TOPIC: I want to stop being stress and having obsessive thoughts

As of late I haven’t being sleeping right and I’m stressed trough out the day because I have obsessive thoughts that make very uncomfortable. I checked my testosterone and estradiol levels and they are normal, I’m not struggling financially, is like when I’m doing great I’m really not. What should I do? I have being like for a few months now.

Obsessive thoughts - been to a counsellor/psychologist - or spoken to somebody you trust about it? Or journal about it/write it out on here. You haven't really said much other than "I'm having obsessive thoughts" - that doesn't really tell us much.

Sleep - do everything in this: Sleep is Paramount

How is your food intake? Eating clean? Be honest.

What supplements are you taking?

Are you drinking/doing drugs? How often?

Are you going outside and getting sunlight?

Are you spending too much time on the internet? What sites? Detrimental ones or good ones?

Are you interacting with other humans? How often?

What is your actual proposed sleep schedule? Are you sleeping in total darkness? What about the noise levels?

Answer all of those questions and we'll have a better gauge on how to help.

Also this book:

www.amazon.com/Cant-Afford-Luxury-Negati...hought/dp/0931580242

It is easy to read (small pages), and some (most) chapters, fun to read.

GravyTrain wrote: How is your food intake? Eating clean? Be honest.

What supplements are you taking?

Are you drinking/doing drugs? How often?

Are you going outside and getting sunlight?

Are you spending too much time on the internet? What sites? Detrimental ones or good ones?

Are you interacting with other humans? How often?

What is your actual proposed sleep schedule? Are you sleeping in total darkness? What about the noise levels?

Answer all of those questions and we'll have a better gauge on how to help.

To this list I would add "Are you working on your "mission"?" whatever your mission might be short, medium and long term.

Jake da Dawg wrote:

GravyTrain wrote: How is your food intake? Eating clean? Be honest.

What supplements are you taking?

Are you drinking/doing drugs? How often?

Are you going outside and getting sunlight?

Are you spending too much time on the internet? What sites? Detrimental ones or good ones?

Are you interacting with other humans? How often?

What is your actual proposed sleep schedule? Are you sleeping in total darkness? What about the noise levels?

Answer all of those questions and we'll have a better gauge on how to help.

To this list I would add "Are you working on your "mission"?" whatever your mission might be short, medium and long term.

Did I just spot another Ben Settle fanboy?

GravyTrain wrote: How is your food intake? Eating clean? Be honest.

What supplements are you taking?

Are you drinking/doing drugs? How often?

Are you going outside and getting sunlight?

Are you spending too much time on the internet? What sites? Detrimental ones or good ones?

Are you interacting with other humans? How often?

What is your actual proposed sleep schedule? Are you sleeping in total darkness? What about the noise levels?

Answer all of those questions and we'll have a better gauge on how to help.

I’m eating semi healthy, lots of meat and some vegetables

I’m not taking supplements at the moment

No drugs or alcohol

Sunlight, not much because is raining season here and is cloudy most of the time

I’m really hooked up to YouTube and 4chan, Yes i watch detrimental stuff there

I’m a waiter so I interact with people a lot, but they are not really meaningful interactions.

I don’t really have a sleeping schedule, my room is pretty dark and the only sound I hear is from the fan or the ac when is on.

KillTheInnerLoser wrote: Obsessive thoughts - been to a counsellor/psychologist - or spoken to somebody you trust about it? Or journal about it/write it out on here. You haven't really said much other than "I'm having obsessive thoughts" - that doesn't really tell us much.

Sleep - do everything in this: Sleep is Paramount

I just ordered those blue light blocking glasses from Amazon.

I already was using a sleep mask and sleeping in total darkness with only fan background noise.

I've cut out all alcohol, even on weekends, and only consume caffeine once a day shortly after waking.

I've used Zzzquil, Nyquil, and Equate as sleep aids in varying dosages.

I will report back here if the glasses make a difference.

@Cartagines Also, don't eat up to four hours before bedtime. The insulin spike and digestion process interferes with sleep because your body has to work to break the food down.

Protein synthesis and high net carbs also male you have to pee.

Crisis_Overcomer wrote:

Jake da Dawg wrote:

GravyTrain wrote: How is your food intake? Eating clean? Be honest.

What supplements are you taking?

Are you drinking/doing drugs? How often?

Are you going outside and getting sunlight?

Are you spending too much time on the internet? What sites? Detrimental ones or good ones?

Are you interacting with other humans? How often?

What is your actual proposed sleep schedule? Are you sleeping in total darkness? What about the noise levels?

Answer all of those questions and we'll have a better gauge on how to help.

To this list I would add "Are you working on your "mission"?" whatever your mission might be short, medium and long term.

Did I just spot another Ben Settle fanboy?

Damn man, not really haha

I have plenty of experience on this... in fact I AM stress .

It's all too easy to look for outside factors as the cause for obsessive thoughts, stress and worry. My mind keeps fixating on certain things that I believe to be the cause of my stress, to the point where the obsession to solve the perceived problem becomes the source of stress. It's not until I realize that there's nothing to worry about that I start to feel relief, and even solving any issues becomes a lot easier when I'm in that serene state of mind. The most important thing is to just stay calm no matter what, and remember that a lot of other people are suffering from the same issues that I am, and a lot of people have it worse off. That way I am never alone.

Obsession and worry is about living in the problem instead of living in the solution. Living in the solution means accepting how I feel instead of fighting it, and realizing that it is just a feeling. When I'm anxious I tend to fall into thinking that something is permanently wrong and I need to fix something in order to get better. I start to get overly aware of my physical and mental feelings and paying constant attention to them. This is completely self-centered and it drives me away from living in the present and being able to enjoy the company of others. It builds a cage around me, leading to the perception that I need to find the magic key to unlock it in order to escape. But the key is nowhere to be found, and if it is, I only find another cage outside the one I just got out of. It is not until I realize that there is no cage, that I start to feel better. I realize that there are no limitations other than the ones I choose to set for myself. I have a tendency to want things to get better before I start taking action and living my life. I want the prize before I do the work.

Just recently I've been suffering from digestive issues and dove headfirst into thinking that must have been the cause of my mental issues all along. After I got my bloodwork done and saw that all is fine, I found peace of mind and even my stomach felt instantly better. All this time I've been worrying for nothing and the worrying has exacerbated any issues I might have been having. If only I had accepted how I felt from the beginning, I would've most likely found relief a lot earlier. Sure, I might have some reflux symptoms etc. but so are a lot of other people who are doing just fine. So why should I worry about it so much? There are easy steps I can take to fix the issue, but the steps feel impossible to take if I fall into thinking I HAVE to take them in order to continue on with life.

The thing that helps me the most to get out of that self-centered, worrysome state of mind is, indeed, meaningful interactions with other people. I realize I need to not only share about my feels, but also try to be a positive influence to the people around me. This can simply be spending time with friends, and for example yesterday I gave a neck massage to a friend who was suffering from a headache, expecting nothing in return. Simple things like that can make a world of difference to how I feel about myself and the world around me. For some people, I guess this comes natural, but for a guy like me, I need to make an effort to be non-selfish.