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Deltsbrah wrote: I wasn't specifically addressing myself though i do fit the category somewhat even though i'm not 40 years old yet and technically im not a virgin. But don't u think there is something genetics going on here? I mean bloody hell there's like a couple of people in my family who are like this.. maybe i should talk about these guys..
My Uncle aka The 50 year old virgin aka The Eternal Virgin
This is the most text book case. He;s my father's youngest brother and the youngest by far of my father's family by about 10-15yrs or so.. so this guy is the baby of the family.
He was way too close with my grandma, stayed with her after all the kids moved out and my granddad died. Stayed with her in a progressively rotting house (since no one took care of the place) until my grandma finally passed away about 10yrs ago.
The guy never talks to anyone, hardly leaves the house. He's so skinny that a few years ago my dad forced him to come live with him for a year so he could get regular meals and gain some weight. They say he was a smart kid when he was young but he never translated that to financial success and settled on a clerical job in a university somewhere. dude doesn't even have a car.
He must be in his 50s now and im 99.9% certain he's still a virgin. My aunt recently moved to America to be with her daughter and convinced him to move into her house to keep it safe.. now the dude is living in a huge house all by himself hardly every gets out of the house.
My dad's cousin aka The Ghost
Same story as my uncle but on steroids(actually make that steroids + HGH + slin lol).. If my uncle was a 10 on the recluse scale this guy is at 100. I've never even clearly seen the guy because he never came out of the house. Almost same story as my uncle, only boy in a family of 3, parent's favorite and momma's boy.. When his sisters moved out and his dad died he just stayed at home with his mom. They also say he was talented acedemically as a kid but I don't even think he went to college he stopped coming out of the house and basically lived off of his dad's inheritance and whatever his sisters sent him..
This guy is so legendary that people who married into my family (i.e. my aunt's/uncle's husbands and wives) haven't even seen him, only heard of him. My mum is probably one of the only outsiders who has actually met him several times in the past and talked to him..
Sadly this guy continued living like that until old age even after his mum passed away. I heard a few years ago he died himself around the age of 60-65. No doubt he was a virgin till death.
My own father
ok i know what ya'll are saying.. How can ur dad be a virgin mate that makes no fucking sense?!?.. ok i know.. i'm not saying he is a virgin but he might as well be.. I don't even know how he managed to get married. I guess he's a guy who got "picked" and didn't do anything cos i can't imagine him ever talking to girls.
His relationship with me mum was fucked up before they even got married. And even though i was born 7 years AFTER they got married, they never broke it off they kept it going to save face. I swear i've never seen me parents act like a "couple". Most of the time they'd never say a word to each other because until normal people they don't even fight they are just massively passive-aggressive..
Finally when i was 10 or so they stopped talking to each other COMPLETELY. But my dad kept the marriage going to save face so it was weird. Now he's pretty much been a forever alone guy who just lives in the 2nd floor of my house (he left for about 10years to work in another city but came back) and is just bitter and awkward. I don't get why he didn't get a divorce and move on like a normal fella. Also i can guarantee the only gf he had was my mum cuz i can't see him doing anything to attract women because he is socially awkward and weird.
If I wrote this post a couple of years back I'd also include one of my cousins. Even though my father 6 brothers and sisters i was only close to one of my cousins because he lived with us for a few years while he was going to college. He also exhibited the classic symptoms of being a virgins till death. Few yaers back he was pretty much looking like a permanent vrigin. Close to 40 years old and skinny as fuck plus balding. At that point I had written him off as a hopeless case destined to be a 40 year old virgin and die a permanentvirgin like the rest of my family members i just wrote about. However he got married last year and the girl wasn't even unattractive, kinda cute and she seems nice..
ps. i know I've mentioned marriage a bunch of times here but FYI have no intention of getting married, I'm deep into Red Pill ideology.
Terminator wrote: The undersexed guys put in some effort somewhere to get laid. No girl ever came to them, stripped their clothes off and raped them. It doesn't happen. Some just have more "luck" in that they happen to be in the right place at the right time so that the action is easy to take, such as when a girl clearly shows interest towards them. After that, when they've lost their V-card, they gain a little confidence and maybe get laid a few more times.
lmao at the bolded part..
but thing is mate for someone who's a 40year old virgin, that's almost what it looks like when they look at the lives of "undersexed" guys. I've seen that happen in college often. Guys who are borderline anti-social dorks, who 1. Do not even lift, not even once bro, 2. Nonathletic as fuck (remember lifting and being athletics aren't the same), 3. Bland (if not terrible) sense of style, 4: Not that smart.. Book smart maybe but lacking in intellectual curiosity aka the typical blue pill dork who has a college degree in a scientific or computer field but only did that because his parents/society forced him to and really has no real love for science or learning new things, just get picked by some girl (usually not even attractive but still a female with tits/ass) and they start dating for years and eventually get married..
cant see that happening for the 40yr old virgin kinda guys here.
Is there any name in psychology or somewhere about people like this?
Haha I think my dad might as well be a 40 y/o virgin too.. only reason I was ever born is that my mother fell in love with him, I don't think he's ever actually loved anyone. I once asked him for advice on women and he flat out said he can't give me any... from what I understood he's gone on like 1 date in his life, and the only way he and his current wife became together is they were forced to spend time alone in a mutual hobby of theirs, and that's how they met.
