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My club and bar experience is quite limited. As a raging introvert, these places don't give me a lot of joy.
In the past, I've usually found myself drinking, smoking or holding up a wall. Never learned how to dance and always felt too inhibited to have a go in these types of social settings. Now I've cut back/mostly eliminated booze and smokes, I'd like to break my people watcher wallflower behaviour and learn how to move. I don't expect to be the next Chris Brown, I'd just like to be confident enough to not want to actively avoid the dance floor. Where do I begin? Obviously there are dance classes around, and just winging it on the dance floor, but my social freedom isn't on board yet. I still give a too much of a fuck about looking like a dork cos it's so unfamiliar. How can I ease into it before going to classes and clubs to practice? This shit does not come naturally to me. |
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Put some beat in your house. Loud. Go check youtube for some hip hop moves. Practice what you see on the screen with music on. DANCE DANCE DANCE and DANCE. Put music that inspire you. Practice the moves constantly. In a month you could go in clubs without looking like a fool. If you want to help yourself drink a little bit but not too much. A lot of alcohol and you think you are dance god when you really just an idiot that do ugly stupid shit.
Practice is the key. There's a lot of nice videos on youtube to help you. |
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What music do you listen to, though?
Usually it's easier to loosen up if you really dig the music. Maybe go to a club where your kind of music is played? And then just look at what the girls are doing...and copy it in a manly way. They usually like it, because it gives them the feeling that "they are doing it right" ![]() But don't shake ass or bend and twist to expose your curves...stay manly. Take a look at what foot movement they got and what rhythm they are following...especially if it's not your favorite kind of music. If you have a close girl friend take dance classes...like standard ones or salsa, if you want. It's more to practice coordination and actually can be some fun time spend with a good friend. But never heard of some way to learn "club dancing"... |
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Yeah, I should have checked youtube
I grew up in a town that wasn't quite the middle of buttfuck nowhere, but pretty close. Clubs are hundreds of kilometres away. Never been part of a scene or subculture. The fat gutted cunts around here drink and watch footy, they don't dance so much. I like the rock and metal that I grew up with, tho it seems most places I've been to are cranking the latest imported pop and hip hop |
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You may be into Dance Floor Seduction.
I haven't purchased the products (cannot vouch for anything other than the free bits he puts up on YouTube) but they seem to be perfect for what you're looking for. Dance floor/club game openers "The Skills Method" Dance Floor Seduction part 1 The guy has YouTube videos and his own DVD line. He has actual girls in the videos, so it's not about the latest moves but rather how to apply basic moves with the intention of social-sexual interaction. Hope this is what you're looking for. -Rune Temporarily unavailable as I need to focus on other areas of my life. Only focusing on no more than two goals at once. Best of luck to you guys.
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Not sure about that guy. Even if he can move, and i dont think he moves good enough to listen to him like hes a dance god, he watch his feet most of the time and makes no eye contact with the girl.
you could dance as good as micheal jackson, if your looking at your feet, you only look like a guy that does not assume what he is doing. You will look like a pussy. No feet looking please. Nit while you walk, not while you talk, and certainly not while you dance. |
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His videos aren't for becoming a dance superstar, just overcoming awkwardness with gaming on the dance floor. I agree with you on never, NEVER looking at your feet. I find the best way to learn to break the habit of feet watching is to dance in front of a full body mirror. You can get instant feedback (reflection) and adjust your technique on the fly, all while developing the habit of looking at the person in front of you (in this case, you're looking at you in front of you). -Rune Temporarily unavailable as I need to focus on other areas of my life. Only focusing on no more than two goals at once. Best of luck to you guys.
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Just two-step man, add a little arm movement.
Master this sh*t. It can be done to all types of music and can be tweaked endlessly with different arm movements and changing the intensity of the steps. |
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How about we stop all those fucking weak youtube suggestions...
Skurge MAN THE FUCK UP. If you want to learn how to dance, you start dancing classes at a fucking studio. EVERYONE STARTS AS NOOBS. Dude I started dancing classes yesterday at a very serious hip hop school and ITS NOT THAT HORRIBLE - it can actually be fun to be the "noob". Plus - theres plenty of other noobs that just started. And dont worry if you think that everyone is looking at you and thinking how awkward you are BECAUSE EVERYONE IS TOO BUSY LOOKING AT THEMSELVES in life you have to throw yourself into it. no more bullshit pussy excuses. thank me later (: ...
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The guy stated he had yet to develop the social freedom for classes. I think it could help if someone has a gradual exposure approach (baby steps) to dancing. Sure, it's ideal for someone to say, "Fuck it!" and jump right in (I agree it's the best way) but it's not always that easy for some guys. I agree that classes are a great way to get started. I took Salsa, Tango, and Swing classes. I was one of the newbs, along with everyone else in the beginners' classes. I didn't care too much about messing up and just had a good time. I got out of the man cave, I met people, and exposed myself to music I knew nothing about. Good times. If a guy is too shy even for dance classes, learning simple steps from a YouTuber in front of a mirror could help ease him into it. Temporarily unavailable as I need to focus on other areas of my life. Only focusing on no more than two goals at once. Best of luck to you guys.
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if he wants to get more social freedom, he should also push himself in that aspect: AKA GO TO THE FUCKING DANCING CLASSES
im not telling him to run a fucking marathon and do rocket science - im asking him to meet up at a fucking building and do what the teacher says. its NOT hard. and if he thinks its hard - then thats EXACTLY why he should do it. ...
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I agree with the above. If you wanna be mediocre like most people dancing, just watch some YouTube videos. But you will always be second-guessing yourself, because you will feel like you don't have a clue wtf you're doing. The best way is to learn from someone else, who does know what they're doing and can teach you properly. Dancing is a skill just like anything else, and it's almost always easier, faster, and better to learn skills from other people who already know how, instead of trying to self-teach, if you can avoid it. I learned how to square dance by dancing with old people in my hometown before I went to college. Before going to a wedding where I was best man and would therefore be expected to waltz with the bride, bride's mom, etc, I got a friend who teaches dancing to give me 45 minutes of instruction/living room practice. If he hadn't been there I would definitely have taken a class.
Fortuna Audax Iuvat.
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