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hey bro heres exactly what i do hopefully you'll get something out of it:
i always save chick's numbers and i hit up multiple girls at a time until one wants to hangout
yes ill hit up the same chicks each week even if they dont respond/dont wanna hangout because one day they might not wanna talk to me bc their ex screwed them over/whatever other reason --
--and the next day they might wanna fuck - and the next day they might wanna date and get married to someone etc etc
Personal example: today i hit up diff girls in my phone to fuck to celebrate the new year ("hey cutie" to each of them) lol and at 1pm a chick said she wanted to be dating someone in 2019 and that she was done with all guys etc etc (not talking about me, but a little, shes a close friend/fuckbuddy that likes me but i wont date her b/c i prefer being single )
anyways fast forward to ~6pm i get a text from the same girl (the one thats my fuckbuddy/close friend) -- (ill type it word for word): she said "wyd do you wanna come hangout" responding to my earlier text and i went over, did my thing and we fucked -- afterwards she went back to not wanting to "hookup" with guys in 2019 and that i was the "exception"
this only happened because i, just like every single time i hangout with a chick, ALWAYS take the lead and i ALWAYS make moves, its a very masculine quality and to be honest the only one you really need when you hangout with a girl -- ive had 1 girl out of the hundreds(?) ive hungout with ever take the lead by grabbing my dick (talking about new girls that i just met or havent fucked yet) and this was literally within 30 seconds of walking into her place, and even then i still had to take the lead immediately after that
thats just how girls minds work, so dont listen to ur first instinct - remember bro its always been better for me to be "too much" as in hitting up chicks to hangout rather than "too much *of a pussy*"
~girls already have a pussy, they dont want another one
(source: based on my personal experience and what all of my friends that are girls have said to me, i should ask some of them to come on a video with me and talk to u guys, maybe itd help hearing it from a chick herself but she'd basically tell u the same as i just said)
i can upload a video to this thread explaining this if u want, because its a huge issue that most guys dont know how to overcome, including my former self for years up until ~2012-ish
also the 2nd biggest piece of advice i can give u is that YOU are the man and you just gotta get used to ALWAYS taking the lead and doing EVERYTHING -- this mindset will REALLY help you get over the passive one (or whatever word you used) that you have now
the good news: every single guy has had to at on point in their life go through this themselves, and the ones that havent still have to (if they/you/anyone are going to be tagging a bunch of ass)
Like the other guys said. Hit the numbers, it's a numbers game. You should always have many leads you keep loose touch with at any time. And since you're looking just to hook up, then you should care very little for any particular girl.
I highly recommend using Instagram in keeping in touch with girls. It'll help you also catching them at a good time to hang out, since you can see their stories. Also they'll generally show more interest in you since they can see you too on Instagram. You're putting a face to her contacts, not just a random number.
That goes for acquaintances too. I got my current job because a guy I had met a couple of times through friends was on my Facebook and saw a post of mine relevant to work. Lots of upsides to social media!
With chicks you will always have to deal with the most bullshit upfront, then it goes down as they become more regular. I've dated a couple of chicks regularly ,. About 3-4 months each for the past 6 months. And they've hit me up regularly first to hang out, but they're generally chill and down to earth. Which also proceeds the initial smooth experience of meeting them until sex for the first time. So it is possible for a chick to hit you up, if you give her space, and of course fuck her good!
Best experiences I've had it's smooth upfront. No bullshit, maybe an extra date or two to fuck, but still a good experience, which helped with me enjoying my time with them and wanting to hang out again.
So if you're looking to date regularly, it's fine to be picky about having whatever high standards!
The more time goes on, the more I'm becoming like you, where I have less tolerance, but that's because I already get enough regular sex here and there and I don't need to put up with bullshit, flakes or attitudes!
So it's your call, but you have to first desensitize yourself from these dynamics. Also, I generally narrow the amount of time and energy I spend on a girl if she has flaked once already. but to avoid any of this typical behavior I lay the foundation for minimal loss upfront already.
1. Plan for a date only within 24-48 hours.
2. Plan the date somewhere cheap and really close to me.
This way I minimize the chance for flake and upfront investment!
For that chick that made you come to see her...chicks love making guys do shit for them. Something they like to do is making you go to wherever they are, possibly when they're with friends. It's a power game the play to show off to their friends. Now, you could still havr a chance if later on you manage to be alone. But it's your call. In that case she wasn't showing any interest or spending time with you or intergrating you with her group of friends.
I've generally avoided these joining a girl's group of people, unless I actually wanted to be social and have a good time!
Dude75 wrote: Lay count 22 ?
Dude, you’ll have to look at the bigger picture on every aspect of your life. Look good, talk to girls. This is how you get laid with multiple girls.
Lol my issue isn't getting laid my friend... In short, I don't like the act of chasing girls who show interest, but play hard to get. I'll do the basics in terms of asking them to hangout/get a drink/come to my place and such, but if i feel like i'm pulling teeth even just a little bit, it annoys the fuck out of me and I cut her off because i think it's childish. Like what I don't fuck with is a girl who flirts with me or is constantly in my DMs and when I return the same energy, she starts switching up or pretends like she wasn't doing anything. This has happened to me about 4 times in the past couple months lol. All of my lays, the girls were into me from the jump and shit was smooth, whether it be on tinder (which most of them were) or in real life. I'm not saying i have an issue with moving this way necessarily, because it saves me a lot of time, filters out the bullshitters, and it's less of a headache. I'm just wondering if i'm missing out on potential lays just because I'm too impatient to put in the work on some of the more difficult ones who show interest, but they're just more passive or rely on me to always lead them and hit them up.
Thread was created mainly for food for thought. I'm in no rush to bang all the hot girls in the world and i have no reason to lie on my dick in a forum of strangers especially when I openly talk about my Ls xD
To answer your question, yes you are missing out on a lot of pussy.
Your reasoning about why you don’t want to put up with girls’ bullshit behavior is just an excuse.
You’re using that as an excuse to not get hurt. You’re avoiding rejection and embarrassment.
Instead of avoiding all of this pain, you should embrace it and accept it as part of the game. Take every experience you can get and learn from it. Grow.
You say you have no problem getting laid, but I can bet that you will have a hard time pulling a girl from the street or bar on-call.
When you can do that, then you will truly believe that you have no problem getting laid.
Depends exactly what you mean by Chase a woman. Court a woman, sure. Flirt a little and do the dance...But I'm not going out of my way for any woman who makes it difficult. Not wasting my time trying to change her mind. There's way too many available women to fixate on that.
Note, I feel being quick to move on is a defining characteristic of being older and having experience with women. Take them off their pedestal, kick em to the curb. Fuck their friend instead!
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