TOPIC: Brother/best friend being a douchebag

hey guys.
I've lived with my stepbrother since he was like 13 and a half and I was 15.
Around five years later, I'm still at home a lot while I go to the local CC (transferring to uni next fall), so we hang out a lot. I'm 19 and he's 17.

He used to be fat, horrible with girls, played video games all the time and I sort of got him out of that funk...got him to work out with me/lose weight, taught him about game, got him drunk/high for the first time, taught him how to play the guitar, helped him lose his virginity and not get oneitis for the girl. Predictably he now has much more confidence, has had a few girls etc. We're very close and are best friends.

The other night we were jamming, talking and he told me -
"It really pisses me off when you pull this 'I'm the alpha male' shit on me. I really hate when you're obnoxious and take up too much space, go to hand something to me and pull it away, blah blah."

Which is weird because the last year or so I've noticed him do what he's accusing me of. Mainly just ignoring me or snubbing me, as in I'll tell him about this hot girl who gave me her # or whatever and he'll literally not even look in my direction and flatly go "cool".
When he does the same I'll ask him about the girl or whatever.

To tell you about our friendship..I don't do shit like this on purpose. However as explicated below I can be a bit obnoxious "amog", I guess, at times. The last friendship I want for us is stooping to the level of undercutting each other for something as transient as a girl. I try to build him up every chance I get, telling my friends I introduce him to what a sick guitarist he is.

We busk together downtown and talk to girls sometimes, I sing and play guitar and he plays guitar...we're really damn good or at least people always tell us so. Being the "frontman" is sort of my personality...I'm obnoxious at times, an extrovert, high-energy, a talker etc. Of course what some people would call a douchebag or attention whore. He's more introverted, but has his own confidence.

So last night, 2 nights after he mentioned that, he came home from work and woke me up. I brought it up to him, telling him that I don't like things being that way between us, where we act "gamey" with one another. I told him I like being able to be real with him, not putting up any walls and being able to show my weaknesses without knowing he'll judge me negatively like a girl.

I told him we could help each other out and be the perfect wing-men as we grow into adulthood or we could let petty bullshit like this separate us as friends. He ignored me.
I told him that it pisses me off that when I try to talk to him about shit and he ignores me like he doesn't care. He continued to ignore me. I angrily threw something at him and said fuck it and went and played my guitar.

Not that we gotta be little girls or something always talking about our feelings but dudes gotta have a heart to heart every now and then right, especially when one of them feels wronged?

So what do I do? This guy's my little brother, even being step brothers we still introduce each other as brothers. I feel like I've raised him to a certain extent, and he just shits on me, acts all gamey and nonreactive to me, like hes trying to be cooler than me. I feel like hes the one always trying to "AMOG" me, treating me like I'm insignificant or something. As gay as it sounds, he won't be honest about how he feels, and doesn't seem to care about how I feel about something, which I really think is outright disrespect. Not that I don't have other things to focus on, but hes my best fucking friend so I don't see how we can't just be fucking honest with each other. Maybe I need get pissed and kick his ass, we've bonded over fighting our feelings out before lol.

What do you guys think I should do?

Damn, I don't know. Have you tried asking him?

Maybe you can just go up to him, in a nice way and say "Bro, what's happening man? Are you mad at me? If you are tell me why? You won't hurt my feelings"

See how he responds to that.

When you stepped onto this site you stepped into alpha hood. I am going through some of the exact same things.

As a matter of fact a couple friends of mine texted to go out for a beer about an hour ago. First thing my one buddy says is 'here is the rockstar' so I asked him 'why didnt you order me a beer' just to drive it home

At the same time my younger brother is about to get married and is 100% in over his head. The answer is, let it go

get on with your own life

moving your life into a mode of success will separate you from others, so be prepared to discount them all. The friends/brothers worth keeping around will see, encourage and support, and then you will know which are the ones to keep.

its a period everyone has to get through where they think they have to act arrogant and act like a king.

it will be over, until then, enjoy your own life and just be a good example to your brother.

Its a great thing and that can be processed in the needed path that are used.

Just hormones raging man - for both of you. Damn when I was 17 I was angry as fuck all the time. Use that energy and hit the gym. You'll calm down a bit when you're 22 lol.

Also real friends aren't afraid of stepping up to one another when the other is out of place - I've came close to fighting almost all of my best friends at one time or another. Just don't hang onto or hold a grudge about it. Also, real friends live vicariously through each other - when I have an epic story or hear one from a friend of mine it's like I'm there and you get stoked for the other person.

Don't worry about it too much man - just be there for him like you have been and he'll come around.