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Same position as you, around younger engineers, same age.
Not into mainstream topics, know zero about football or cars.
My advice is work on your strengths, minimize weaknesses. I don't think you can really force yourself to be a social butterfly if that is not what you are. I am the same, but embraced who I am.
My only advice is do not isolate yourself too much. Be part of the team, at least as a listener. I go to lunch with my coworkers. Just sitting there. If there is a topic I know about being discussed I throw a word or two, but mostly listen.
Just be around them on events (going to lunch together, corporate party), listen and nod, occasionally throw a word or two. Never fight over anything and don't talk about porn, politics, whatever. If someone provokes you (as one co-worker does with me, long story) ignore and slightly deflect, avoid conflict.
I don't believe you can really turn into complete social butterfly if it is not who you are, doing the above should be enough to be part of team. Don't try to be someone you are not, just do the bare minimum and focus on whatever strength you have. Help whenever when needed.
It may not be the perfect solution, but you should be fine.
I agree with Coolguy.
I would also add that if you want to fit in then you're just gonna have to do some stuff that you might not enjoy doing, like watching football, mma fights, shit most men like, you get the point.
Also, if those guys are considerable older than you, don't try to become the leader of the pack, they will get offended and isolate you.
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