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So all year I've been hard at work getting my local service business started. Technically I started in late November of last year when I fucked my 30th girl of 2017.
Last night I woke up at 12:30AM from a nightmare, in a cold sweat, and couldn't fall asleep for 2 hours because I was tripping about business. There are so many goddamn predators out there, and it's so hard getting those first few customers.
I constantly question myself and wonder if I will even be successful. It's actually a lot like when I was doing the Approach Anxiety Program, but worse. I thought about killing myself with a suicide bag at the end of the year if my business fails. I can't do another year in my industry. The stress is killing me, and I don't have any other options when it comes to "career". This is do or die. Either I make it in business, or don't make it at all. I know how stupid that sounds, but I've really put ALL my chips in this one basket.
What if I run out of money from my marketing expenses?
What if I'm not able to quit my job by the end of the year?
What would I even do if this didn't work out?
What would I tell my friends and girlfriend if I failed?
What if I get too many bad Yelp reviews and it kills my chances?
What if I screw up and get audited by the IRS?
What if I get fired from my job while I'm trying to do this?
How will I deal with the pressure of all these things if my mom died, or my girl broke up with me?
My mom and my grandmother are both rapidly approaching death, and the disconnect of a long-distance relationship continues to strain my bond with my girlfriend. I'm still fucking other girls, as always, but I'm also hoping that she will move back to my city in less than 2 years. I don't know if that's gonna happen, but I can tell you it's really hard to avoid arguments when 90% of your communication is by text. By most peoples' standards, I have an extremely low drama relationship. However, by MY standards I don't like having any arguments at all. I've found myself snapping at her lately, and I don't like when my composure slips like that. I want to be a rock, not just any other boyfriend.
This is what happens when you start a new "phase" in life. Chris always talks about how life should be lived in phases, and I've always agreed. My pussyhound phase is over, but the money phase is scaring the shit out of me. I thought getting girls was competitive, but it's got NOTHING on the competition when it comes to business. I'm fighting not only against guys my age, but guys that have 20+ years of experience in deception who could crush me if I rubbed them the wrong way. It's a harsh world and I've chosen the baptism-by-fire path, like usual.
Anyway wanted to drop a log in my diary lol. It's been a while since I've written on here.
In terms of girls (because I know that's what you dirty bitches wanna hear about), I have about... 3 solid fuckbuddies, 1 girlfriend, and maybe 3 other girls that I could hit up in a pinch. I'm still sleeping with the super hot 19 year old blonde camgirl. She is just the sweetest thing. The other night she told me "you know, outside of [friend's name], you're actually my closest friend"
. Warmed my heart. I want nothing but the best for her.
When it comes to girls, I've hit that stride of just not needing anything from them. That part of my life has really taken a backseat and I have nothing left to prove. As you might expect, it's shot my success rate up to like a 75% chance of getting laid for every date. I suspect I'm screening without realizing what I'm doing. I focus a lot more on making the girl feel good, and trying to read between the lines of what she's saying. I want to be like water and take the shape of her container. Whatever kind of guy they need in their life right then, that's who I try to be for them.
For my girlfriend, I'm a loving boyfriend that sends her a bag of memes and her favorite candy on Valentine's day. For the camgirl, I'm an easygoing friend that she can fuck, and a respite from the harshness of college. For the girls that don't wanna fuck, I'm the guy that doesn't freak out or judge them if they reject me. Whatever I need to be, I'll be it for funsies.
Count: 109 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
1. [Reevaluating due to Coronavirus]
2. Quit nicotine (DONE)
I've been posing myself similar questions past year and a half.
I don't think those questions need to be answered, they are just fears that we have to face whether they become real or not.
Personally the two biggest internal challenges I've faced so far in my adult life is:
1. Mental blockage(anxiety when faced with choices)
2. Not taking action
I have been able, throughout the years, to let go of overthinking and accept the state of things. My stress level has dramatically gone down this way.
I still have to get better at taking more action. So I got not advice here, but you got good work ethics. One way I cope with stressful times when I need to take action, is that I zone in and numb my brain. I literally become like a robot for a while. Idk if it's good or not, but this way I am able to sustain incredibly high level of stress until I'm done.
The down side is that, the moment I'm done with my goal. I relax, let my internal barriers down, and that's when all the stress and flow of emotions kick in. I usually let it do it's course. This is my coping mechanism to high stress. Not sure if it's useful to you.
Another way to rely a little for emotional support to whoever is close to you.Seriously it is times like this that real relationships are tested, and once you find yourself on the other side, you will know for sure who was by your side at your lowest point. That's priceless. Reach out for support, family, girlfriends, and particularly close guy friends if you have any. (Feel free to text me if you wanna talk for any reason, I know what that feels like)
As far as career, you are still young, and can still fuck around for while without worrying about being successful rightaway.
One suggestion I'd have for you is to maybe try corporate life too. Totally different experience, that might enrich you if you try it for a while. I know you are in healthcare services. Idk, if you have college degree, but what you could try is to take a nano degree in Analytics from an online reputable source. You can pair that up with your experience in healthcare. You can apply analytics in pretty much any industry, and healthcare is big. Those are hands on skills, and you just need to get your foot in the door. But Idk if you got the time energy to dab between work, business venture,and studying. I just wanted to share it as an option, in you need it down the road.