Granted, he's probably nowhere near as bad as your dad, because at least he's pretty social and not too weird.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
Kiwi wrote: All these are assumptions, and may or may not be accurate. Most of it is very similar to me before I found GLL.
1: they spend years on online forums reading about pickup bit take NO ACTION
2: they don't have a social live that involves women. In fact, they don't actively interact with women, ever (except for the checkout lady when buying groceries)
3: I suspect they have severe psychological issues (low self esteem, social anxiety, depression, possibly mental health issues, etc)
4: they take NO ACTION to address these issues, instead choosing to write on forums about how they're a forever alone forever bulking loser virgin with low self esteem that no girl would ever like, which then becomes a self fulfilling prophecy
5: due to a lack of a social life, they likely have trouble relating to people, making friends, etc, and instead choose to live as a hermit only interacting with people online to avoid feeling awkward
6: they take NO ACTION to fix this (not even by making a tinder profile and setting up as many dates as possible)
7: THEY DON'T TAKE ACTION
Seriously mate, stop wasting time on this forum and go out and take action.
i never had any girl I'm 31 normal looking 6'4 ripped 10%BF 222lbs my blood pressure does not come up when going to groceries I have had jobs which involved lot of meetings with clients lot of new girls ( real estate agent students seek flats for rent etc) colleges many new girls I can't tell it helped ... it's just example there are other situations when i can meet women and it's not just grocery store
I have taken action put my profile online on badoo tinder girls either don't respond or if some write she is fat with 4 children @ age 25 I have put adverts online but again the best I had 1x-2x some 40y o women written some shit... I have myself wrote to many women hundreds even trying to personalize message and not write just "Hi wanna fuck" no i know that shit wont take anywhere, funny thing is some even replied nice message like they liked what I wrote then just disappear after I was trying to get to know them more or setup date. In real life club game or bar game is nonsense they all are in they girl companies and last thing in world what they are interested is me... this ice cold non interest and like I never exist feeling from them this just put me off... same in other places in real life be it beach whatever for them I'm empty space in vacuum... some guys speak about some eye contact from women honestly I don't know what it is as I never seen such nor any so called IOI...I have no problem ask about time or direction but that will end there she will tell and walk away like i never existed....
for you easy to write something you don't know....
Most of those were based off ME before I found GLL. I was well on my way to becoming a 40 yr old virgin until I changed my life around. There were weeks where the only person I would talk to was the grocery lady.
I am speculating this is more common in Asians, and OP East Indians?
A lot of Asian families are the result of arranged marriage. In the old days there were plenty of attractive young girls and guys waiting for arranged marriage. My parents were matched together, lived happily ever after. Unfortunately our dads have zero experience in meeting girls without being set up. A lot of my female cousins are the worst. They are spinsters. Never had BF, never had sex. They don't know how to dress sexy, they don't know how to flirt with men because their moms got married through arrangement.
Fast forward to today's society, internet, movies, TV, porn. Guys have an unrealistic expectation of how hot a girl they should get because of what they see in media. Yes, there are hot girls, but they are all snatched up by players or millionaires. The left over ones just don't give you a boner. Don't get me wrong, these girl are perfectly fine average girls, but it's just so much more convenient to jack off to hot 18 y/o Russian porn actress than to be bothered with an average 30 y/o girl in knee length skirts who may also be an emotional burden.
I know a guy who is in your category. In college he had girls who were interested in him, but he did not what to do, and stayed in his comfort zone, and missed his opportunity. After college life, job took over. That's always the excuse. I got to work, I got to study. Then age start catching up, he started losing hair and losing confidence. Before there were rare girls who showed interest in him, now there are none. Also as you get older, your libido start to decline, you literally aren't interested in getting laid. At least you took the action to go to strip clubs and brothel. This guy is so conservative that he never even tried that. I wish I can help him, but I cannot. Either he had the DESIRE or not. If you wanted badly enough you step out of your comfort zone again and again until you get laid.
I think if you want a medicore sex life all you have to do is play the numbers and approach lot's of girls with decent game which you will get after lot's of practice and internal work on swagger and aggressiveness.
Then to go from medicore to go is where looks, height, perceived status would kick in.
I have been having much more regular sex with much less going out and approaching girls weighing 60lb less after following the GGL diet, than I did before I found GGL and was approaching 50 odd girls per week and getting laid only 3-4 times per year.
Now I am still losing weight and working on all area's of myself, but currently using maybe 10-20 approaches per week, I am getting laid at least once per month with a new girl.
I assume losing another 20lb to get to 10%bf, buying some elevator shoes and buying a new wardrobe when I get ultra lean will help bring me up to around 2 girls per month and access to hotter girls, then all I have to do from there is go out and approach a higher volume of girls if I want to increase or change the girls I approach to only hotter ones and more of them if I want to sleep with the same amount but higher quality. Right now I don't mind fucking uglier girls I still find it more exciting to fuck 3 different 6's in a month than fuck the same 7 3 times in that month.
My sex drive means the last 3 out of 4 girls I slept with I slept with them at least 3-4 different times, just shift them to drive to my house during the week for a bang then send them home
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