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Hung out with friends
Hung out with friend
Tried to hang out with date from cold approach but she said she was busy. Will try again this weekend.
I'm getting shit done but I feel like I still waste a ton of time and I'm procrastinating putting myself out there with art.
Cut is going well. In 1 month I will be~10%bf
I tried avoid doing cold approach but it doesn't work. I find myself wanting to talk to random girls all the time and if I don't do it I feel like a goddamn pussy. I always come to the same conclusion, if I want to get a job I have to be rejected, if I want to do sales I have to get rejected. Rejection is part of life. It sucks but avoiding it doesn't solve the problem. If I want to get a cool social circle I still have to get rejected, probably.
I look good enough. I don't, and probably won't, look like a Greek god, I'm not tall, I don't have a squared jawline no matter how chiseled my face gets. I still look above average. I need to accept that and move forward.
I must also accept that for whatever reason, it is harder to get laid from cold approach where I live, probably for factors like safety. I have also observed that when doing AA drills. I get like 1 number out of 20 approaches. Instead of taking it personal, I accept that those are the rules of the game. Pussy is in high demand and penis isn't, simple as that. And just move forward anyway.
It doesn't matter what everyone else is doing. I just have to focus on doing my thing instead of comparing myself with everyone else.
Work for my mother: 2h (spreadsheets and shit)
I tried to cold approach but just wasn't feeling it. I know that if I force myself I can do it. I don't have to prove anything, as I have already done it. But when I am about to approach a girl the chances are so freaking low that I ask myself why do I even bother.
Hung oit with friend
Did 2 approaches
One step closer to beat approach anxiety. As Long as it takes. Didnt feel a sense of worthlessness and unatractiveness, nor moral guilt, but more of an underlying doubt towards the meaning and productivity of cold approach, mixed with a slight disdain towards society, anger towards myself for wasting chances (and time) and massive sexual frustration.
Went out to bar
My mind wandered into existential shit again.
The thing is, talking to girls outside of your social circle is artificial. Up until a very recent point in history we lived in small tribes, and not in over populated cities.
I can see how framing things in a different way can help with approach anxiety, but the results will be pretty much the same. Still, I think it is a valuable skill to have and at some point in life you have to withstand things not going your way.
But I shouldn't think too much, I get lost in meaningless thought pretty easily.
@Gabo, the thing to consider is that in cities like your college town and my town, they suck for trying to meet people through straight cold approach. It's shit...there aren't many hot girls, lots of people marry young, everyone knows each other. Consider that in big cities, there's a shit ton of people moving to there. To move away from home to a big city, you have to be somewhat brave/adventurous to begin with. Add to that that there's tons of new girls without social circles and without anyone to give them the D. Then lo and behold, Gabo comes up to one of these girls at the grocery store. I'm not saying that it's impossible to get laid from cold approach in smaller, yet sizable, towns, but it's a hell of a lot harder to rack up the numbers.
Approached 3 girls. 0 numbers
The first one was a beautiful blonde. Good reaction, she smiled a lot. But dodnt want to give me her number.
After some thinking I decided to keep approaching. I need to put my ego aside and stop making excuses. I think that social circle will emerge naturally as a side effect of gaming.
My logistics and money situation suck for going to clubs, for now. But I will start going to bars more often (without consuming anything), as a complement to daygame, which will be hard at first. But I have hope that after a while, the status thing will happen and things will get easier. I dont have a killer style, as all my clothes are from no name brands or zara, and I don't have the tattoo that I want. But it is above average, and I'm two weeks away from being 10% bodyfat, so looks are on point.
I've been reading no excuses by brian tracy. Really recomend that book. No more excuses.
@1v1mekid yeah, it is hard to rack up the numbers here. But I have to work with what I have for now. It's one of the reasons why changing my financial situation is my no.1 priority.
Damn bro, it know how you feel. I get that way too and feel like quitting too. I don't mind approaching and getting rejected in person, what is the most demoralizing is when you start getting numbers and they don't reply or flake on you.
Ditto with the finances thing. I'll stick to one girl a day or 7 a week, and most of my time spent studying, at the gym, looking for jobs and some additional side objectives.
Yep, I feel like it is good for mental health reasons too. I mean, there is a stage where you want to go all in with girls, but it is not really sustainable.
