TOPIC: Skyfire’s journey to success

So I am hanging out with Blonde again tomorrow, initially the plan was to go to the beach but the weather is shit and she said she just wants to chill so I suggested just hanging out in my car, I think she'd appreaciate it if we hang out and I don't try and have sex with her so I'm just gonna try and be chill.

Her Birthday was yesterday and I told her that I got her something and she told me that I didn't have to and that she'd be happy enough just to hang out with me but idk I wanted to. Decided against the flowers and just bought her some paints and a paintbrush. Am trynna not go overboard and not look too keen so I think the paints are enough cause she said she wanted to learn how to paint with me but they are nice paints so idk. Don't usually by presents for girls so am pretty unsure of myself. Just gonna try and not overthink it.

In other news I am moving out next Tuesday with my mates to the nearest city, well my country's Capital. Am really looking forward to it. It's also the last day of my workshop job today and the last weekend of my delivery job so am looking forward to being able to draw a lot again.

Interestingly I've not actually watched porn in 2 months, and I don't really miss it. Considering giving it up entireltly. Feel like it makes me lose interest in real girls when I watch it.

Also decided to go and resolve a sexual issue I've had for some time, basically I have something called Delayed Ejaculation (DE) which means I really struggle to cum during sex, at least initially. It usually happens regularly after I've seen someone for like 4 months so I know it's psychological but I want to see if there's therapy or medication I can get for it cause it does sometimes make girls real insecure when I don't cum. If any of you guys have this but have managed to resolve it I would appreaciate it cause it is annoying. Anyways that's bout everything for the last couple of days.

Luke

I normally don't update my log so early on but I just need somewhere to vent, basically Blonde flaked on my yesterday but for seemingly legitimate reasons. Her friends did a like a bday surprise thing for her, so they went out. Of course I don't really mind this but when I told her that's okay we can hang out another time she then took like 24 hours to respond so I'm just like who the fuck doesn't look at their phone in 24 hours??? The answer is no one of course. So this leaves me with 2 thoughts

a) She's playing games
b) she isn't that into me

Both of those aren't really great, texted my female friend about it and she said I shouldn't put up with it. Well she sort of warned me I guess,

But honestly now that she's sort of gone and done that she's sort of ended my infatuation with her I guess? Like I've just got a bad gut feeling and feel like deleting her number. But might sleep on it and see how I feel in the morn. If she takes another 24 hours to respond then she's gone. Glad I didn't buy her flowers hahaha

Luke

Okay another log update, just gotta vent. Blonde actually didn't reply to me for another 24 hours after I messaged her. I would say I was getting obsessive thoughts and that my inaecuirity started kicking in so I actually blocked her number and her social media accounts. I understand tbat is may be immatute of me. But I did it for my own peace of mind.

Anyways I actually managed to recover her number and the files on my phone and recovered the block messages. Turnee out she texted me an hour after I blocked her telling me that even though "I'm a lovely, great guy" that the distance between us (because I'm moving) is going to be difficult but she said she really enjoyed the time we spent together.

Obviously I texted her back telling her I apologize for blocking her and that I like her but I completeky understand her decision. And that I wish her all the best but I'm not really exoecting a reply.

I think what this experience has made ne realize ie that I have some issues and that I may need therapy to helo me resolve my attachment and trust as well as intimacy issues. My behaviour seems to be a reocuring pattern in my relationships ans something I need to resolve before I enter a serious relationship. Anyways hope that I haven't come across as too much of an insecure bitch in this post. Just something I need to work on.

Luke

Been posting a lot lately, mainly to vent about Blonde but things are definitely over between me and her now. She's replied a few times basically telling me the same thing that she thinks I'm attractive and that she'd love to spend more time with but the distance is a dealbreaker. Fair enough. Told her that if she texted me in the future I wouldn't ignore her and she said she isn't sure if she's making the right decision but I basically ended the conversation.

Anyways as I stated earlier in my log, if things didn't work out between me and her I was gonna start doing cold approaches in the new city I'm living in. Unsure where to start... I used to approach hot girls when I was a promoter but I didn't really hit on them? I mean I banged 1 girl who came up to me and showed me her nudes and went on a date with a girl who was legit crazy and was negging me so I asked her if this is why all her relationships had failed lmao but yeah this was just from standing out in the street and shit.

So to sum up what I'm saying, I think I could approsch a really hot girl and ask her for her number but I think I"d be a little nervous so I'm nor sure if I should do the approach anxiety program?

I feel like I'm done with online dating too, I've pretty much relied on it exclusively because I live in a real small town of about 30,000 people. But the girls I meet on Tinder always seem to dissappoint me. A lot of them have had issues and are not really relationship material.

I've met up with 16 girls in total from Tinder, banged 13 of them. And one I wouldn't bang cause I had taken LSD the week prior and refused to bang without a condom. Probably a good decision anyways.

