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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 31 Mar 2014 10:37 #115301

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i never thought of 5'9 as being small i'm 5'10 174lbs and never really treated like that... i do get the part about smaller guys getting less respect though.

I had a simlar thing happen at a beer pong table actually I let one group go ahead of me to avoid stupid arguing and a girl team tried to get ahead of us, not on purpose and I had enough told them look just because you're girls doesn't mean i'm just going to let you jump ahead of me, I already let it happen once, not letting it happen again.  I came off as a dick but later on while we were playing against each other I explained myself and we were cool and got along well after that.
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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 01 Apr 2014 12:43 #115619

http://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2009/12/tnm-086-dan-millman-how-to-live-the-way-of-the-peaceful-warrior/

Listen to 11.58
and 13.30


I listened to this yesterday, very good podcast!  ;D

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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 01 Apr 2014 18:21 #115709

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This sounds familiar.
Apply chris his rule: DO WHAT YOU WANT.
This is the best thing u can do, i been on both sides.
I tried to be this indifferent guy who shouldn't react to this shit, but it made me only feel worse afterwards.
Now when something like this occurs i call them on it right on the spot.
Deal with it right fucking there.
Cause chances are if you allow them to do it, they'll do it again the next time.
Eliminate it right there bud, DO WHAT YOU WANT.
If you feel like beating the shit out of them, hey man that's up to you.
I don't encourage it though, but make sure you go home with no regrets or feeling like a pussy.

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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 01 Apr 2014 21:35 #115775

I'm 5'1 and I can't imagine someone doing that to me because I have PRESENCE. 

Be the life of the party and anyone that tries to mess with your mojo will look like a fool.  Overanalyzing shit like this just brings you out of the present moment.  Sometimes violence is the answer, but usually it's just a sign that you feel like a cornered animal and need to relax and find your state of bliss.

Sincerely,
Kratom Hippie

But seriously. 

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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 01 Apr 2014 21:54 #115787

These types of questions are so stupid. The only person who can answer this question is yourself. When you decide its time to fight or punch someone, its time to fight or punch someone. Not when a bunch of guys on an internet forum tell you to.

You can never control the outcome of a confrontation with another person. It may go really well and the person may respect you more, or the person may try to beat the shit out of you. So, theres no point in confronting someone just to achieve a certain outcome.

You only confront someone when you as yourself decide that you can't live with yourself if you don't. It's a personal decision.
Consistency is key.

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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 04 Apr 2014 20:05 #116873

fighting is not an option

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Re: Defining boundaries with other men...when do I do this with my fist? 04 Apr 2014 21:31 #116896

Peep my thread right here.  Not 100% the same situation, but definitely some correlation with friends being jelly and trying to bring you down:

http://goodlookingloser.com/forums/index.php?topic=11433.msg107873#msg107873

Were these friends you have had for years when you weren't so ripped and good looking?  If so, you may also want to find an additional set of friends (who are ripped and good-looking), so you won't have the one-upmanship shit that's going on.  I don't get the hostile shit from my friends (but I am not a small guy), but they are wasting my time when my mission is to bang.  I am slowly going out by myself (not 100% comfortable with this, but I gotta man up), so I can run my own program….

It sounds like you still have some leftover anger from the bullying days.  I have a bit of a chip on my shoulder, too, but for different reasons. I am trying to unwind that shit, but that’s a different story.

And no, fighting is not a good idea.  First off it’s at a party with your friends. That’s an easy way to destroy friendships and never get invited back.    Secondly, you never know who is going to come out of left field and hit you with a cheap shot or ruin your great looks with a smashed beer bottle to your face.  I would say just assert yourself in a calm, but direct manner.

Perhaps you can make a video of yourself, so we can see your vibe.  Maybe there is something there that is not giving off a strong enough vibe.  Like Wendler says, it’s about presence.

PS Where are you based?
4/1/13: Body Stats- 5'11", 190 lbs., mesomorph, muscular body, no abs (20% BF), doing GLL Fat Loss Diet
4/1/14: 183 lbs., 15.0% BF, need to add more cardio
Goal: 10% BF, 170 - 175 lbs. and a physique similar to Vin Armani (Google Him).

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