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Chris wrote an article on this explaining that there could be 100 reasons on any given day why a chick will act bitchy and unavailable. It happens. Like you said yourself, it's a numbers game.
From the sound of it, you are in the top 10% if not higher of men, so I wouldn't worry about it in the least. In fact, you didn't even need to insult her as she walked away. Probably just the heat of the moment, but you never want to lose your temper and let out your emotions like that. Just keep working on you and keep killing the approach game and all the roadblocks such as this will become laughing matters.
There's a lot of things going on here, Not every girl is going to like you or think you are cute for several reasons:
1) A girl's definition of thinking you are attractive can change by the second. Today she could haved gotten banged really hard by some stud so she's on his dick and isn't giving any other guy a second chance thus she doesn't think they are attractive (it's largely controlled by emotion). But this is the wrong take on this issue anyway, you need to affirm to yourself that every girl has a right to not think you are attractive, it is their right to do so and you only have so much control. Once you realize this, it will be a lot easier for you. And the fact you know available pussy is right around the corner means the opinions of other girls is jack shit.
2) You can't be attractive to every girl. You said you understand it but I think you haven't internalized it yet. Furthermore, just because someone thinks you are cute doesn't mean anything, you have to be attractive and they have to be sexually available like Axel mentioned. This is not the point of edgy / maxing out looks, you want the small percentage of girls to like you and for the other ones to fuck off.
But dude I feel for ya, it sucks to hear it to your face someones opinion like that. But when you set yourself up in a situation like that, you gotta be willing to hear their opinion. One of the girls in my field told me I had chicken legs (I take pride in working out), I didn't ask for her opinion so I told her to fuck off and that she doesn't know how I train. But I knew I was comfortable with how I workout and that girls in the past liked my legs so this girl's opinion meant jack shit. It's pretty much how you gotta be with your looks dude. Think back to successful scenarios with chicks who found you attractive, then this girl's opinion means nothing
I'm glad that you posted this thread because it offers a mirror where I can see what I'm like. I have problems like this every now and then, where someone doesn't like me, a girl doesn't think I'm hot or whatever it may be. It's petty and it seriously isn't a big deal at all. A girl didn't like you? So what man. You're a fuckin' man on his path, you're jacked and shit and you're already fuckin' other bitches that are hotter than her. Like really man, lol who gives a shit what she thinks. It's a lesson though. Don't let little things like that bother you.
It was unnecessary to insult her to, and she probably laughed because you made yourself sound really hurt. She knew she hurt your ego and was probably happy about it. Don't give a shit next time, just think about the girls that you're gonna be balls deep in later.
Yo, the same thing happened to me yesterday. I was actually very afraid to approach girls and suffered from socail anxiety a long time too. So yesterday I was approaching this girl by making eye contact and then walking next to her and touch her on the shoulder saying: „Hey! Whats up?“ she answered and I said: „I tought you were cute and wanted to talk to you.“ She seemed to be checking me out from head to the feet and then said: „Im not interested.“
The worst thing was that the EXECT same thing happened the last time I did an daygame approach (without the checking out part). As bad as it sounds I felt absolutly CRUSHED after this happed. Its not the fact that this happened yesterday, but that I remembered the same thing already happened to me the last time I made an approach. I actually even had nightmares about being too ugly and stuff like that. And today I felt down the entire day and had absolutly no motivation whatsoever to do anything and my mood was super passiv and bad.
I just did a few approaches in my life in night club and day game. And its really been a mix of all that can happen. Some were not availeble and I had no chance right away and they even reacted pretty harsh like: „What do you want!!??“ and stuff like that, but it never really got under my skin like that. Some were undecided and I had to win them over, and some were into me right from the start. (All those approaches were before GLL btw, and I really sucked because I took some weird "PUA" behaviors on)
I felt too bad too approach the entire day. After a little Meditation I felt better tough, so this is what I would recommend.
I would really like to get Chris or Scottys take on this one. Chris once said that he also took rejection really personal and tought he was too ugly when he got rejected. If you guys read this: How do you deal with that kind of stuff? What did you do in the beginning when this happened too you? What would you recommend?
And its super illogical too, because you already know that you get hotter woman then the one who rejected you. In my case too I had way hooter girls being interested in me then her (before the approach I actually thought wow she looked way better from far away haha).
I don't see how her saying she doesn't think you are cute makes her a rude little bitch. Not every girl will think you are Adonis. Some girls think I'm one of the hottest guys they have ever seen, and I am sure that lots of other girls I have approached think I'm not attractive at all. It will inevitably happen.
The fact that it is bothering you this much suggests that you still have a while before you actually achieve a truly healthy ego. I know something like this would have bothered me too when I first started my approaches, but if this happened to me now it literally wouldn't bother me one bit. It is good that you can acknowledge that this was overreacting and you are taking steps to improve your mindset.
I will be the first one to admit I've also felt temporarily down and hurt by girls who say "no" or are not into me, but I've changed my thinking.
Read this post as a motivational kick in the ass about something I've also been through myself, and know I'm not trying to insult you.
Ok... so I think this all happened so you could realize something that I will describe in this post.
A man's emotions are not to be dictated by the reactions you get from women.
WHOMEVER you give up your emotional control for... you are at the MERCY of that person. Do you hear what I said, it applies to everybody you meet in life!!
You are literally at the mercy of anyone and EVERYONE that YOU give up your EMOTIONAL CONTROL for!
Your ego has to be crushed so it loses its hold over you... the "ego" in the Eckhart Tolle sense, as in your false self, including your delusions about your self, for example your LOOOONG first paragraph about your fucking looks that reads like a confession from an insecure teenage girl.
When good looks is all you have to base your game, your self-image and/or your self-confidence on, this is what you get.
SO DUDE - STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR LOOKS AND BEING SO PROUD ABOUT THEM! You've got too much ego about your looks and I can read between the lines very clearly.
This may or may not be true but I think one of your biggest fears is that if you suddenly became an ugly guy you would lose all your confidence and wouldnt have a clue how to game women and how to think that you are valuable and FOR WHAT REASON YOU ARE VALUABLE AND HAVE VALUE AS A MAN cos you're used to cruising by with your looks.
If looks is all you've got when you think about your value as a man, if that's all you've got to attract girl YOU'RE PATHETIC. You're vain... just like women.
You feel angry?! GREAT! Use this anger to overcome your limitations! Now what are you going to do? You're going to take those insults and injustices and you're going to recycle them into a better YOU.
On one hand I wanna tell you I've been there and I feel ya... on the other hand I wanna tell you to man UP, develop emotional stability - a key masculine virtue - and encourage you to develop internal referencing and a more solid sense of self so these events don't hold so much negative meaning to you.
First...dude you are really good looking (no homo)
Second...there will be hundreds of thousands if not millions of women who will NOT think you are cute
Third...Its a fact of life...gotta get over it...you are too good looking to be this fragile...which is funny because sometimes I feel hurt when I approach a chic who doesn't want to sleep with me
For all you know she could be only into Asian guys...not every girl will find you attractive...in the same way that not every guy will find even some of the cutest girls attractive...you have to get to a point where this kinda thing doesn't bother you this much because it will happen again for sure...no one is universally attractive
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