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The reason is - EXPERIENCE is one of the main key in getting/increasing your SOE.
The good news is - if you fuck ONE HOT GIRL, I think I can mindfuck you into believing you that you deserve more and more.
The last part of this little post is - If you aren't sure if you have potential or don't really believe you do, are you willing to accept that all you need to be is ABOVE AVERAGE (fundamentals) to land countless hot pussy?
What I learned about life in general is that if you try and keep on trying, you will succeed. Back when I wasn't getting laid it was because I wasn't trying. I was waiting for it to magically happen. I have friends that go out but they do not talk to girls and wonder why they're not getting laid. I definitely could get a hot cool girlfriend but I'm not ready for commitment. 3-4 fuckbuddies is something I haven't achieved yet, but not because I can't, but because it is very time consuming and pussy isn't all a guy should be focused on. I already feel like I'm above average (face-wise), I've been improving my style a little bit (dressing edgier), social freedom is something that I'm missing. I can get dates and talk to girls but not in a social environment. I have no problems with meeting up, but it has to be through either social media or texting first. So completing the AA program is on my list this summer.
Pavlov's dog. The theory of classic conditioning and involuntary reflex actions. If you do it often enough it becomes a habit, even if there is no food. You unconsciously prep yourself for what is to come. And you do not have to take a 'time out' to make it happen. It becomes instinctive. This addresses your concern about time consumption. You and your priorities come first, and you will still get laid. There's fifteen others as busy as you who will play. Just take what Chris wrote and lay it on this thought concept. You will be golden, I think.
For me it was learning EKGs, bunch a funky looking lines, I was clueless and scared shitless. Fuck, I miss one reading and a person could die. I taught myself, just reading and reading, practicing with the pros. I really did not take significant time out. Like 18 minutes a day. It became instinctive and natural for me. I have trumped an interpretation from an anaesthesiologist, for a patient going to surgery. Does not happen if you dont think your capable, are focused and lastly have the experience. It was nothing big, just kept on working, until the senior anaesthesiologist saw me and laughed cause I caught his colleague.
The same thing can be said about FBs and fucking well. It really is a sense of entitlement. To the extent that its obvious I am in the medical field, from above. I deserve it. I am good at it and I know that absolutely no one including those close to me give a fuck.
Neither Chris nor Scotty nor Boytoy have gotten to the pinnacle without focusing and having that SOE that they deserve it. There are alot of docs in this world Nowadays, alot of them suck. You gotta have that SOE and put in the effort.
i fully subscribe to the idea that all it takes to get laid regularly is being above average in looks and speaking to chicks. i see plenty of examples in real life from friends etc.
with that said, i honestly doubt i can be above average in the looks department barring some miracle. i still hit on chicks and get numbers but rarely get laid, i actually give up for long periods (months) and delve back into this stuff every now and then. not everyone has the potential, although most do. it's a simple formula.
Good Looking Loser wrote: Do you REALLY feel like you have potential?
and equally as important - WHY do you feel that way?
Brian (Scotty) and I have pondered the whole 'Sense of Entitlement' thing several times but I don't yet feel I can give you enough actionable steps to get a crazy sense of entitlement.
The reason is - EXPERIENCE is one of the main key in getting/increasing your SOE.
Let me throw something in there on this topic. I think I might have something to add that you might find helpful.
Motivation is closely tied to your expectation of success. If you don't truly believe you can do something, you have little motivation to actually attempt to achieve it.
On the other hand though, your success is based on your motivation.
Because of this, you either get a positive or a negative feedback cycle. Success breeds motivation which lead to more action which leads to more success. Or failure breeds lack of motivation which leads to lack of action which leads to more failure.
That's why I believe that having success early in your development is critical and make the difference between someone who succeeds and someone who fails.
When I first started learning how to pick up girls, my first few approaches went amazingly well. The sets blew open and girls absolutely loved me. This gave me a lot of confidence and I went out and approached every day for hours at a time for months on end and ended up getting really really good. Had my first few approaches not gone well, I might not have been as motivated to go out and practice as much.
So experience is key, but it's the right kind of experience (early success) that really makes the difference.
Do i really like I have potential to have any or a combination of the options listed.... Absolutely....While from the outside it is an uphill battle, with logistics and other areas.
Thankfully i have strong sense of entitlement, which resonates from my youth. Even when i just a good looking "aloof" kid, with a nice smile, but oblivious to it and girls - Yes some of the hottest would more or less throw themselves at me. That was high school. I'm talking cheerleaders, drill team girls and the hot preppy party girls.
Then college comes around and i have grown up bit. Same phenomenon, now it's just hotter, sorority (in some cases rich) girls. Either A. introducing themselves to me,
B. openly flirting with me, or
C. In some cases standing so close to me , short of me having everything except killer instinct would have been an awesome lay and potential HOT success driven GF, or FWB.....
I still think about that girl to this day....Part of my motivation among other things....I
And this is just the tip of the ice berg.....In terms of success with women. While i could elaborate....I'll end it here....I'm becoming more "humble and honest" in my approaches.....Right now I might live to far and have no car, but things won't always be this way, and one thing i have learned is a women who is DOWN will be DOWN for you if you keep it 100% with her. I say this because I KNOW my potential is so much more then what I am currently experiencing but keeping it 100% with a Down bitch, it don't matter.
In closing passion helps with sense of entitlement too. Especially when you know you have a purpose and passion in your life...And when that passion and purpose IS YOUR LIFE regardless of where you are, if you are always reaching for that then it can help to increase that sense of entitlement with women.
It's like in the example if a person KNOWS(extreme belief) in heart of hearts that he can be a successful musician or entrepreneur, then what is it to believe you can bang hot women?
Thanks for the thought producing topic Chris. I try not to say to much these days, but it's it's nice to unwind sometimes.
Success builds confidence - confidence creates activity - activity creates habits - and successful habits create more success and the cycle repeats - The momentum cycle.
Do You REALLY Feel Like You Have Potential?
01 Jun 2014 12:42 #129078
I feel like I have potential mainly because I see genuinely see myself as better looking, cooler, and more masculine than the majority of guys my age. I feel cooler than all girls my age. When shit doesn't work out for me, I just think to myself, "Whatever, I'm still better looking/cooler than blah blah blah." Sounds superficial, but that's all I really all I rely upon to carry me through whatever situation I'm in.
I've always had a superiority complex about my intelligence but i have been trying to shake that off in the last few years as it makes you unbearable socially and leads to overthinking. Focusing on physical potential has really helped my since January. I have been having doubts recently since hitting plateaus in the gym but since i have gone up like 15 pounds i have actually had girls start approaching me on nights out so i must have something going for me.
I will have to revisit my arrogance when i start trying to make money(after Uni) but i am enjoying improving my formerly weak areas right now, where there was potential i had never even considered.
Social loser til 19
Virgin til 22
Now I travel, party and get laid
Stuff to do:
Stick to cut and gym schedule
Make dat money
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