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its been a difficult year...went through a divorce...got depressed put on a ton of weight and i was in really good shape
prior. financially its been a mess..and not due to the divorce but some bad breaks on the housing market....i even started to have a drinking problem. however, my friends have helped me out with that ..and i think i kicked the drinking. howver
i basically feel like i've hit rock bottom
trying to wrap my head around how bad this year has been...any advice on how to overcome so much, its hard for me to even look where to start
I am having an off-year financially as well in the housing market. I have been in new construction since the market crashed and when things started to rebound I was doing well and early in 2013 I took a gamble and moved into the buy/sell used-house market--flip and investor kind of deals. Long story short I lost a lot of money because I did not do my research. I know the mechanics and have the connections to buy/sell houses but I did not research my local market well and learn how shitty this area presently is for real estate investing before I made the switch.
I have a drinking problem too. Thing is, I will never believe I have it "kicked". All I have is a daily reprieve from drugs and alcohol and I have had this reprieve for over 15 years.
"Where to start" is your question. My answer would be (since you said you're not drinking which would be my priority)to keep the cash flow going somehow or create a new source. I had this problem when I got into investing. I had zero cash flow and was gambling that things would turn out how I planned (they didn't). After about 6 months of no income I had to create new cash flow--I'm in this process now. Without drinking and having a positive cash flow you can overcome a lot of mental problems if you put the work in to stay positive in your thoughts because we all eventually become what we think. If you think you're a broke-ass loser with no life who misses his wife, you will reinforce this belief through your daily actions and thoughts. This behavior is illustrated in internet forums all the time--here too.
These guys here will help you if you do your diligence and put in the work. They're not your mothers and will give you a lot of tough love sometimes but it's because they know volumes about self improvement. They helped me emotionally when I first came here and like my sobriety, I believe the only way for me to keep getting better is to keep putting in the daily work.
and thanks Cruzer
i like your plan of attack. I've already signed up at the local gym..but most importantly got a personal trainer. even though i don't really require one as i would like to think i'm experienced. Getting a trainer is gonna get me to the gym. atleast for the first little part.
i'm also looking at other sources of income..and taking a few course to increase my knowledge
I've been also looking at a moving. I feel as if the environment i live in holds to many memories
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