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Last night is the second girl i refuse to have sex with because I was afraid of having ED.
I know for sure I won't be able to get it up because I'll be very anxious and this stops me from even trying to not embarras myself. I don't have access to cialis, are there any other similar drugs that don't require a prescription?
Anyone had this issues, is fucking me up mentally pretty hard.
Yep, there's a couple of guys on here who've had that issue.
I'll tell you what I told them: Give yourself permission to not have sex with girls. Literally, you don't have to fuck them - don't worry about sex. That takes all the pressure off.
You've built sex and "performing" up to be this big huge deal, when it's not. So just get girls into your bed, make out with them if you enjoy that, play with their tits, fool around with their pussy, but don't worry about sex at all. If they ask, just say "I don't feel like having sex tonight, but let's fool around and have a bit of fun."
Stop trying to FORCE yourself to have sex. You're just making yourself more anxious. Let yourself off the hook - just fool around and have fun with girls in your bed. No sex.
That's a great advice. I remember with my last girlfriend that when I focused to finish her off rubbing her clit with lubricant, i could easily keep it up.When I had to "perform" i started to have issues.
I'll just trying to go how much as possible without inserting my dick and see how it goes. Hopefully this chick will want to meet again.
There's places you can get ED drugs online. Caveat emptor.
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I've struggled with this before, some suggestions:
Like KillTheInnerLoser said, don't pressure yourself to have intercourse. Just enjoy the girl how you want to.
When you have performance anxiety, don't treat it as a failure. Think of it as an opportunity to examine where your difficulties arise. Don't be discouraged, but rather try to get introspective on exactly where your mental hangups are.
Not every woman likes intercourse or finds it the most enjoyable part of sex. Keep searching for different women and you'll fine some where you enjoy sex with you without the intercourse
Also keep looking for women who are more comfortable with your performance anxiety, who won't put pressure on you to perform, and who want to help you overcome your issues.
I accidentally met that chick without makeup, she's kinda fat and unattractive.... i haven't slept with a girl for 5 years but I don't find much attraction on her, most likely I'll have ED. She asked me out today, haven't responded yet, not sure what to do...
[Update] Decided to go on the date, no cialis or enhancers, just red wine. Curious how it will go... I hope this crazy dry spell will end tonight.
At this point, as a newbie,
just take whatever you can get.
Even if a girl is hideous - at least go on a date with her. You don't have to have sex, or even kiss her, but you do need to practice just talking to chicks and being comfortable having them in your life.
When I was first starting out, I had sex with a bunch of fat chicks who were NOT attractive at all. I absolutely needed to do that, because it got me more comfortable with the hotter chicks. Not to mention a lot of the fat chicks turned out to be a lot of fun in bed, even if I only saw them once or twice. They were also pretty much all really nice people, with very few exceptions.
It was fun, ended up with a BJ because she was on her period. The most action I got in the last 5 years so I'm pretty happy She looked much better when we met...what make-up and hills can do to girls, can make a 5 almost a 7 at night.
Some advice from experience:
I've dealt with ED (mainly porn induced) on and off. My ED with one girl I was with for a while gradually went away over time. Probably due to her getting to know my dick better, and my sexual anxiety going away with her. It's not uncommon for sex to be mediocre if it's your first time with them. You may be nervous subconsciously (even if you don't feel like you are) and so your body/dick won't cooperate.
Just enjoy yourself! Sex is meant to be fun, not stressful. And if there's a time you don't/can't fuck her, just finger her clit good (or get a Hitachi magic wand and use it on her) and you'll be fine. Accept that you're not gonna be a sex god at first. If the girl is cool, she'll stick around. If not, it's experience either way.
Also, do you look at porn and/or jerk off excessively? Abstaining from that may help.
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