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Just wanted to say a quick thanks and ask for your help! Your sites been great and taught me a lot about lifting, PE, girls, etc. I didn't know if this is the best way to contact you and Ill put my question in the forum to try and make it easier for you to answer if at all possible.
So Ill just tell you a little bit about myself so that you can understand my predicament. Im 18 years old and just graduated high school. I do fairly well with girls (nominated for class flirt) but didn't win . I was a 3 sport athlete in high school and won the most athletic superlative. I'm somewhat good looking more just in good shape from lifting and get girls playing the cocky asshole part.
A while ago I was with a girl I had been dating and we were about to have sex for the first time together (wasn't a virgin at this point) and Im completely hard but start to go soft when I go to put the condom on. Then as Im inside her (she's on top) I make an excuse saying I put the condom on wrong and ask to "raw dog" she got pissed and we didn't have sex. We broke up a couple weeks later and I never got the chance to redeem myself. Since then I had sex with 2 other girls, cute but definitely less attractive, and I had a similar problem but didn't really give a shit and just made them sit there while I jerked off till I got hard claiming I was high or drunk. Then, the other night I had a girl who I was taking to prom sleep over. I wasn't feeling well so I wasn't surprised when I didn't get that hard. Then the next morning i was fine and woke up really hard. Convinced her into getting in the mood and as I am about to put it in she tells me to get a condom. I do but I start to go soft. It ended up being okay but I took the girl to prom, (she won prom queen, just so you know she's very hot). After she's all over me on our way to after prom. I'm really into this girl and every time she touched me or so much as looked at me I got hard. Then were haning in our room and I'm ready to go but I know were going to leave to chill with our friends so it wasn't gonna happen yet. Then she wants to just stay in and I started getting nervous and went soft. I just convinced her we should hang with everyone for a while before we go to bed. We ended up getting stuck on a couch so we could nt have sex. We just made out and did some other foreplay and of course I'm hard the whole time. Next day, were hangin, its mid afternoon around 4 and I get her in the room knowing nothing was going to happen and of course she so much as touches me and I get wood. Then she gets really excited and gets up and locks the door. We start getting into it and I'm getting a little softer but start to get hard again. I tell her to grab my wallet and I start join soft again as i go for the condom. I just told her thats its never happened before and I really liked her and had some weird nervous thing. She was flattered and said "we have all night".
Later that night she was mad cuz she was jealous about another girl there that I had slept with a long time ago. We a started talking and getting into things and long story short after having anxiety all day cuz of my broken cock I start getting hard have this girl butt naked and willing to let me stick it in raw but I wasn't that hard. We kept talking and turns out she likes me and I like her and neither of us are the relationship type by any stretch (she's not a slut, just wanted to add lol) and I kinda get her convinced that even tho were leaving for school and stuff we should date.
Anyway Ive fucked up with girls and its taught me a lot and made me learn how to get it right but I can't imagine Im gonna get so many more chances, to be honest Im shocked Im getting any.
I wanted to know if theres any way you could help. I clearly don't have ED of any kind and I think this is all psychological but I would greatly appreciate if there was any way you could help at all. I started taking l arginine and pycnogenol as well as l citruline and horny goat weed for boosted erection strength. Ive been doing kegels and I do some stretches and bath mate, but when I bath mate my dick just gets sore and I feel like I have to way a couple days to use it. I honestly don't think I need to do any of those things because I think I have a healthy penis but somethings wrong and I just wanted to list all that so you knew. Anyway the whole prom thing happened yesterday so I don't know how those pills are affecting me yet that much.
Sorry for the really long email but Im going a little crazy here and I know if anyone could help it would be you and the guys at GLL, Ill put this in the forum too. By the way if you did some sort of response video or anything where others would see Id greatly appreciate if you didn't use my name. Please help if you can it would be hugely appreciated!
I had this problem and still have to a certain extent. What has helped me is:
*quitting porn (this one is huge)
*Experience. As you said its all in your head. The more sex you have the more confident you will be. I dont think for a second that you can meditate or something like that to solve this problem; you just need experience with hooking up and being in bed with a lot of women. Finding a fuckbuddy that you can practise on is a good solution.
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