TOPIC: Does NOT masturbating help with performance anxiety?

I really need some help here. I plan on hooking up with this hot girl in just a week from now, but I'm concerned that my sexual performance anxiety might mess things up. Some other users on here mentioned that NOT masturbating helps. I haven't beat off in about 4 days so far and I plan to stick with it till I meet up with her. Will NOT masturbating help me? I also plan on having a drink to calm my nerves before I see her. I won't get drunk. Just a moderate buzz. Enough to relax me.

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I am currently on NoFap and NoPorn for 2-3 weeks (haven't been counting exactly).

My observation in regards to abstinence and sexual performance is thus.

In general not fapping helps alleviate mood swings from approaching but when it comes to performing in bed it's a mixed one.

When you don't masturbate you may be more horny, the problem is the mindset. If you are in a validation mindset it will wreck you antway because you care too much and it may be sensitive, but when you act like a predator it is awesome. When I'm really horny I push girls to the wall and go hard on their neck or just throw them on the bed, but when I am less horny I am a bit less agressive.

Unless you have a slightly aggressive personality in the bedroom I don't think not masturbating helps that much. Sometimes it's even worse because your penis is sensitive and hornyness combined with anxiety can hurt you. However I think that not masturbating for 2-4 days is best for most guys. It is enough to make you a bit more enthusiastic and less emotionally volatile.

So it will depend on the person. Just experiment and see how it goes for you.

Are any of you guys here able to get hard with average and below average looking chicks and maintain it? For me I have lost it right away, is it more the lack of emotional connection that causes difficulty to get and maintain an erection or is it because us guys are more visual and looks-oriented than girls are and we need physical attraction in order to get fully turned on by her? Because this happens with the fat chubby chick I banged lately

WishIWasASaiyan wrote: Are any of you guys here able to get hard with average and below average looking chicks and maintain it? For me I have lost it right away, is it more the lack of emotional connection that causes difficulty to get and maintain an erection or is it because us guys are more visual and looks-oriented than girls are and we need physical attraction in order to get fully turned on by her? Because this happens with the fat chubby chick I banged lately

I fucked some whales on a generous dose of Viagra. But then I realized do I really want to be so desperate that anything goes? I think if you whang goes down it's a signal that what's in front of you isn't meant to be fucked. Personally I found it has even more to do with the emotional stuff than straight up looks. Some women have been average looking but the way they act so feminine and sexy makes me super hard. Versus someone who's just laying there like a bream, it doesn't matter how sexy she is.

Agree with Termi on that. I remember this one girl who looked average but be girly AF would turn me on to no end.

Soul stealing stuff she was.

And dead fish are uninspiring for the soul.

This is not a haiku

PS - 2-4 days is the sweet spot in my experience. I've done the whole noFap thing before and at one point it just feels like your dick dies. No life in the guy.

Use it or lose it

Termi, you just summed up why I keep fucking this one girl. I always think "man, I can do better" (she is not ugly, actually quite cute, but I always see the really really hot girls and I wish she was like that...)

And yet, I always have a good time with her. And I do it again and again. Would I marry her? No. But it's a really enjoyable fuck.

I haven't masturbated or watched porn in ages and I don't know if it's that or less stress but Im not as negative as I was, and there are other benefits so I think I'll do what I have been doing.

Terminator wrote:

WishIWasASaiyan wrote: Are any of you guys here able to get hard with average and below average looking chicks and maintain it? For me I have lost it right away, is it more the lack of emotional connection that causes difficulty to get and maintain an erection or is it because us guys are more visual and looks-oriented than girls are and we need physical attraction in order to get fully turned on by her? Because this happens with the fat chubby chick I banged lately

I fucked some whales on a generous dose of Viagra. But then I realized do I really want to be so desperate that anything goes? I think if you whang goes down it's a signal that what's in front of you isn't meant to be fucked. Personally I found it has even more to do with the emotional stuff than straight up looks. Some women have been average looking but the way they act so feminine and sexy makes me super hard. Versus someone who's just laying there like a bream, it doesn't matter how sexy she is.

A real "Woman" can turn on the heat. More specifically to your point I have fucked plenty of girls that just did it for me on a primal level and I couldn't explain it. It's sort of a mixed bag tho as I have fucked good looking girls and destroyed them and fucked ugly girls and lasted minutes.

ElReyYPG wrote: I haven't masturbated or watched porn in ages and I don't know if it's that or less stress but Im not as negative as I was, and there are other benefits so I think I'll do what I have been doing.

Thats great bro. Jacking to porn fucks up your brain and chemicals more than you would believe.Every male should try to cut porn out of there lives as much as possible.

I feel I can add something to this topic now from empirical evidence (let's be scientific about penis in vagina)

I've been suffering a lot from ED, whether or not watching porn

After dating one girl for a longer period of time, I realized 2 things

My brain got rewired, so even if Im watching porn, I imagine fucking this girl, how her pussy feels, stretching her asshole from behind etc, and I can get a semi just thinking about that sitting at work. First time this started happening to me in years. Before I found a long term girl, I couldnt get hard any other way than masturbating, even when I had a girl spreading her ass in front of me I had trouble.

So, first advice, get a long term girlfriend, you can even continue watching porn, but it might help you get totally healthy. It did for me. Just during the day dont worry about daydreaming about her nice pink asshole, warm soft skin, erect nipples etc, if you can get a semi from that, youre good, I bet you could get totally hard if she came to your place that day. Practice daydreaming (instead of just giving everything to your brain through your eyes by watching porn, its too passive)

Second thing, when I cant get hard with the girl, I can try anything and I still stay soft ... when she sucks my dick I can get hard. Its the only thing that could help me get hard whenever I had problems. The other possibility being me masturbating for 10 minutes with varying success, and even if I get hard, I bust a nut so quickly it doesnt even make sense

On the other hand, if she sucks my dick and does it good, the sucking works a bit like a vacuum pump. I get hard within 1-2 minutes. Even from totally soft turtledick, just tell her to suck on the head and enjoy

But the girl has to be at least good if not great. If she sucks (no pun intended), it's not gonna work