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Hi, Rattrp here, I'm 20, virgin, only ever got a few girls kisses from drunk cold approach at night clubs.
Used to be fat at High school so only ever start talking to girls sexually after done at school, at last year of high school decided to drop weight and lost ~60lb(30kg) but never really got a good confidence level and still struggle a bit to maintain the weight.
I reach out for you guys cause I think my biggest problem is that I can't make others unconfortable, like I try to never disagree with anyone and im always avoiding any type of confrontation.
I have a lot of social anxiety, usually only watch in silence when in a group setting.
I really want to change and overcome this, this is fucking up all areas of my life, not only sex life, really hope that I can make it with the help of the forum, I need more than anything in my life to beat this confrontation fear and don't really know where to start.
* Where you are from? Brazil
* How old are you? 21
* What are your goals? Get rid of social anxiety/fear of confrontation.
* If you could accomplish ONLY ONE THING in the next 12 months. What would it be?Get rid of social anxiety/fear of confrontation.
* How long have you been reading self-improvement stuff? Pickup/dating material? On and off for 3 years
* What are you main blockages? I don't really know
* What's your experience level, more importantly- what's your dating/sex life been like over the past few years? I'm virgin, only got kisses from girls at night clubs while drunk cold approaching.
+ Where'd you hear/find GoodLookingLoser.com? Reddit
" I reach out for you guys cause I think my biggest problem is that I can't make others uncomfortable "
I have the same problem. It is the first thing you must get over.
Here is how I did it. You will need to do the AA, but before that you need to shift your mindset. I can't say which mindset will help you , but here is what helped me. My mindset is this :
" I need to get this done. I don't care what others feel. They can suffer, cringe, call me an idiot, cry, kill my parents, throw me to the cops, attack me, but I MUST DO IT "
And you need to really really believe it. What helped me is this. Visualize the worst case scenario, a woman slapping you, people calling you names, etc. in your head. Then go and do it expecting that to happen. When it doesn't (99% of time) you'll be relieved, in the few rare cases it does, you will be prepared.
As long as you believe that what you do MUST be done, you will do anything possible to get it. And over time, with daily visualization and action it will slowly get better.
Just look in the mirror every morning and repeat your mantra like a robot : "I will do what I must even if it makes others uncomfortable" Believe it and then do whatever you need to do that day. You will fail many times, give up many times, feel like shit. But if you truly believe it MUST be done you will keep pushing it until you get it, inch by inch.
Good luck. Start AA.
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I also vouch for the AA program. I only got through a few weeks and definitely noticed an improvement.
I must warn you though that the program is really difficult. This is because you're going against your instincts here for which the brain tries to prevent your from doing using whatever means and excuses necessary. But when you do do it, then you will greatly reap the benefits.
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