TOPIC: Has anyone with asperger's consistently hooked up with hot girls

Got a professional diagnosis today and it turns out I have Asperger's and ADHD.

- have trouble processing non-verbal cues, (wellbutrin seemed to help with tihs since I seemed to develop an interest in people)
- engage in super-repetitive behaviours
- Restricted set of interests/senstive to different stimuli(cold places for one)
- Avoidant personality disorder ( want to be liked by people but think I'm not good enough)
- bad coordination (terrible at football, still not sure about form of main lifts, was really weeak as a kid, can't take pictures for shit.)
- prone to black and white thinking
-extreme difficulty in adjusting to new environment

First of all, your diagnosis only means what you want it to mean. Its just a fucking label man, if you want to change then change. Sure your personality probably wont ever be the polar opposite of what it is now, but I think you will be surprised how much you can change if you really want to. I have many of the same characteristics you describe below. Often they are a blessing, sometimes they are a curse.

Honestly it really doesn't matter, in the end the same rule still applies: look good and talk to girls. Really, that's all it is. The more you practice the better you get. Not many males Deadlift 300lbs their first day in the gym. Pretty much every male can do this in a couple years or even a couple months if they work at it. Same thing with girls, not many guys can meet a girl and pull her back to a suitable place to fuck on the same day when they start out. A couple years or a couple months later it is very possible.

My advice to you (keep in mind I am NOT yet successful with women) is to find something in your life that you are successful / above average at, use the same mentality for other things. Basically, find why you did well in one area, and apply it to other areas.

The best advice for anything I think is just to want it more. If you want it bad enough you'll find out how to do it.

A fair amount of pickup eventually gets routine and once you get accustomed to it you should be able to know what to do. Not processing non-verbal cues is a disadvantage but if you focus on paying attention to it then you can minimize it's negative impact.

Finally, at the very least, you can just do tinder like BIB does, quick simple texts straight to your place. Not much of social interaction required.

Thanks for the advice. I want to move and just accept it, Lexapro is helping with my anxiety/panic attacks but it is bringing up some uncomfortable feelings to the surface.

I am thinking back to how I was always really oversensitive as a kid (esp in group situations, bullied and rejected(called a creep once) prolly due to aspergers and these situations just keep playing in my head again and again. Like how, I tried to socialise before but didn't succeed. This is making me hard to move on.

I know that I am going to have to acknowledge my anxiety and take MASSIVE action to fix this or it will only get worse in the future. I really wish I had found GLL earlier or I wouldn't have had to deal with what I did before.

I've identified how my aspienss might manifest itself and here's somethings I thought of:

- In pictures I ether have that "emotionless" stare or like I'm high - This makes me wonder if I walk around like that 24/7 (People might think I'm a trauma victim or something lol)
- I practice stimming a lot -> If I happen to look good while looking in the mirror then I'm ultra-cofnident, if I look bad then I'm super-anxious. This isn't a one-time thing either. I have to do this repeatedly. Something I need to sort out.
- I find it hard to relax in crowds -> Ritalin really helped with this but I don't wanna use it again -> I tend to act like I'm busy on the phone/texting/calling someone OR I cross my arms so I come off as defensive.
-> I feel emotions in strong ways and depending on my surroundings I'm either super-excited or really bothered (my little brother seems to be getting gyno and it's really bothering me) -> Meditation seemed to help with this and made me more rational
-> My "fight-or-flight" response often manifests in something like "I must improve myself" "I'm not GL enough yet" 'I need to do X"
-> I am sensitive to touch so I avoid hugging people (Though I've grown used to hugging male friends through repetition) -> also some motor skills deficit -> Guess I will have to learn how to "touch" girls -> I wonder how the fuck I will makeout/have sex lol cause it ain't happening naturally
- OCDish focus on something and disregarding everything else -> For the past few months it was just "face" face" and I realised that I disregarded hair/muscles/clothes/skin Social SKills(LOL) -> Though I have developed a leaner/better looking face
-> MY body-language might appear nervous/fidgety/ I might adjust my clothing more than is necessary
-> One major thing is: If I deem someone to be popular(Hot girls/cool guys) -> I tend to act submissive -> If i consider someone "less cool" (though that might be rude) -> it's almost like I don't give a shit about what I say and am just speaking my mind -> This might have left me without a social circle though I seem to have gotten over this and try to be nice towards everyone now.
-> One thing that really helped me make deep friendships in the past was to help people (thought those relationships might have turned abusive) -> But I've kind of stopped caring about helping anyone anymore and I guess I should start being kind towards everyone while still being assertive -> I defo need to give people 2nd chances and realise that one bad or positive encounter doesn't mean anything.
One thing that really helped me was Wellbutrin -> It made me a naturally confident, witty, high energy, excited to do new things, super low inhibition guy but I was still second guessing myself in my head and it made my cortisol evels go super-high. And I might have said some awkward things but I seemed to be really good at comebacks. I guess GLL does give a balanced perspective to this whole dating scene.

