TOPIC: arrogant chicks at gym

facekillah wrote: I'm giving you my perceptive. Some people, like me, really don't like to talk to people while they are the gym. That it!! Yes i'm anti-social when i'm in the gym cause i'm not there to social with every one it not a club!! If you were a hot chick and being friendly with every one, imagine what will happen!! Gym is for training. Sorry guys but in my mind it very weird to try to pick up chick at the gym!! Don't eat where you shit!! Advise stop trying pick up chick at the gym and focus on your training. If the girl come talk to you or give you super big smile maybe!!

You are crazy.. i dont go randomly to people and talk nonsense , i just liked the girl and approached to see if im in or out and thats it.
And if i like a girl in gym, why not approach her... who cares really, gym can be the best place to approach chicks actually in big cities and if you look good.
Now you sound like a feminist chick.

Terminator wrote: That's just how uncool chicks act when they're not interested in someone. They're trying to make you react, and the fact that you got mad just means they succeeded in their little games.

And that's just two girls you're talking about? You really shouldn't mind. I have to deal with that on a daily basis so I stopped caring a long time ago.

This. Pretty sure Chris has an article somewhere about it. Emotionally healthy girls won't react that way unless they are having a bad day and assuming you aren't interrupting them mid workout and breaking their focus (I get super annoyed when I'm in the zone and moving between sets quickly and a stranger or friend wants to have a conversation) or otherwise being a complete prick, you probably just ran into her on an off day or she is a sociopath. If you really really want to know which one it is, try talking to her again on another day.

Like others have said, the fact your getting upset about this is your problem and no one else's. But i understand where your coming from, its incredibly annoying when girls display this kind of attitude.

They look and you think " wow... this guys actually trying to talk to ME?? Doesnt he know he has no chance with me?? "

I think the best thing you can do is just be friendly with other people when the girls are around.

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I noticed two girls working out one day. I didn't approach because they looked too young - like they were in high school.

During my workout I happened to be in an exercise room when they entered. That particular room has some large exercise balls, mats, cables and a few other odds and ends. One of the girls picked up a ball and I overheard her telling her friend, "I love big balls. They're very effective." That snapped my head around.

It took only a second to determine it was a completely innocent statement.

"Too young," I said to myself. "Way, way too young."

I always stare at asses at the gym. I don't give a shit what people think. Besides, I know that if a chick is into me she will like the fact that I'm staring. Couple of times I'll even make a point of saying something like "nice pants" or "you've got a nice body" to chicks. They usually love it.

It's totally normal to socialize at the gym - it's like any other hobby. Sometimes I don't want to talk when I'm in between supersets, but generally I force myself to not be annoyed if someone interrupts me. I don't think it's healthy to get pissed off if someone wants to talk to ya.

But yeah, I've found that approaching seldom yields results at least on my campus gym. Some more hardcore gyms seem to have cooler chicks who make eye contact on their own initiative and say hello even though they don't know me.

This is common stuff.

Girls at the gym are there to work out and get stared at. This is simply a zone/state of mind girls go into to deter any hard dicks from hitting on her. She not gonna check out every dude with muscles because there's a shitload of them in there.

Let's face 10% of males at the gym are relativily cool. Most are chumps with little social success/awarness. The only people that meet and date at the gym were in like a crossfit class together. Your not gonna pick up some chick at the dumbell rack unless you really look fucking good or get some strong interest from her.

I have some girls really give me the looks in the cross fit room where I squat/deadlift and there are less people around. But they're all with their boyfriends, and obviously not happy with what there stuck with.

Back to my original idea I saw a girl I recognized at the gym , she was a bartender. After seeing me out at night and having cool people/girls around me. She starred at me with puppy dogs eyes the next weeks at the gym, previously not looking at me.

The best way to get hot girls at the gym is in your style and aesthetics. Not to mention taking weightlifting classes(gay, but there is girls).

Style plays a big roll at the gym. U Don't wanna wear a tank top or some gay colors or leggings, looking like a fucking chump. I wear black expensive shorts and jacket and keep a lean aesthetic physique girls will quickly know where u stand in relation to all the yuppies around you.

If u want a hot fitness girl. You gotta be what normal hot girls want and shredded. Join a class/excersises class that there will be hot girls in. Have a good physique in the top 95% of guys natural. Have cool dark athletic clothing and smell good and look good. The girls in the class will be bending over backwards for you/competing for you.

Achill3 wrote: This is common stuff.

Girls at the gym are there to work out and get stared at. This is simply a zone/state of mind girls go into to deter any hard dicks from hitting on her. She not gonna check out every dude with muscles because there's a shitload of them in there.

Let's face 10% of males at the gym are relativily cool. Most are chumps with little social success/awarness. The only people that meet and date at the gym were in like a crossfit class together. Your not gonna pick up some chick at the dumbell rack unless you really look fucking good or get some strong interest from her.

This is wrong.

It's the same as any other location. I fucked the same percentage of girls from the gym as from the grocery store, and I'm not in excellent shape or having exemplary style. Part of what he's saying is true: max out your looks and style for best results. However, otherwise, your results will be the same as they are at any other location.

EDIT: This is actually a really teachable moment...

Approaches are NOT location-dependent. I used to think, for example, that it was way harder to pick up girls at the mall. It turns out this is just because I had a long bad streak at malls. Then, of course, I got laid a few times from the mall and realized it didn't matter.

Sexual availability isn't dependent on location. Hitting on girls at the gym will yield the same results as anywhere else. Looks/style/social freedom always apply, but there isn't any special "gym game" or different standards you need to meet. I paid very close attention to this issue over the last few years and this is the conclusion I've drawn from my results.

Two of the hottest girls I've ever fucked were from the gym, including the first hookup I ever got post-GLL.

Both either fucked or sucked me on the first date and all I did was hit on them. I also hit on all the hot gym staff and got their numbers though none of them replied to me (they're entitled cunts though no fucks given).

Not every girl at the gym is a cunt and not every girl at the library is a sweetheart. There are a ton of shitty human beings out there but the best thing you can do is ignore them and not let their energy effect you otherwise the cycle of cunt will continue through you

@BIB @rapitup

Were you guys "direct" with these chicks? E.g. you're cute bla bla

Or more subtle?

I'm kind of wary of "shitting where I eat" and having things become awkward at a place I go to every day or at worst, blacklisted, etc.

whiteknightrises wrote: @BIB @rapitup

Were you guys "direct" with these chicks? E.g. you're cute bla bla

Or more subtle?

I'm kind of wary of "shitting where I eat" and having things become awkward at a place I go to every day or at worst, blacklisted, etc.

100% direct, calling them cute.

I don't think I've ever done an indirect approach before.

OP:

Sounds like you are burning yourself getting mad about things that are out of your control.

You can be nice to people, and want/go after things.. but no one owes you anything. If those girls aren't chill or down then that's not something you should let affect you - and especially not to the point you get mad about it.

That's letting someone else's shit get in your zone. Not worth it.

A lot of girls will have attitudes, and no matter what, a lot of their attitudes are just defense mechanisms and all in all childish bullshit. You getting brought to a place out of your element by their attitude.. is childish on your part.

Do your thing, continue to improve yourself, keep going out there and focus on not getting affected by outcomes.