My goal is to approach 2 girls a day and try and get their numbers. I've already uninstalled Tinder off my phone and no longer want to rely on it to meet girls

Will be moving into my new place on Tuesday. So will start on Wednesday. Will let you guys kbow how it goes

Is the city you're moving to larger than your small town of 30k? If so, what's the population there?

Declare how many days you'll try to approach before you'll do the AA program. Or you can spin your wheels for 6 months and eventually pull through like Andy and some other guys did. As long as you don't quit, anything is possible.

I just Googled the population now, it's like 335,000 so like a small city but it's the biggest in my country so that's the best I'm gonna get.

I think I'd give it 2 weeks of attempting to approach, so 14 days. If I find I'm struggling then I'll do the approach anxiety program 2 weeks after I move in.

My approach is going to be what Chris calls basic guy game? So my plan is to go up to a cute girl and be like "Hey I know you don't know me but I thought you were attractive so I wanted to say Hi". Not sure if I could do proper screening in real life till I get a bit more experienced. But yeah that's my plan at this point. Will post pics od what I look like ao you guys can give me feedback on style etc.

Luke

Dope! I'm excited for you. Will definitely follow your attempt. And keep you accountable
Good of you to post pics.

If it's your country's biggest city there must be colleges (unis) there ya? That should be big enough. Definitely big enough for the AA program.

By the way, when I first found GLL I tried approaching on my own for 6 months and did 7 approaches before I finally did the AA program. So kudos to you if you do the AA program after two weeks. I'll be super happy for you too if you're a natural just don't feel bad if it's harder than you think.

Okay am all moved in, everything has gone smoothly and there have been no problems. So I am officially living independently with my own place which is a hige milestone for me in terms of getting laid because living at my parents house just made things awkward.

Also quit both my jobs and won't be looking for a new one for 2 weeks. I basically have a month till art school starts again so this gives me plenty of time to practice drawing and approaching.

Gonna try and do my first cold approach tomorrow in the city center. I think I might like get food or something and chill on a bench until someone cute walks past. I am hella nervous. Thoughts creeping into my head like "what if she thinks you're a weirdo?" Of course my rational mind is just like so what. Even if she's mean I can always walk off.

Amyways I've actually talked to my mates about cold approwching and none of then have ever done it. It doesn't suprise me that most guys struggle to find girls outside their social circles. In this day and age cold approaching and actually meeting a girl through approaching is slightly unusual but I think that a lot of girls will respect your confidence as long as they're not creeped out.

Okay so I shagged the girl I shagged in her car again. This time in her own bed (obviously before I moved) but she said that she's be willing to drive to see me which is good. She's overweight but she has a really pretty face and a nice personality. After the first time I saw her I said fuck and chuck to her and laughed, she looked a bit offended bout it, and she said she told her nan about it? Hahaha

Anyways it was the first time I actually used sex toys tbf, interestimg experience used a vibrator a butt plug, handcuffs and like a 10 inch dildo on her haha. Not really insecure the 10 jnch dildo or anything, it's obviously bigger than my own dick but tbh I wanted to see if it affected her anymore than my own. The answer is I don't know? Didn't see much of a difference in how she reacted. She said she told her mates that my dick is "massive" anyways so yeah little bit of an egostroke I guess.

Also, I'vs been looking into "game" a little bit, like I don't really use game of any sort on girls I sort of just hsng out with them and bang them. But during my research I realised that Blonde had actually been using game on me, it's called tne push/pull method or cst string theory

Like she'd be like texting me normally at ome point and then lile not text me fir 12-18 hours, apparently it's a trick that can make people obsessed with you and I cam recognize myself that I was having obsessivse thoughts about her. It's interesting. Lile Chris doesn't really discuss it on his site and suggests to just screen which I really quite like cause you find girls who are DTF but I can't deny that there are some other workings going on that I've not really considered, it's peobanky helpful to be aware of these sort of mind ganmes anyway.

Luke

Okay no approaches today cause have been hanging out with my mates. Obviousky told them I'm planning on doing some approaching and they're being supportive about it. Saw this fit girl in leggings and pink top today and my mates were like there's your chance but she was passing us on the street. Just wanted some feedbscl from you guys first on style etc. I don't have a full length mirror in my room so these are the best I can do for now. (These are obviously not my tinder pics). Beard is a bit messy and needs a trim + I haven't combed it or anything so am aware this needs to be improved.

Dunno man, you're not giving a whole to work with.

You've a very decent face and you're missing out by not trimming that beard. It had insane volume by the looks of it you could literally give yourself a chisselled jaw.

If your wearing joggers with those tops then your style is chav, not much else to say. The black jacket is alright I guess, but not so much with the cap. How's your hair?