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Hey, I'm new here and I've only done day 6 of AA. HOWEVER - I discovered that contrary to what's normal and expected - that the first reps are the hardest and from then on you get social momentum to energize you - for me it's the opposite. My first attempts usually work out the best and my approach feels genuine and cheery, I often get smiles in return. But as I go on, into the third and fourth reps, the interactions feel more and more forced and I start feeling exhausted.
To describe this exhaustion, imagine that your face becomes numb, emotionless, you feel stale and you have a dead stare in your eyes. The last thing you want is another rep. You're not necessarily anxious as much as too much of a zombie to do more. Obviously anxiety is still there, but it's more of a side dish of the whole mess.
HELP ME, WHAT IS THIS? Anyone else felt that way? How to manage this? Etc.
I'm not sure if this is what's called "the introvert burnout" or perhaps some defense mechanism against social anxiety or something. I want it fixed.
In some people like me, the first few approaches are the worst, with later ones being easier.
In some, it's the opposite you start of a high note and it gets worse.
It could be that you are highly introverted and don't want to interact anymore after little convo.
The good news is is that is just a different form of AA.
You can reshape brain plasticity with constant new reinforcement. Force yourself to burnout a bit every day and over time you will build resistance to burnout, than over time it will take more and more approaches to reach introvert burnout until it stops being an issue,
Just stick to doing the AA program and you will be fine over time.
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To be honest, I don't think I was ever aware of this "social exhaustion" concept until I started reading all the introvert/extrovert mental masturbation content on the Internet (it's true but not really a big deal)
It's probably pretty similar
Like I can be in a social situation for ~several hours-1 day before I want to leave (maybe less if it's HIGHLY social e.g. talking to and meeting people non-stop)
Also, I wouldn't think of it as "progress" as though being introverted is something bad. Just how you were born
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