Today I had an experience where I stood my ground. Approach one girl at the bus. Girl is seemingly creeped out. Drunk guy (during the day, and obviously bottom tier economically) jumps and says some shit to me. I smiled and looked at him in the eyes. Of course he didnt have the courage to do anything.
At these kind of occassions I wish I was still doing muay thai (stopped doing it since i got my nose pierced, and due to my fault, the hole hasnt healed yet).
Of course I felt some negative emotion afterward, but I want to be able to bypass my feelings and just do the drill.
Tbh I got into my head and let some chances slip by after that. Guess that tomorrow will be another day.
Talked to one girl.
I decided to go for the money for the next 2 years, at least. That, means, following an unsexy business plan instead of passion project. There's a couple of reasons for that:
-Financial independence I can't keep living at home, it's time to become a man. In addition to that, I want to be a more practical person and less of a dreamer. Not having money has impacted me negatively in the social area, as I can't buy quality clothes, pay for boosts on tinder, have the freedom of chosing a place with good logistics, or even go out often.
-I can do passion stuff later it's not like I will lose all my gains. In fact, it may be better to do art without financial pressure. Several people that live off their art had told me or I assume that doing art for money eventually burns them out.
-I don't want to be a single dimensional person. As much as I enjoy art, it's not the only thing I like to do (I love music too, for example). In fact, I think we put stuff too much in a box, and being creative doesn't have to be limited at what is traditionally considered artistic. One can be creative in business. Even if the premise is ugly, I think I can fall in love with the process, I love creating systems, optimizing them and watch them grow.
-The financial situation in my country is increasingly worse. Can't afford the luxurt of being broke. My parents are getting old and I want to be able to help them in the future. There is an obvious change in the economic relationships of power in the world, and I want to be ahead of the curve.
Regarding girls, I will go back focusing on networking/social circle, and as soon as I have money to take a photoshoot and pay for boosts, go hard with online dating. I don't have anything against cold approach but I'm not married with any method, I only care about results. The fact is that cold approach, like cold sales, has a poor return of investment. I'm not lazy, I'm conscious of my limited energy and try to allocate it as efficiently as possible.
Instead of fighting against reality, I choose to let go of my ego and adapt. In fact, I believe that doing things 'the hard way' is a form of action faking. It's fear of success. You want to do things the hard way so you get disappointed and have an excuse to quit. I'm gonna changr that aspect of myself.
You can pursue a creative career in a couple of years as well, no doubt. You are still very young.
As said, van Gogh started painting with 27 (and then went hardcore with it).
You tried to figure in your log this common trope in the self improvement community - "work smarter, not harder". We all know this phrase sounds deep, but is essentially worthless unless you have a ton of experience in a particular area.
My point of view is - it is not so much about how hard you work, it is about how replaceable you are.
I am not working very hard in my job to be honest (of course I worked hard to become an engineer 15 years ago).
But I have specific knowledge in my job (vehicle electronics) that is almost unavailable on the job market. So I don't have to hustle all the time, which is cool because I never work over-time and can pursue creative projects or chase woman.
I know everyone despises 9-5 in a self-improvement community. You are almost a failure when you work 9-5. The cool-factor is with the entrepreneur or the artist, not with an indoor office inhabitant.
But there is a grey area of course. Engineering 9-5 can be cool at times. Everything is a compromise. I get a fat paycheck, and have time for all my private projects as well. What more can you ask for?
And the social circle project sounds fine for me. Everybody does Tinder these days, so why don't use a method which is tried and tested for thousands of years.
Created biz account on google and facebook. Tried to create one on yelp but run into problems. Did some research about business in general (and how to make money reselling stuff) and cleaning business in particular.
Girls: Went to a bar and held 5 minute conversation with female bartender.
Faggoted out on the approaches. I have to get back into the groove again
I got 8.4 rating for a shitty selfie on photofeeler. No more excuses for being a faggot.
@Cilindric Agree. In the business telegram group there are a couple of guys that told us the same, corporate game can be easy if you are good. If you do deep work you can meet your goals faster and better than your coworkers, cause they waste time fucking around talking politics being inefficient, etc. Then you can have free time to pursue personal projects.
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