Talk to Terminator. When he started GLL he was in a similar place. I bet he can help you.


And yes, I do know a guy who was formally diagnosed with Aspergers and hooked up with hot girls. It was back in high school and his name was Trin. He would just dance with girls at parties and then pull them in close to make out with them. Then he'd take them to his car or a room or wherever. It's literally the exact same process. Having some mental condition doesn't change the steps it takes to get girls. BTW he wasn't super good looking, he was above average.

I record myself talking every once in a while and man i sound dumb af...probably why i get wrecked in interviews. But yeh i always think i dont get a lot of dates because of it, which makes sense but when i do get dates like 80% of the time im gonna smash. Ive had more 1st date bangs than anything else. Im just good at the physical shit...but make me "spit game" and i fall on my ass all the time.
Its why i like just lookin for a chick who might be down. You might be the same as me..ive never been diagnosed with anything though. But wouldnt be shocked if i had some kind of mild mental disability

Walker-K wrote: I record myself talking every once in a while and man i sound dumb af...probably why i get wrecked in interviews.

. Oh god I know exactly what you're talking about, I recorded 1 or 2 cold approaches last year that I couldn't bring myself to listen to, let alone post.

Yeah, I don't like my voice as well. It sounds boring and dumb.
I think I should just take life one day at a time instead of focusing on the big picture.

Damn, I feel so angry at myself for screwing up the few chances I had with girls when school started. Girls were really nice to me/some stared/catcalled/tried to ask me out but my mind was so fucked up that I thought they would try to make fun of me so I avoided them and I guess this turned them off cuz eventually it all stopped. When guys would discuss girls they would say shit like "Girls must flock to you" and I would think to myself, "my face is ugly, I don't know why they think that, must be deluded cuz of my muscles(I didn't really have a good body then either")

I could learn social skills if I just fixed my concentration issues. I am going to ask my doctor if I can try some "nootropics" or if he can prescribe me something.

What are some books recommend to learn human interactions/dating/body language or to change my thought patterns?

Xanax really helps lower my inhibitions and make me say whatever is on my mind though it makes me dulls my cognitive skills.

Now, I am waking up to the reality that I am 18 years old. I haven't accomplished anything substantial in my life. And If I continue in my ways I will end up like my brothers (ambitionless, fat, video-game playing nerds who married the 1st chick they were arranged with and are made fun of at work/school.

I am going to try:
1. Acting Classes (for some reason I am pretty good at acting (or so I have been told) ) -
2. Public Speaking Classes (hoping it will help with me not shutting down infront of groups)
3. Voice Classes (To help with my dull voice) ( Even my mom makes fun of my dull voice)
4. Volunteer Work
5. Talking to everyone everywhere(even if I look terrible) -> Aiming for positive conversations or making them laugh -> Hoping I can be the funny positive guy
6. Get active on social media (not having social media is a big disadvantage I think)
7. Therapy for aspergers (group sessions) (might meet some aspie girls lol) (occupational therapy for sensory overload)
8. Might join a MMA gym (for my clumsiness and just so that I feel like I can defend myself in fights)

My priorities
1. Social Life
2. School/Extra-curriculars (my parents have told me not to stress it but I do want to make lots of money)
3. Gym and other Looksmaxing tools (Hair, Clothes, Skin)
4. Relaxing hobbies (reading, gym, movies, tv shows, might try playing video games again just to take the edge off and to have shit to do with friends).
5. Learn how to drive

Yeah I'm blocking those sites. They really fucked me up these past few months. They did have some good advice like Carrots for skin/Neck training/testosterone boosting supplements though.

Yeah I'm 90% sure I have aspergers. I got much better my senior year of high school, learning how to engage girls, stay focused, etc. Alcohol helps, but after a while you won't even really need it any more. Just keep at it man, you'll gain the confidence.