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A few years ago I was suicidally depressed. I tried the usual anti-depressants and CBT, but none of it really helped me.
These days I'm pretty much over my depressions, only rarely feeling down and even then it is not so low and not for such a long time.
This is how I personally got this point:
Firstly, I moved to a different country to work. This took me away from my negative social circle and even some negativity I felt around my family. The culture-change helped me get out of the familiar rut.
Secondly, I have started reading and listening to self-help/development material. I have written down the 3 areas of my life I want to focus on and I try and use my time productively to moving in this direction. Having a clear directon and then moving towards this is a great mood booster. The times when I do feel low are almost always because I have been lazy and I haven't done anything towards my 3 areas. Rather than living in a world of misery, I can use my emotions as a thermometer to detect what behaviours and actions I need to do.
Thirdly, I have build strong habits and daily routines. I realized that improvement doesn't happen overnight and that you need to make progress one small step at a time via your habits. The best way I've found to create lasting habits is to start small (e.g. 'just go to the gym and spend at least 15 mins there') and slowly build up (e.g. 'do x kg bicurls + x kg squats..' to a full workout regimen), and then tie this behaviour to a trigger (e.g. 'As soon as I wak up at 8:00 wash, change and go to the gym' or 'after I finish work and get off the train go straight to the gym'). At first you will feel a buzz of excitement at starting a new, productive habit, but you will VERY quickly lose motivation. At this point you have to ignore what your feeling and DO IT ANYWAY, regardless of how you feel. Eventually you will do it without even thinking, it becuase automatic and very easy.
Nowadays I'm by no means 100% satisfied, but what keeps me away from depression is that I am always looking ahead, always striving and instead of giving up and not doing anyway if I hit a wall, I try now to problem-solve and move forward.
Hope this helps anyone out there who's feeling like shit right now, I know how it feels...
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