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You're right. Only one goal. It will be business then. I need to make good use of the excess of time I have right now. I need to make money so I can buy myself time in the future. Money in a way makes you live longer (if you use it right). After I achieve finantial freedom, I'll have plenty of time and freedom of location to pursue my sex goals.
I'll still push myself to talk to girls whenever I have the chance.
I will take this month to quit zoloft, gradually reducing the dosis. I realized I'm not in the right state of mind to take such a big decision (starting a business)in my life. Meanwhile, I will keep my discipline and daily habits. They keep me healthy and happy.
Work for my mother: 3h
Reading about art: 1h
Reading fastlane forum: 1h
Approached 1 girl. 0 numbers. I set myself to approach 10 girls but I failed. I put myself all kinds of excuses. Honestly I felt that after so many approaches with nothing to show I felt let down. But I shiuldnt. The only reason to feel let down is with my performance. I put myself all kind of shitty excuses like 'I don't have the stamina' etc. I should SWEAR to myself that I will approach x number of girls and not give up NO MATTER IF I GET PHONE NUMBERS OR NOT. But I will persist.
Gabo wrote: I need to make money so I can buy myself time in the future. Money in a way makes you live longer (if you use it right). After I achieve finantial freedom, I'll have plenty of time and freedom of location to pursue my sex goals.
Not saying it's the only way, but definitely the easiest way to make money and improve your quality of life is moving to a first world country, maybe you want to consider it if you haven't already.
I think I have more success approaching when I tell myself I just have to do one approach as opposed to "I must do X number of approaches".
I tell myself "I'll just do one, that's easy". Once I've done one, I tell myself "That was easy, you can do one more". And you just keep repeating this.
I've done multiple 10+ approach days with this method. I find it a lot easier than when I set out and tell myself I have to do 10. The task seems a lot more daunting, and my mind puts up a lot more resistance to even starting.
Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die.
I agree with Homes about setting a low bar. Useful for productivity beyond approaching.
For me tho, setting the bar at "1 approach" I'd very often consider my approaching day over after that one done. One is definitely better than zero but having a level 1 goal of "1 approach" and level 2 of "3 approaches" was one thing that helped me.
There's isn't a whole lot i can add but I've found the first and second approach to be the hardest and the 6 th one is super easy. Also remembering that the majority of it outs out of your control so long as fundamentals are in check. It's easy to say do 20 and do 3 and get discouraged even though 3 is good
Till the end of 2020
Work around lockdown and bang my apt neighbor
get a sales job either locally or out of state in Texas
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@Jake I was thinking about that, specially since my country seems to be turning into a shithole (like all Latin American countries). But is there any realistic way to do that?
At the same time, I don't want to fall into a 'grass is always greener on the other side' kind of trap.
Regarding the approaches, I guess there is no shortcut, no trick of the mind and you gotta just do it and never give up.
Gabo wrote: @Jake I was thinking about that, specially since my country seems to be turning into a shithole (like all Latin American countries).
I feel you man.
Gabo wrote: But is there any realistic way to do that?
I'd suggest you compile a list of the countries you'd be "happy" moving to and then find out the legal requirements for getting a work visa for those countries.
You will need a work visa no matter what, but depending on the country you might get there as a tourist or as a student and change your visa while in the country, but many countries don't allow this so do your research.
Gabo wrote: At the same time, I don't want to fall into a 'grass is always greener on the other side' kind of trap.
Most of the time when something sounds too good to be true, it is too good to be true. But in this case, it really is true.
Shit, I know nordic people who get paid 1000USD just to go to school, sure nordics pay high taxes but even after taxes a minimum wage salary there is at least 3 times higher than in any South American country and they have free education, universal health coverage, etc.
Went to bar and did small talk with employees
Went to bar, bumped into two people and talked to them
Did some research about art, marketing, how people make money on patreon, how they build a following on sites like tumblr, etc.
I realized that I don't care that much if I'm getting laid or not. If I feel horny I can redirect that energy to more productive things. If I feel so horny that I can't concentrate I can jerk off and the desire lessens. But I do care about being able to talk to girls. It's a personal battle, no matter the end result.
Improving my social life in general, on the other hand, does seem beneficial, it improves my mood and keeps depression in check.
@1v1mekid yep. Have been doing 1 year. Honestly I don't recommend it. I'm not quitting cold turkey, I'm gradually reducing the dose.
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