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Hey guys. Yesterday I had a huge breakthrough in growing some balls and approaching. I feel like a god among men. I want to share with you guys what worked for me because I think a lot of dudes are in the same shoes as me. No matter how much material we read we just can't bring ourselves to go out there and take action. Hopefully what I post here will inspire guys to get 'er done.
There are countless priceless posts about strategies to beat approach anxiety, not to mention the AA program that Chris & Co. have come up with. All are great.
I have been into the community since October of last year and spend a solid 20 minutes to several hours reading material almost every night. I have cold approached maybe 5 girls since then. Out of those 5 I have had the courage to ask for her number once. ONCE. You'd think that with all the reading and knowledge I've been accumulating I would have a lot more approaches under my belt. But I don't. I just cannot bring myself to talk to a woman, and when I do I self sabotage and don't go for the number.
If this sounds like you, keep reading.
My flight response is on overdrive. Every time I have an opportunity to talk to a gorgeous girl (heavy eye contact, situation warrants it, etc) I rationalize a reason in my head not to do it. I'm thinking WAY too much. This seems to be a consistent problem with my more intelligent friends. It seems like the more we're in our heads, the more likely we are to think ourselves out of approaching. Seconds later we're kicking ourselves for not taking advantage of the obvious opportunity. I've had 10s eye fucking the shit out of me and I do nothing. WHY?!?!?!?!?
While I don't know the exact reason why (other than I'm a huge pussy lol) I think I've found a quasi solution. Yesterday I had an intense lift session, and afterwards I walked to my office in Beverly Hills. Still had my gym clothes on. I noticed that about 10 minutes into my walk to the office I felt different. I did not give a FUCK. 9 times out of 10 after working out I go home and eat a big breakfast and shower and get ready for the day. I'm hardly ever in public after a workout. I've never noticed what a beast I feel like around others after a heavy lift.
Once I got to the main street with all the shops and restaurants and tourists I knew something was different. I felt like I could do anything. I also felt like if I couldn't do anything, it didn't matter. Does that make sense? I was in the EXACT frame of mind I think you need to be in to approach women. SO I DID. Without even thinking about it I stopped this French girl in the street and started a conversation. Bullshitted for 3 minutes and got the digits. I barely remember the conversation it was all so natural.
Besides the French girl I made eye contact with everyone, but it wasn't forced. I felt like what the PUA community refers to as a "natural". And I swear to god it was all because I was high on endorphins from lifting weights.
Moral of the story is this: If you're like me and spend countless hours reading material about how to pick up girls and you just can't take action, GO LIFT SOME MOTHERFUCKING WEIGHTS! From now on before I go out and about I'll be lifting right before. I'm also going to experiment and lift before dates, and also before I see my current FB. I will report my results on this thread.
I think it would be cool if you guys tried this and reported your results in this thread. Or if some of the veterans already do this let us recovering manginas know your results too.
I feel like Columbus just discovering America. I've found the secret haha. Hope I don't get assassinated for spreading the word about this shit. IT IS GOLD!
I know exactly what you're talking about and it does feel awesome.
However, I don't wanna be dependent on lifting to actually talk to women. It's a good tool for succeding in the AA program for example.
I hear ya. I just haven't found myself in this state of mind around girls ever before. If lifting is the only way to get there I'm happy to compromise and lift before I go out. Sounds ridiculous lol but whatever works!
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