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Hey guys this question is how to be popular again.
Born to anti social parents I was extremely introverted and didn't know how to socialize very young.When I was in my teens I wasn't popular but I became popular in my late teens to early twenties.What I did was dress expensively had cool haircuts and hanged out with cool guys. I was the third person guy, the one guys joked at but never really spoke or said anything other then laugh but blended in. I hung out with people who were in sports teams and people who were really outgoing and known throughout hs. I never really talked because I never really to the 'cool' people .They always talked about how drunk they always got and all these girls they banged .I listened but I rarely spoke about things I knew nothing about.Even though I was never a sports guy I did try out for baseball. I was good at it ,although my grades were sorta average.
Unfortunately, we all split up and went separate ways. Years later in college, I was sorta popular again (in a school of mostly guys) but I had a social life and circle. Again we split up after graduation and I disowned some of them because I felt I wanted to grow and they didn't and were holding me back. In my twenties I am a loner again in my mid 20s and a meathead. I graduated with nothing to show for. I have no clique at the moment no girlfriends no nothing.
The spanish guys hang out with their clique,the black guys hang out with their clique, the white guys have their crew ,the sports guys hang out with their clique and girls,etc. I have no clique no nothing its depressing and even though I'm naturally loner I was never truly alone till now..Sometimes I feel like I fall in the other category .I'm from NY and there is a bunch of weirdos but even that I feel like I don't fit in because I'm not that fucking different. I'm very similar to the character of Luke Shapiro of the Wackness except I had no happy ending in the end . I never felt like I had a problem with girls being attracted to me until I found that I can't close the deal(get laid) efficiently even though I've been told I was attractive.Thanks for this site for helping me progress slowly with that.But in terms of finding a cool social circle of friends like in highschool I have yet to find that.
I put this picture up cause it was kinda funny and endearing to me .Their was a time in my life where I felt so defeated my uncle would take me out to try to get me laid many times it would go like this. He would get number closes,no flakes and much more.With chicks half his age in my face . Of course they wanted a sugar daddy but I was getting out performed by my him many times in my early twenties. Thats when I realized I was no longer popular and something was up .lol
In your mid 20s you probably wont find what your looking for. There is no "Being popular" anymore. That was a high school and collage thing. What are your hobbies? Find friends that way but I doubt you will ever have a group like you want. Thats just part of being older. I find friends from my hobbies, We already have something in common.
On the other hand you should start coming into your own when it comes to woman. How much older then you was your uncle? If he was in his early 40s the woman might not have just wanted a sugar daddy. Let me tell you my 30s were very good to me. I had much more confidence. I was pretty smooth and I got laid a lot. I had some money. I owned a house. I had a couple cars. A big bike. and I knew what to do in the bed. I have fond memories. Not saying I am not going to make new ones. So getting older is not a bad thing.
Id advise you to start lifting and get big. This will definitely make people respect you more, giving you a head start to becoming popular. On top of that, go out often, to the same places if possible. Get talking to people. Take up some hobbies that interest you and will give you stuff to talk about and showcase.
To become popular, you have to have something to offer. If I were you, id worry not about becoming popular, but about improving yourself and making yourself more valuable. The popularity will come with it.
My uncle is in his late 50 but has a good body and genetics so he looks younger.He looks late 40s he's also bald so no grey hairs.He has money hes an established teacher and family man but hes above average with women .This guy fucked like 100 women when he was young and he's an old timer.Even though I'm younger and taller it means nothing .
I'm in a part of my life where I finished college but I don't know what to do now .Actually I do have goals but things are much more difficult and I'm started to have regrets.I have the earge to have meet and bang alot of beautiful women but I feel like I'm underachieving in every aspect in my life. When I was a kid even early twenties I had a group of cool guys I would be around and if I had guys like that now with my personality now it would be so much easier.
This may not pertain to your situation exactly but the people who do like you , you have to be able to maintain and secure relationships and bonds.
As a man you never want to be looked at as being shy and passive it may help you in certain situations but more than not its the opposite of popular. I heard a lady speak of a guy her exact words were "he is so shy and passive, you never hear from him. He's never seen and barely heard from. Which means in most opinions he is boring and has nothing interesting to offer.
Yes when you get older its harder to find new friends, organizations, sports teams are your best bet.
Bro I'm already biggish lol I'm not like ronnie coleman or something like that but I have gained a good amount of muscle . I trying to get more cut now.I feel like if I get any bigger I'll look too old.
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