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As of late I haven’t being sleeping right and I’m stressed trough out the day because I have obsessive thoughts that make very uncomfortable. I checked my testosterone and estradiol levels and they are normal, I’m not struggling financially, is like when I’m doing great I’m really not. What should I do? I have being like for a few months now.
Obsessive thoughts - been to a counsellor/psychologist - or spoken to somebody you trust about it? Or journal about it/write it out on here. You haven't really said much other than "I'm having obsessive thoughts" - that doesn't really tell us much.
KillTheInnerLoser wrote: Obsessive thoughts - been to a counsellor/psychologist - or spoken to somebody you trust about it? Or journal about it/write it out on here. You haven't really said much other than "I'm having obsessive thoughts" - that doesn't really tell us much.
I have plenty of experience on this... in fact I AM stress .
It's all too easy to look for outside factors as the cause for obsessive thoughts, stress and worry. My mind keeps fixating on certain things that I believe to be the cause of my stress, to the point where the obsession to solve the perceived problem becomes the source of stress. It's not until I realize that there's nothing to worry about that I start to feel relief, and even solving any issues becomes a lot easier when I'm in that serene state of mind. The most important thing is to just stay calm no matter what, and remember that a lot of other people are suffering from the same issues that I am, and a lot of people have it worse off. That way I am never alone.
Obsession and worry is about living in the problem instead of living in the solution. Living in the solution means accepting how I feel instead of fighting it, and realizing that it is just a feeling. When I'm anxious I tend to fall into thinking that something is permanently wrong and I need to fix something in order to get better. I start to get overly aware of my physical and mental feelings and paying constant attention to them. This is completely self-centered and it drives me away from living in the present and being able to enjoy the company of others. It builds a cage around me, leading to the perception that I need to find the magic key to unlock it in order to escape. But the key is nowhere to be found, and if it is, I only find another cage outside the one I just got out of. It is not until I realize that there is no cage, that I start to feel better. I realize that there are no limitations other than the ones I choose to set for myself. I have a tendency to want things to get better before I start taking action and living my life. I want the prize before I do the work.
Just recently I've been suffering from digestive issues and dove headfirst into thinking that must have been the cause of my mental issues all along. After I got my bloodwork done and saw that all is fine, I found peace of mind and even my stomach felt instantly better. All this time I've been worrying for nothing and the worrying has exacerbated any issues I might have been having. If only I had accepted how I felt from the beginning, I would've most likely found relief a lot earlier. Sure, I might have some reflux symptoms etc. but so are a lot of other people who are doing just fine. So why should I worry about it so much? There are easy steps I can take to fix the issue, but the steps feel impossible to take if I fall into thinking I HAVE to take them in order to continue on with life.
The thing that helps me the most to get out of that self-centered, worrysome state of mind is, indeed, meaningful interactions with other people. I realize I need to not only share about my feels, but also try to be a positive influence to the people around me. This can simply be spending time with friends, and for example yesterday I gave a neck massage to a friend who was suffering from a headache, expecting nothing in return. Simple things like that can make a world of difference to how I feel about myself and the world around me. For some people, I guess this comes natural, but for a guy like me, I need to make an effort to be non-selfish.
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