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yea cool for sure. I do post my thoughts on stuff every now and then if I feel that I can really contribute you know. Still got lot to learn ofcourse but I appreciate it. Will do 4 sure *Verified: Gets Laid
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Makes sense to me, and these days especially I don't discount anything regardless of how cheesy it might seem at first. Even some of the goofy PUA inner game stuff occasionally has some usefulness. There's a guy named Stephan Erdman who has some decent videos on youtube, he sells the expected books and programs, but I've actually applied a few of his tips and I'd be lying if I said they weren't at least somewhat helpful. It's weird how you can make reality out of your own skewed perceptions, there have even been times when I knew what I was thinking/feeling was complete nonsense, and yet I couldn't think any other way. Writing things down is a habit I need to keep, admittedly I go through periods when I neglect to do that.
Just to touch on this a bit more... What has been your experience with those people after you dumped them, have you noticed them behave differently to you after you've made improvements, or have you cut them out of the picture entirely? I have some old "friends", most of the guys I went through high school with actually, that I see maybe once a year. When I do see them, it's usually fairly brief and that's my choice. One of my biggest regrets, and I'm curious if you feel the same, is that I get annoyed with myself for being too loyal. I feel like I gave way too much time to guys that never encouraged me and only undermined my confidence. Today, I look back and know why they were like that, obviously they weren't content with where/who they were and were afraid to take steps to improvement themselves so it was easier to criticize and keep me down instead. I know you're supposed to leave the past in the past, so it doesn't bother me really, but I think it's helped me realize where a lot of things I'm dealing with today came from. |
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I find this to be a valuable post. The writing exercise seems useful. Thank you, Zuberi.
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Pretty much cut them out completely or started ignoring them which made for some awkward situations. I dont care though, I do what I think is right for me and so should u. I know what you mean with being loyal, I often just feel bad for the person and meetup again, just for show. Hardly do that anymore but still got lots to learn here. thing is, you don't dump them like that, you just dont initiate contact anymore, decline chill sessions etc. after a while they give up and get the message. like they say, if you dont wanna catch flees dont sleep with the dogs;) *Verified: Gets Laid
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Fantastic zuberi.. could you elaborate on a couple of things 1) what happened with the best friend? 2) how did you improve your social circle Character is forged under the iron and hammer.
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Yeah, good question. Would love to hear Chris's thoughts on this too sometime. (sorry if it's been covered already) One of the side effects of my dumping the haters has been a greatly reduced and almost non-existent social circle, besides a few acquaintances from work that I have little in common with. Especially after I moved to a city 1.5 hours away from everyone I knew before. Definitely one of the hard parts of starting again. |
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Sorry guys- didnt notice the questions untill today.
@silverspoon Not sure what you mean by what happened with my best friend. Did you mean what he did or what eneded up becoming of him? To answer your question though- in short what happened was that me and that girl at the time were seeing each other exclusively. Though we did not verbally discussed so-both parties implicitely knew what was up. I helped her out with a lot of stuff, one of them being her financial situation and a place to live since she was moving out of the apartment she was living in with her boyfriend (I was her 'lover' but they didnt like each other anymore anyways). My best friend had a vacant room and I helepd her out moving into that place. She moved out after like 5days because she felt she was too lonely. When she broke up with me and I heard that she slept with truckloads of guys I went beserk. What really affected me however was that my best friend, whom I helped out getting his life on track, with whom I shared all sorts of secrets and moments and what not with, had slept with her. This was 1day before we (that group of friends I chilled with at the time), all went to dinner because it was someones birthday. I just couldnt believe that eventhough both knew I had some very painful experiences previously with girlfriends and best friends they still did it. Were sitting there at the table-Im thinking all is well ,meanwhile those two have this secret and pretended nothing ever happened for months. I remember she was all cuddly evenythough her lips were wrapped around his cock not 1day ago. The very lips that I kissed goodnight in the evening and goodmorning after waking up. That really pushed my down a deep black hole. When I heard this I ran up to his house in the middle of the night with the intention of completely destroying him. I wanted to kill him. I had 3 joints on me and smoked them - in the end we ended up 'talking' for 3hours or so and fists clenched, I didnt punch him in the end which I thought was the wiser decision. I still regret that decision haha. I walked away and enver saw him again. last thing I heard was he is living pay check to pay check with huge debts, no job, no friends no girl but maybe things have changed for him I dont know. The thing I like most about myself is that my drive is insane-others fall in deep holes and never crawl back out but I do because I got the fire burning deep inside me that not everyone has. It comforts me to know that Im going places and they are ruining their lives as we speak. Hhaa whats funny is that my ex is engaged to this guy now, some big fat guy. 2nd question: Good question. I basically started meeting a lot of people via work. After I got myself together and was reborn so to speak I was radiating and I think that people could sense that and were drawn to that as vague as that might sound. I started visiting new places and after a while the ball gets rolling and you meet people via via and it becomes too much haha. Because of my job at the time I was able to build a social circle. *Verified: Gets Laid
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this is definitely true but youll realize after a while that that social circle was just an illusion. Also, being by yourself for a while can be a very good thing because often we spent so much time with others that we dont even know who we are anymore. Its not untill your all alone that you really get to know yourself when it comes to that I think *Verified: Gets Laid
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Damn that's fucked up.. I'm a bit confused tho, did she cheat with Ur friend, or they hooked up after u guys broke up?
Regardless.. inspiring story bro Character is forged under the iron and hammer.
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well they fucked couple days before it was 'official' but to me thats just not done. Maybe they hooked up again aftwards I dont know nd I dont care anymore haha.
glad to hear to inspires you-that was what I had hoped for *Verified: Gets Laid
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