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I’ve been on and off this forum for a while. I’ve had a ton of success l, but recently I’ve been trying to quit alcohol to improve myself while trying to promote. This is a difficult combination of things that Rosseau has beaten so if anyone could potentially put me in touch so I could reach out for advice that would be awesome.
By success as a club promoter I mean breaking getting plenty of girls and turning it into a way to surround myself with the hottest girls in my city.
Also I'll DM you for some reachin out to Rosseau
And, what would you like to know about social circle game? The cliffnotes are this: 1) Have a central group of girlfriends that are attractive and cool but you don't fuck
2) Meet other girls and friend groups of girls from those girls and befriend them and don't fuck them as well
3) Fuck girls that are on the fringe of those social circles and don't really have much pool or influence. AKA if the fringe girl gets pissed at you for whatever (not committing, being distant etc...), the girls that you are friends with will take your side over that other girl (as long as you are honest and straightforward with your relationships this will happen).
Along with that you want to be meeting dope guys (attractive, cool, and/or rich) who you befriend as well. Those guys you will bring around your girlfriends and they'll get laid with the girls you're friends with. The girls will love you because you're cool, aren't trying to fuck them, and you know hot/cool/rich/popular guys they can obsess over. AND, the guys will love you because you are around all the hot bitches. And by the end of it, you'll be coming across so many fringe girls that you can fuck a new one once a week along with the other girls you are fucking already.
Thanks, great info. How do you go out and about doing that elegantly or do you just plow through and ask people randomly? Mabey throw a partis and just invite strangers and newly acquainted people, to build up the circle?
Getting started is the hardest part. I would need to know about your situation to give you any solid advice, but the easiest way to meet people is through others that you know. That’s how I meet 95% of the people I know nowadays. If you tell me about yourself I can give you some suggestions on what might work (age/city/job/in college?/money situation/current connections).
I don’t like formulas or rules about socializing because I think to try to make rules about this shit completely misses the point, but I’d say the most general themes about what I do can be encapsulated in this:
- The only people worth socializing/talking with are cool/popular people
- Have a lot of purely friendship relationships with multiple groups of girls
- Always be increasing status within the popular scene in your city/town/college/…
- Like the saying “you are what you eat,” “your vibe/personality is the same as the people you’re closest with.” If you want to be cool, be friends with cool people and do the shit they do
- Be able to talk about the cool topics
- EDM (depends on where you live)
I know some people may think this is shallow, but Chris said the same shit. Everything below this paragraph will be from Chris and where I got it from…:
“Your "Coolness," plays a significant role the in QUALITY of the woman you get and your ability to retain HOT girls as fuckbuddies.”
“Swag Factor (Coolness) is
1. the level that the general population perceives you to fall within the social hierarchy; and
2. your ability to increase or reinforce your position.”
“Cool guys can make (and lead) basic conversations with hot girls on subjects that relate to the girls lives.”
“Cool guys can make (and lead) basic conversations with other guys on masculine subjects such as sports, money, girls, cars, etc.”
Thanks for the advice. Yeah okay, I am 35 years old, but I am told often that I have a young mindset and appearance (do a lot to compensate for age). I can talk about almost anything, mostly young people stuff except fun, cool experiences which I lack for now. Games, movies, music, fashion, trends, all kinds of sport, cars, fitness, pop culture etc. Being very open minded when talking to people keeps you young.
Money is pretty okay, as a salesman I earn 5000-6000 dollars a month. Right now, most of them will go to fixing this. Just moved to a bigger city 1.000.000+. Know a few from my recent job. I was fired after 3 months, did everything to keep the connections with as many coworkers as I could (age bracket between 20 – 38 years old) I think I can get about 6 of them to go to a party or event with me. I try to befriend everybody right now (strength in numbers), but I definitely cultivate relations with the cooler and younger ones more. Yeah, you are right, I don’t think one should have all that many rules either when I think about. You get a limiting mindset. This site is all about breaking that. Try things out and never give up.
I am planning on hosting a big party to invite my old coworkers, new ones, people in my apartment complex (young people), people from the street and all their friends. I plan on hosting a lot of parties, become that guy. Going out a lot as soon as this retarded covid shit is over. I understand the social value aspect and I think a lot of it comes automatically from just knowing more people, throwing parties, being seen in the scene, body, clothes, friends, girlfriends etc.
I think fear is holding me back most of all. I just need to do, but if you have any advice I welcome it.
First thing, it sounds like your starting in a much better place than me when I started so congrats. It also sounds like you are on the right path. I'm just going to tell you the same thing my mentor told me which I already said but want to emphasize. Only hang with cool people. I cannot emphasize this enough. There's a fuck ton of intangibles that come from this. Your whole vibe is shaped by the people you are around. As someone who is cool now, I will literally avoid people if their friends are clearly uncool or weird. Even if the person I am talking with otherwise seems cool I will still avoid them. Moreover, there are some people I thought were weird when I first met them, but after seeing all their friends were cool I changed my mind.
Secondly, this is another great article on becoming cool on this site. I can't find it right now, but I'll post it when I do. Essentially the crux of the article is that it's not going to happen overnight. Keep your head down and move forward and one day you'll be like damn, did I really come this far???? At first I truly did not believe I could do it. Now I know I am wrong. Completing something like this is pretty damn liberating. I really realize I can now do whatever the fuck I want.
Proof (never posted proof before but you guys shouldn't just trust me for no reason lol):
I get dms like this from girls that look like this
Thanks, I appreciate that. Yeah, don’t generally trust people on the internet without some proof, I agree. And she is definitely a beauty. What a mindfuck to go from where one starts, to be able to do this. Read through your old log. I look forward to getting there myself.
Yeah, I can agree with that advice. From a young age I have always been naturally very aware about who is the in-crowd (cool people). In my younger days I was somewhat one off them. But with time I became more and more isolated, and fell out. It actually bothered me a lot, how some of my later friends was/is rather oblivious to this. People I will probably spend less and less time with. Nothing against them.
I was actually planning on going in the other direction with that for a while until my social circle becomes a lot bigger. But now I don’t think I will. Still focus on quantity, but now also quality.
If I understand correctly from your advice, you focus on the quality of friends more than the one person. Makes sense, as he/she will soon become like them, good or bad. Also, it doesn’t give you the ability to expand your social circle (and everything that it, brings with it) beyond that one person, if the friends are low quality.
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