TOPIC: Wasted years, Regrets, Wasted Potential and Fear of ending up alone

Hello everyone
I came to this community because it seems you guys know my struggle better than any other community out there. I'll make it as short as possible:
>turning 24 in less than two months
>virgin, never kissed a girl, never had a gf
>tall (6'4'', solid 6-7/10, been working out for about 3-4 years)
>nicely dressed, good haircut
>no self-esteem, depressed and generally hopeless

I'm in a constant struggle. Not a day goes by without me regretting how I spent my youth. I was a huge loser, addicted to video games, shy, hated going out, got nervous around women and managed to waste YEARS of my life dreaming of my crushes without making a move and when I eventually did, I was rejected every time. Last year, I got closer to this amazing girl from my classes. From the moment I saw her I knew she was perfect for me in almost every way. I put her on a pedestal so hard she must've gotten vertigo. There was definite chemistry between us and for the first time in a long while I believed that I had found someone special who liked me back... but I waited... and waited... and waited... until recently I hear that she's hooking up with some guy. I naturally panicked and finally asked her out, to which she replied "I'm single, but still taken, I'm sorry". In a drunken stupor I texted her to tell me there was never any chance so I wouldn't keep on regretting my inaction, so she confirmed I was only ever a friend to her, but I don't know if I believe it. I believe it was my absolute failure to flirt and make my intentions known that drove her away.
Now, I'm left with nothing. I've been going on date after date (some from online, some from IRL) to find someone as quickly as possible before I turn 24. There is this one girl I'm seeing that clearly wants me and we will be watching a movie at my place in two weeks, so I think it should be possible to do the deed then, but here's the thing: I don't like her. Casual sex was something I wanted for a long time, but not anymore. I yearn for a girlfriend to spend time with, to enjoy life with, to share the world with. I know that the romantic shpiel and friend-backdoor-gambit will never get me a gf, but that is what I truly want, to fall in love.
I realize that losing my v-card is the first step, but I'm so hung up on this other, perfect girl. I know I will never find anyone like her again and that soon, all good women will be married or taken for life and I will either end up alone or with someone I resent.

How did it all go so wrong? I wasted my youth and I will never get it back. All the potential I had, all the gifts... wasted. If I get to have some relationship experience in the next few years, it will still be a miracle for me to find "the one". I took too much time to get into dating and I feel like my constant loneliness and the attached regrets have damaged me emotionally for life. All good women I met over the years have rejected me and I don't know if I should lower my standards just to not be alone, but then what is the point of a relationship if you can't be happy? This one girl has shown me what amazing girls are out there, and that I'm not good enough for them.

It hurts so much to be alone in a sea of happy people. I feel like a freak. Is it still possible to lead a normal, "happy" (love) life? I can't find the hope anymore...

Vitamin,
First off, welcome to the forum. Conrats for taking this step. I don't think you'll regret it if you can take action and do some of the things that people will recommend to you here.
Your situation is not uncommon and fortunately, not at all hopeless.
I will let some of the guys on here who have been in exactly your situation help you unfuck your mind a little and recommend some first steps.
Don't be afraid to PM me if you're not getting any responses or if you just want the perspective of an older guy who knows for sure that you have incredible happiness and awesomeness ahead of you if you just stop thinking about the past and start working on your future NOW.

OK have at him boys.

Thank you Mokele,

I'm going through tough times and any bit of encouragement and especially perspective means the world to me. I'm currently trying to manage getting out of this post-crush depression and studying for my exams, but I'm struggling. Some success stories from people who were in my situation would help so, so much.

Thank you for your help, I'll take you up on your DM offer, if this thread doesn't pan out Maybe I posted it to the wrong board? I'm not sure where to write all of this...

I really resonate with the things you've said. It's important to remember that you are not the only person going through this. Also, it's important to take action. Best luck, man.

I see you're posting a journal, does that help at all? Thank you.

I never had a GF or friends, and I was very depressed until 20 and the first girl was fat, ugly and even my mom made fun of me for dating her (not in a mean way). Some "friends" did laugh at me in a mean way though. And in my journey, you can see how far I got in about 1.5 years. I'm not happy and there's still a lot of room for improvement but I'm better off than the "friends" that used to look down on me.

Look at Terminator's journey, he was a virgin until 25 and look at him now. He's a fucking alpha player. I really don't need to add more.

Yeah, it does. I'll be updating my situation mid-Jan and knowing that and that people will see it forces me to work hard to get that $$$$.

#Terminator
#thebastardfromglasgow

Get in here

Are those the only two success stories? :-/ Feels kinda hopeless, I was hoping there was at least a bunch of people who could reassure me.

Dude... that's not how I would go about asking for advice if I were in your situation. Those guys have legit experience. 20 years ago there weren't any websites like this and you'd be on your own.

Of course I want their advice, for sure! I was just hoping that maybe there were even more like us, but I guess I really am far off the center of the bell curve now... :-/ I welcome any advice!

Nah Vitamin I'd say you're surrounded by people just like yourself (or in similar situations that are a little bit better, just enough better; that they won't ever improve their lives because they are not AS SHIT AS YOUR's).

Figuratively speaking, if you feel like you're at the bottom of the hole... you're in a powerful spot my man.

You'll never have a bigger driving force to improve your life than you do RIGHT NOW

(seriously)

You don't want 200 guys chiming in saying a bunch of useless bullshit to make yourself feel better - you want (whether you know it or not) 2 very successful guys to chime in and give you an absolute ton of real, actionable advice.

Hopefully they have the time to do it (Terminator and Bastard)



But yeah man, if you actually read and understood what Mokele Mokembe wrote you wouldn't be saying such things like "I am really far off the center of the bell curve now" because you're not a special snowflake. Whether you're comparing yourself to people in this community or anywhere else in life, there's a lot of people just like you. People worse of than you, and people a bit better than you. Probably not a whole lot of people, comparatively speaking, that are A LOT better off than you (the place you supposedly want to be in)


Hope all this makes sense


Once you get rolling, you get ROLLING my man. Consume just about everything you can on here (GLL).

Buy a bathmate / Do kegels and Jelq's and Stretches
Read everything concerning women / Success principles
Listen to all the podcasts
Watch the Videos
Buy Kratom/Phenibut , USE THEM
Get Jacked / Ripped (even moreso than you say you are now)
Put up pictures of yourself and start logs so you're actually accountable
Get better style
Read DangerandPlay because your mindset sucks



after this thread dies out, you better -
do EVERYTHING all at ONCE and go all in.... otherwise you're wasting your time !!!

There are plenty of people like you but about most of them haven't even heard of this site. Look at it this way, there are 7 billion people in this world and this site gets 300k visitors per month. As a percentage, that's only 0.00004% of the world that visits this site per month and most of the traffic is the same people
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Btw, there's no such thing as normal so don't worry about it:

www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/...e-never-had-sex.html