As far as women goes,the more I'm learning about getting laid, the more I realize that I'm mimicking the same tactics women have in relation maximizing their sexual success. Fluidity is typically a female trait when it comes to dating. Because they know their core value, their sexuality is already high,(they don't need to raise it) so they only need to learn how to adapt it case by case. With a sexual man, they become sexual, with a nice guy they become the nice innocent girl.
I guess the same principles can be applied to a man who already has high sexual value.
Idk, I'm just a nerd sometimes when it comes to breaking these things down.
Good to hear from you man. Sorry about everything going on in your life. I couldn't even imagine what it's like sometimes.
In the past year where I started a business, I realized it wasn't for me because I wasn't in that phase of my life. I wasn't ready to commit 100% of my effort to a career. Now I'm here slaying hoes like I've wanted.
I know it'll workout cause of your mindset and ability to go head first into something you're passionate about.
Starting up is very stressful, but trust me, you'll adept and become stronger/used to it. But you have, HAVE, to learn how to cope with the stress. When we're stressed we perform worse, we become unhappy, loose our overview. Chronic stress is literally the root of all evil.
What helps keep me sane is having as much structure and planning as possible. You need to get everything out of your head, and on paper (Word, Trello, Google Docs, etc). The less you have floating, the less stressed you'll be.
You need the overview at all times, and it absolutely paramount that you keep this status quo. When you start stressing you NEED to eliminate it, it will only spiral out of control. Trust me, I've been there, many many times.
With all the bad also comes the good. There's nothing more satisfying than building your business. Hit me up if you wanna talk at some point
"Motivation is fleeting and easy to rely on because it requires no concentrated effort to get. Motivation comes to you, you don't even have to chase after it.
Discipline is reliable, motivation is fleeting. The question isn't how to keep yourself motivated, it's how to train yourself to work without it."
Starting up is always the hardest part, with anything. I want you to keep plugging, but i know that what you're all about.
Its difficult as fuck i bet, but we got your back, and will be there when you need it man.
"Jstone is a tremendous guy. Ask anyone, they'll tell you. Tremendous." -President Trump
- Bang at least 5 girls from cold approach in 2017: 1/5
- Bang one girl from cold approach before 2017: DONE
- Graduate with Bachelor's of science in Nursing December 2017
Height: 5'6" Age: 22 Lays: 12
This May my local service business hit $10k in sales.
This has been a milestone I've had my eye on for such a long time. Here's how our revenue went since the very beginning when we took our first job in March 2018:
I won't know my profit until my accountants finish the books for this month (will be done June 15), but it looks like May will be about $2000 in my pocket
(before income and self-employment tax).
When Quickbooks has been update I'll post a photo of the profit as well.
I've learned so much over the last year. Rebel (on the forum) was really my #1 guy and mentor. Without him, I don't know where my business would be at, or if it would even exist in this form.
Since my first post when we were barely getting customers, I've:
Hired a virtual assistant (and a backup) who basically runs the entire business for me (I work on big-picture stuff now, mostly marketing)
Hired a bookkeeper so I actually know exactly how much money is going in and out each month
Hired 5 cleaning teams of two maids each
Put a ton of automations in place to reduce my workload (email campaigns, customer follow up emails, workflows for processing job applications)
Tweaked my pricing and how much I pay my contractors significantly
Developed a detailed series of policies to make customer service easy to delegate to someone else
Much, much more
I don't worry much about getting new customers anymore. We get about 50 bookings a month now. My main concern is retaining my big property management clients, and my teams that perform very well.
I know I'm going to make quite a bit of money from this business alone. I'll be launching my personal website soon (like Andy) and putting some work into that as well.
I also haven't had a drink in 10 months now, here's my chip:
I don't think I could have done this if I was still drinking. It's been fucking awesome having a clear head all the time.
Still with my girlfriend, too. We've been together about a year now. More updates on that later.
All in all, everything is going super fucking well. I've gotten used to the anxiety of running a business, but honestly it's not that bad once you have administrative staff to do the tedious work for you. I can run my business at its current level with only 1 hour of work a day. If I want to expand, it takes about 4 hours a day, but that's still pretty cool.
I'm gonna keep pushin and building a money machine that'll stack bills while I work on other projects.
Count: 109 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
1. [Reevaluating due to Coronavirus]
2. Quit nicotine (DONE)
Congrats on progress and success. going out into the world and making money is tough. Glad you're having success. Sounds like you run a cleaning company for apartments/ property management. I dated a chick that worked in management for a bigger company that did this across several states. Instead of having employees they had independent "contractors " (maids) that would actually have their own business so the big business wouldn't have to pay employment tax. They would take them and coach them on starting a sole proprietorship and how to open a bank account. ( since a lot of their crew spoke Spanish only they would help with this stuff) Then they would just feed them jobs at whatever rate fit best for whatever job. Point is I'm sure it cut expenses a lot. I actually saw the contract she would give to these maids to sign as contractors. AnywY not saying this would work for you just that it's out there.
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