevant and bad for you. It's the things that you KNOW that give you a sense of surety. That in a nutshell would be how Entitlement would work for me - it would be about KNOWING that I could get it.

Honestly, though, I think Entitlement may or may not be pointless for me. Realistically, clearing every single barrier between me and KNOWING something simple like "I'll eventually get kissed, blown, fucked" is WAY MORE POWERFUL.

That's not something I know, but something I believe right now at this point in my progression.

So, if I was going to teach someone Entitlement I wouldn't. I would teach them how to cut the bullshit that covers there eyes and hides the things that they need to know.

Every man should know:

I KNOW I CAN GET LAID.
I know I can get a date.
I know I can get a number.
I know I can approach.

With those 4 in mind a man is complete. That's the four points I would teach. The natural result of knowing deep down in your heart that you those four points are true will result naturally in entitlement and a lot more.

I would teach them. I reached those four by experience. I think doubting them is the only time that I feel 'bad' in this thing. Probably in the next few months until my first year in the game is over, I would say those four will come right in STRONG. Then I will be unstoppable.

rickybobby wrote: GREat post. I totally agree, dont compare yourself to the .000001% rich/famouse, compare it to the top 10%. And even a lot of them seem like scrubs sometimes. So important but its easy to lose sight of sometimes in a slump

I actually had an interesting dilemma about this one. Fact is that no one can compare their sex life to another person's because there's too many variables involved. Each person's sex life is unique. I think that's good because the act of comparison creates all sorts of mental disturbances that are unneeded. If I don't want to feel down about not getting laid as much as Chris in his prime (for example) then all it takes is remembering that his sex life was/is completely unique to him. I have nothing to compare to. That saves me a lot of heartache and makes my gaming time more effective because neediness can't creep in.

Last post on this.

Do you really feel like you have potential?

I have changed my view on this in a way over the last few weeks. I really want to believe "The Game giveth, what it giveth." It's that let the chips fall where they may thing. I stopped caring about what the result of this pick up thing should look like and now I have infinite potential because there's nothing but what I get to be had. I'm totally fine with that because in real life you get what you get. Imagine shit as much as you want, but that's not your potential because what comes from your efforts is what comes. That's sort of related to the sex life thing I said above.

Please bear in mind that I'm 7 months into the game. I feel like I shouldn't make these kinds of comments, but I am because I find this fascinating and want to talk about it. Newness should be considered. What I will know in 2-3 years time might well be totally different.