TOPIC: Follow Your Passion

Yay or nay?

Is this even real? Or just some gimmick self help gurus use to scam desperate people out of their money?

How do you figure out what your "passion" is?

What do you do if you don't have a "passion"?

Is making a good income something that should be approached with a pragmatic "gtind it out even if it suck" mindset? Or a "do what you love and eventually you'll get there" mindset?

What if you don't have a passion AND you lack grinding work ethic? Is there still a way to succeed or are you doomed?

I can recommend this article regarding that subject-matter:

www.gll-getalife.com/get-paid/namastain-...s-who-are-struggling

In my opinion, everybody knows deep down inside what they really want to do with their lives, but it's hard for them to admit it to themselves for two simple reasons:

1) They're afraid to admit it to themselves because then they would actually have to start chasing after it. If you can lie to yourself about not knowing what you want to do, then it's a convenient excuse for why you're not going after it, or working hard in general.

2) They're afraid that if they admit it to people and people notice, their friends, family, acquaintances, etc, will make fun of them, which they will. People will laugh at you, and scoff at your goals as if they're pathetic, delusional, and unrealistic.

In fact, just the other day a girl DM'd me on IG and made fun of me because I was proud of the fact I made $20US on Amazon Affiliate for the first time in one day and shared it on IG.

Your question is kind of annoying to me - (nothing personal man) - because, to me, it's so obvious that chasing after what you really want is the best course of action.

You just have to stop being a pussy, admit to yourself what you want, and start going after it. Once you're finally on your path, you won't even care what other people think because you'll derive so much self-esteem and pride from being on your mission.

I wished I would've come to terms with what I wanted years ago. Now that I'm finally on my path, I wish I would've started working on it when I was 21, rather than 26. But I'm thankful I even started in my twenties. Many people start in their thirties, or even worse, not at all, and then they live a shitty life of regret, wondering what could've been.

Don't be one of these people.

Sit down at your computer with Word or Notepad open and write down all of the things that you love doing, and the things you daydream about doing when no one is judging you.

Most people want to do something creative. Becoming a musician is probably the most common. It's mostly just a matter of combatting the Law of Attrition. You just have to keep working on your goals long after everyone else gave up.

There's a million things I could say about this topic. But I recall you posting about psychosis.

You need to have your priorities in order. If you have mental health issues, it's very likely that you won't be able to implement all of this self improvement stuff. How do I know? I struggled with depression and social anxiety during my teens. I repeat, if you don't take care of your mental health NOTHING IS GONNA WORK. If you have weird nihilistic thoughts you won't be able to put in the hours or effort into anything. It's not lack of work ethic, it's that you think way too much and most people don't.

The irony is that being 'weird' is one of the reasons I found this valuable information. But you need to be normal first in order to be above average. I seriously encourage you to work with a therapist and focus on getting a solid network of friends that support you. That's what worked for me anyway.

Rousseau wrote: In my opinion, everybody knows deep down inside what they really want to do with their lives, but it's hard for them to admit it to themselves for two simple reasons:

1) They're afraid to admit it to themselves because then they would actually have to start chasing after it. If you can lie to yourself about not knowing what you want to do, then it's a convenient excuse for why you're not going after it, or working hard in general.

2) They're afraid that if they admit it to people and people notice, their friends, family, acquaintances, etc, will make fun of them, which they will. People will laugh at you, and scoff at your goals as if they're pathetic, delusional, and unrealistic.

In fact, just the other day a girl DM'd me on IG and made fun of me because I was proud of the fact I made $20US on Amazon Affiliate for the first time in one day and shared it on IG.

Your question is kind of annoying to me - (nothing personal man) - because, to me, it's so obvious that chasing after what you really want is the best course of action.

You just have to stop being a pussy, admit to yourself what you want, and start going after it. Once you're finally on your path, you won't even care what other people think because you'll derive so much self-esteem and pride from being on your mission.

I wished I would've come to terms with what I wanted years ago. Now that I'm finally on my path, I wish I would've started working on it when I was 21, rather than 26. But I'm thankful I even started in my twenties. Many people start in their thirties, or even worse, not at all, and then they live a shitty life of regret, wondering what could've been.

Don't be one of these people.

Sit down at your computer with Word or Notepad open and write down all of the things that you love doing, and the things you daydream about doing when no one is judging you.

Most people want to do something creative. Becoming a musician is probably the most common. It's mostly just a matter of combatting the Law of Attrition. You just have to keep working on your goals long after everyone else gave up.

This is a great reply Rousseau. Thank you.

Well I'm 32, this is a question that has bugged me for a long time. Since 25 or so.

What was the process YOU used to discover what you were supposed to be doing? Was it the one outlined above?

