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In my experience if you look good physically and stylistically then 9/10 it wont matter if you were a loser back then. They will become attracted to you.
Example recently: I friendzoned myself with a girl I work with a year ago. Stopped talking to her, lots of awkwardness and shit like that. I comeback to my job and now that I'm working out and my style is much better (better fitting clothes,) she compliments my arms and gives me the look a lot. Not sure if she wants to hangout but I bet she would be totally down if I asked her.
Edit: Mind you I'm 140lbs skinny but I was around 128lbs before so hey
Skinny 132lb kiddo with level 3 approaching skills, looking to constantly improve
-Gain 30lbs by May 18th, 2018
-Get my own place by May 1st(got it by May 15th). X
-Cold approach 500 before 2017(?/500)
-Get 5 cold approach bangs before 2018 (0/5)
-Upgrade style from plain to great
-Save up for Lasik (0/5000)
Get dense minox stubble and long curly ditch after hair.???
First problem: How do you know they dislike you already? Some of those girls might already be totally willing but your bad mindset ruled them out. Therefore, those same girls will be even more ready as you look better.
2nd: In a setting like work, your social proof will make a ton of difference. If you start making positive changes, the girls will notice and WILL be talking to each other about it. Eventually, one of those girls will say "James has been looking way hotter lately. I think he's been losing weight or something." A second girl says "Yeah, I'd hit that". (girls do talk that way, trust me).
As soon as that conversation is happening at work, you're validated to the entire group. All it takes is one girl giving you the green light to her peers and the rest will fall in line.
Look, I partially agree with Valor on this one, but getting laid while building shit helps even more.
Game should substitute lifestyle and money, not replace it. It's a far better use of our time leveraging our success to get women. After 8 years of chasing, I'm going to change my game up and leverage my assets / income.
I don't get to choose whether I need women to be happy or feel satisfied, anymore than I get to choose whether I need food to survive.
The only choice I have is whether to accept reality as it is, or constantly fight it and lie to myself. Both the need for food and sex are biological systems that evolved for a reason and aren't going anywhere
I want women. "Should" I? Don't know, don't care.
If you want women, telling yourself, "women shouldn't be a priority" is just judging yourself, and basically shaming yourself. I am what I am, I want what I want, and if I want women, I'll be happier if I figure out how to actually get women.
How could you even rely on nothing for success, unless you define success as nothing. If success means business, you rely on other people buying from you. If you define success as having a skill, you rely on whatever physical and physiological requirements there are to develop that skill. Why is it a problem to rely on women? If I get women, then I'm successful and happy. It's only a problem if you assume you're going to fail, so you refine success and happiness as vague and intangible so then there's no such thing as failure (but then there's really no such thing as success either).
Sorry to ramble, but I think telling guys who obviously desparately need some vagina to stop trying to get some is basically abusive. Just my two cents.
Glad you started argumenting because just referencing to a post, like a brainless religious zealot worshipping his god is just whack.
"Sorry to ramble, but I think telling guys who obviously desparately need some vagina to stop trying to get some is basically abusive. Just my two cents."
Do you see your mistake now? I just needed to quote you.
How is it abusive to help someone with the truth? I see desperation and neediness all over this thread, how do you want to increase your chances if you stake your whole well-being on something which is, in essence, chaotic and doesn't even understand itself (women)? You let somebody else control you. You become a doormat, and everyone who has his priority and dignity intact can see that.
Yes you love pussy, it is your nature, but we ain't apes anymore and you shouldn't reduce yourself to your penis.
The mission comes first, then yourself & health, then your family, then your hobbies, then your friends and then maybe women (for which you don't care because you have important things to take care of).
And you don't need to get laid to be a successful human being, even if our society who doesn't give a shit about men tells you otherwise.
You are better than that, and it actually makes me sad to see good dedicated men (look at your body) reduce themselves to score vagina to feel better about themselves.
PS: There is also a good side effect of that: Talking with women will come naturally as you don't need them to be confident & to feel good.
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Ain't nothin wrong with focusing on getting pussy, as long as you eventually move on.
There's a reason why Chris recommends 1-2 years of solely focusing on pussy: get that shit out of the way and you'll never have to worry about it again. If I hadn't literally spent the last year on girls like it was a part time job, I might be more successful but I'd still be depressed and lonely.
Like anything else in life, you get out what you put in. Some guys NEED to get pussy first. I sure did. I couldn't focus on jack shit when I was in college because I was so horny. While treating women as your only goal in life will make you unhappy, spending 1-2 years on them will benefit you forever. It's just an investment in your own happiness, regardless of whether or not you "should" seek validation from women or not.
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
Hey dude, just because I have a shrine of Chris in my bedroom I pray to every morning does not make me a religious zealot! Jeez...
See, you're just shaming me. I said I want pussy, and you said that makes me an "ape" and reduces me to my penis (interestingly, the exact same thing psycho feminists have told me). If you think you're empowering people, you're not. You're telling them their innate desires make them subhuman and they should suppress them. That's what I meant by "abusive", and I stand by that. I also have no idea why sex uniquely dehumanizes people. Humans have several biological mechanisms common to all animals, including eating, urination, and defecation. No one says eating food because it tastes good makes me an ape and reduces me to my mouth, or that pooping reduces me to my butthole. It's only sex (I suspect because sex still takes some work where eating and pooping are easy, that'll change once we get sex robots). I don't want to have sex with monkeys, I want to have sex with human females. What is "apelike" about that, exactly?
I am much happier now even just for giving myself permission to make women a priority instead of shaming myself as I did before in the same manner you are shaming me now. By simply being authentic and admitting, "yes you want girls and you'd be very happy and satisfied if you were getting them", I felt much more at peace and excited to put effort toward something I genuinely want. By the way I'm not saying you're shaming me to victimize myself (I'm not a victim because I feel I deconstructed your argument sufficiently). I'm just stating it as a matter of fact.
"Society" actually tells me the same thing you're telling me. It told me for years. Forget about women, getting laid (and finding love) will "just happen" (it didn't, 3.5 year dry spell in college then 4.5 year dry spell after that, despite being intelligent, funny, having a good career, making six figures, creative skills, etc.), you don't need women to be happy (wrong, I was very happy the few times I was getting laid, and not otherwise), focus on career, be a corporate slave, etc. "Don't prioritize women" is the most mainstream blue pill shit ever (because men are cogs in a machine, at best their seed is needed to make more male slaves, society wants me working and nothing else). Society isn't telling me to chase women. I'm telling myself that.
You know what got me to start going to the gym and working on my body? Women! It's the sole reason I work out. To be sexy and max out my looks. It also motivated me to eat cleaner, which actually helped a lot with anxiety. When I "didn't care about women" (as I told myself) I was skinnyfat, ate fast food all the time, dressed like shit and was scared to talk to strangers. So, apparently, prioritizing women spills over into other areas and drives general self-improvement. Futurama explains this here:
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I didn't think the "Get Hung" guide would have girls eyeing my bulge. It did.
I didn't think that your exercise and diet advice would have girls checking me out. It did.
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