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What should I do? For a guy like me? 08 Apr 2017 10:05 #281729

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Hey guys. First and foremost I just wanted to say that I grew up with a really bad social anxiety, which is like really intense shyness. This means Iam "the quiet guy" in my class because I never really talked. I had zero self confidence or social skills. I spent most of my time ALONE browsing the internet, playing video games or reading (I now lift weights regularly now and I now focus on improving my body). I had basically no friends and social life... And I didn't want to be a loner--it's just that I felt painfully awkward and anxious around most people. Especially...cute girls! Iam 18yrs old virgin who had never even kissed a girl. I wasn't super-ugly or weird, it's just that I got REALLY shy, nervous and awkward around girls(I have some physical flaws though I have suffered some face pimples and Im 5'8 skinny guy). I don't know what I should say to a girl I liked to make her attracted. I would sometimes spend hours fantasizing about talking to a girl I liked or imagining what life would be like if she was my girlfriend. How it would feel to touch her hair. To kiss her lips. To lie in bed beside her... And then in real life I would automatically become super quiet and withdrawn around ANY attractive girl.

What do you think guys do you have some advice for a guy like me on how I can fixed myself, tell me how do people like me be able to get a girlfriend and get laid. How do I even fit in and make some friends and just be normal?

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What should I do? For a guy like me? 08 Apr 2017 13:59 #281733

This site has a lot of resources to help you with this. Just take the perspective of taking ACTION or you will never change the ingrained habits in your mind.

Start with:
www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/index/a...ed-professional-help
www.goodlookingloser.com/anxiety/index/t...red-to-talk-to-girls

If you think it's reasonable move on to the approach anxiety program or lose your virginity guide. Keep in mind the virgin guide is very focused on online dating so it has limited results in Asswater, CT and like places as well as if you aren't already pretty fit. The approach anxiety guide is only focused on your own ability to do what you are asked to do, not getting girls, but it can be very difficult for some and will really make you confront your irrational insecurities.

After that you can tackle the going out alone guide.

This change you seek will not come overnight. It's something most guys never do. Cut yourself some slack if it gets hard because you are exceeding normal standards of confidence that will be hard for pretty much all guys.
You are never standing still. You're either moving forward or backward.
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What should I do? For a guy like me? 09 Apr 2017 15:43 #281796

You are only 18. Who you were in elementary school and high school isn't important and doesn't define the person you are going to be in your twenties. The fact that you are on this forum shows that you have the drive and determination to make it happen. Just be patient and be prepared to step out of your comfort zone.
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What should I do? For a guy like me? 19 May 2017 06:22 #284113

The OP should feel very lucky he discovered this at 18

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What should I do? For a guy like me? 19 May 2017 17:15 #284138

My advice would to be literally just read every article on gll in your free time. Continue to workout focusing on gaining size. One you have a decent amount of muscle cut down to 8% body fat. In the meantime just focus on very small things to help your shyness maybe practice eye contact with people longer each time. Try phenibut if you havent and while phenibut is in your system try asking girls for the time or directions etc or you can do the AA program. For me personally I had social anxiety pretty bad a few years ago but the combination of phenibut while taking small actions like asking for time and directions completely cured me of social anxiety. Just my 2 cents

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