Were there any signs that told you that you were on the right path or at the least getting closer to finding it?

There is no one "passion" - that's the stupidest thing people try and sell you. Chris talks about "life is best lived in phases".

I call it Life is a Process of Trying on Different Hats .

You have to try a bunch of shit to figure out what you like. How the FUCK can you be expected to just somehow "know" what your passion is when you haven't experimented and tested out a few different hobbies/careers/goals?

It might take you years of experimenting to find out what you truly love. And if you're like me/Bad Idea Bear/Chris/everyone else I've ever met, what you're passionate about now, won't be what you're passionate about in 5 years. People change, your goals change, your passion changes.

Agree with Andy, don't get too fixated into one thing, keep an open mind. You can LEARN to be passionate about anything if you go deeply enough. Your personality is malleable. Just as there is no 'real you' there isn't a "true" passion that you are supposed to follow. But you gotta go out there and try a bunch of stuff.

KillTheInnerLoser wrote: There is no one "passion" - that's the stupidest thing people try and sell you. Chris talks about "life is best lived in phases".

I call it Life is a Process of Trying on Different Hats .

You have to try a bunch of shit to figure out what you like. How the FUCK can you be expected to just somehow "know" what your passion is when you haven't experimented and tested out a few different hobbies/careers/goals?

It might take you years of experimenting to find out what you truly love. And if you're like me/Bad Idea Bear/Chris/everyone else I've ever met, what you're passionate about now, won't be what you're passionate about in 5 years. People change, your goals change, your passion changes.

This makes sense. However, if your passions change, how are you ever supposed to get good at anything?

Doesn't it take years of hard work towards something to succeed?

If so, you can't be expected to get good at anything if your passions change every few years. Or can you?

Am I good at Photography and Photoshop? Here's my portfolio, so you tell me:
handyandypandy.com

Most of those photos were done in the space of a year, where I did one photo a day for 365 days straight. Before that I had little experience with photography or photoshop, especially not photo-manipulations. That's not "years of hard work towards something".

Am I good at getting laid? Here's the sex I've had over the last 2-3 years:
killtheinnerloser.com/proof

In terms of actual hard work with getting laid: It took me about 3 months to finish the AA program. I then did nothing for 7 months (massive pussy). Then I fucked around a bit for 6 months. Then pushed myself HARD for a year. So in total, even including the 7 months of doing nothing and the 6 months of fucking around, that's only 2 years to get elite at getting laid.

I can code (mostly Python, with some CSS, HTML, Javascript, AutoHotKey and other bits thrown in there). I learned most of that in a year. That's not "years of hard work".

Ask any of my clients "Is Andy a good coach?" People pay me $100 USD an hour and my longest client has seen me for 5 months now, so I must be. That didn't take me "years of hard work" - I just threw myself into the deep end and started it.

Would you say I'm a decent writer? Here's my blog: killtheinnerloser.com
I haven't been doing that for even a year yet. That's not "years of hard work."

It took me only about a year and a half to go from a 40kg deadlift to a 200kg rack pull:


Whilst not mindblowingly strong, it's still quite an achievement for the guy who couldn't do a single pushup at the start. That's not "years and years" of hard work.

I've also released an album on iTunes (only took me about a year to learn Fruity Loops Studio).

I learned to make friends when I had absolutely no clue how to do so. A client of mine did the same thing - he went from ZERO friends with no idea how to even socialise, to now having a bunch of close, awesome mates. He did that in about 3 months.

I went from being a sexual loser to having 9 different 3somes (many more than that if you count repeat 3somes with the same girls).

Years ago, I was extremely depressed and suicidal daily. When I finally told my family, they pushed me to see a counsellor and start turning things around. Only took me about 6 months to go from constantly suicidal to a happy, extroverted person. That's not "years of hard work".

I also taught myself BDSM and I'm probably an expert at this point. That only took about a year, maybe only 6 months.

And don't say "Well that's you, Andy - maybe you're special or some shit. I couldn't do all that." Read this:
killtheinnerloser.com/my-transformation/

If I can get decent at a bunch of different stuff, you sure as fuck can dude. Stop making excuses, stop asking us for permission, stop asking us if it's possible and just fucking do it.
-Andy

An album Andy?

Drum and bass?

Electronic I guess.
open.spotify.com/album/671AYiCmiYIxiWYLfYDM7w



It's embarrassingly bad looking back (I made it when I was 24). "Life Story" and "Lost Without You" are the only ones I don't hate. Life Story is supposed to mimic my life: starts off fun and bubbly, gets dark, then hopeful, then ultimately joyful.

Yo Andy,

Fuck.That's awesome brah

Did you achieve all of this using the Slight Edge?