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I know that GLL is about achieving goals, not everybody has them and thanks to that people like us are actually quite unique in some ways.
But i've been wondering if i'm alone with this or is there more people like me who constantly feels the need to get approved by others. Aka people pleaser.
Everything that i do i get this feeling of needing to get approved and i think that this thing only could be the main issue that is stopping me from achieving the things that i want to achieve.
For example if i'm doing someone or talking to someone i try to boost my ego/self worth by showing my achievements or talking bout them to see what they think of it, instead of allowing myself to accept me.
Anyone else here feel like this? Maybe you guys could suggest me some links or books that i could look into and start finding correct answers to my questions.
I'm tired of being a people pleaser but i still keep doing it and then later regret it.
I feel like i'm not doing shit for myself but instead i'm doing it for them. Which i'm pretty sure isn't the correct mindset to have.
I'm overcoming that problem by achieving what I want, while at the same time accepting the fact that I will get rejected, judged or whatever.
Whenever I have a feeling of potential disapproval from another person, I don't fight against this emotion, but at the same time I remind myself that if I adopt an approval seeking behaviour, my self esteem will pay the consequences later.
Keep in mind that most people can tell if you are pleasing them (body language mainly) and that they will be even more turned off, than if you were simply honest.
And as flagrant said, read the articles that Chris wrote.
Goals for the end of 2017:
-overcome social anxiety or start AA program
-get decent elevator shoes (insoles)
-own a website
-gain 1 inch in lenght
-get in shape
I now know whats going on.
Chis has an Article of seeking validation and he talks about how all his life he's been seeking validation, so do i. I felt like he was talking about my life. I now understand why i underachieve in life.
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