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How To Get Your Shit Together? 08 May 2019 20:24 #316830

My question is a bit general, mainly because I don't really know what I'm looking for.

My head is a bit all over the place at the moment. Any drive and motivation I once had to be my "best self" has dissipated. I do very little with my spare time now - and I'm slowly feeling myself dying.

I'm just wondering if there are any good books or articles the give practical advice to "getting your shit together" and recovering from depression.

I would say that I do okay with women, however I'm noticing that the women I hook up with are almost never ones that I actually find attractive. I think part of this is that I don't feel good or worthy enough for them. Maybe this is genuinely the case, or maybe it's just all in my head. Either way, I could do with some advice.

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How To Get Your Shit Together? 08 May 2019 21:30 #316833

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If you don't know what you want from life I can't tell you how to find that.

I can tell you how to improve daily habits though. I used a technique to some degree and it worked.

The idea is to stack a good habit every week. For example, Week 1 - get cold showers every morning, Week 2 - same as week 1 + cut out sugar, Week 3 - same as previous week + stop watching porn

If you fail in a major way with any task, don't add any new task, just repeat the week. If you failed to cut out sugars on week 2 and ate cake twice, just repeat the week. If you fail 3 weeks in a row, replace cutting out sugar with an easier habit and add cutting out sugar later.

Keep a log. Won't give you a sense of direction but will fix your daily life and maybe make your head clearer and more structured.

What good habits you want to follow is up to you. It could be NoFap, gym, cold showers, reading books, going to sleep on time, quitting cigarettes, etc. Figure out the habits you want and start implementing them in the way I explained.

I had a log like that but stopped updating for reasons, I still follow the general principles. It helped me get out of a hole. I still slip, but I am a lot better now.

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How To Get Your Shit Together? 08 May 2019 23:34 #316838

Buy this:
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It went a long way in helping me cure ~9 years of depression. Helped a tonne of people I've given it to (including "Dag" here on the forums).

It's a good first step to working on depression. It'll get the ball rolling.
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How To Get Your Shit Together? 09 May 2019 01:29 #316841

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This may sound basic, but whenever you are feeling down, call a friend or a family member, it helps a lot. Also, helping other people, not being so centered on yourself helps.
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How To Get Your Shit Together? 09 May 2019 07:52 #316844

Coolguy is right. It's all about habits. What you do in any given day is largely just whatever things you're in the habit of doing. Gym. Work. Grocery. Talking to girls. Dicking around. Whatever. And since your life is just a compilation of many days, your habits essentially define your life, and what you accomplish in it. You can have good habits, which take you towards your long-term goals, or bad habits, which stand in opposition to them. So focus on building good habits, one habit at a time.
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