TOPIC: News stories like this make me think of my place in society.. :(

us.cnn.com/2016/12/05/us/justin-ross-harris-sentence/index.html

Summary of story:
-Man gets life for leaving 22 month old infant in hot car for for 7 hours, causing the infant's death
-Also convicted for trying to convince a minor to text him photos of her genitalia.
-Prosecution also found out that despite being married he engaged in online sexual communication with multiple women, including two underage girls, had extramarital sexual encounters in public places.

While reading the story I was like what a scumbag who would leave a infant in a car for 7 hours?
But then I realized that he had a child, a wife and even was even sexting and having affairs with other women on the side..

Compared to that I'm a 32yr old, never had a girlfriend or ever even had a girl talk to me, either offline or online.
So somehow my mental ilnesses make me even lower in the ranks of society than this obvious psychopath.. Make you think what it means to be socially awkward and introverted and be a socially retarded..

Hey man, not to sound like an ass or anything but I really think you should seek professional help. Like you shouldn't compare your life to a scumbag who purposely decided to ruin his own life.

Yes, why are you comparing your life to that of a baby killer and pedo?

Yo Deltsbrah, you're making me pause my video to post this (!)

I've read your posts on/off over the past two years on here...
Recently you wrote that your primary goal was: "Maintain a regular sleep schedule."

This doesn't seem like a bad goal (especially considering you are in-shape and want to be in better shape- SLEEP IS IMPORTANT AM-I-RIGHT). Your "hobby" is quite a big outlet for you, right? But it truly is more of an ESCAPE, right?

In other words, I'd gander you have an unhealthy relationship with the gym/fitness.
^Doesn't that sound really fucking ironic^ "UN-healthy relationship with, THE GYM?"
(queue the GLL-LonesomeBodyBuilder we've all read)

So if saying to yourself and your brothers here on GLL that your main goal, for the entirety of 2017, is to further continue your pursuit and maintenance of a SLEEP SCHEDULE- when you know goddamn well you have a lot of other goals that will actually make a DIFFERENCE in your life and the lives of others;

the baby girl or baby boy, and lady(s) you desire....

Your goal 2017 goal is bad enough given the context I just gave- but for it to be the EXACT SAME GOAL as the year before (?) Come on dude!

Sort of pisses me off man. You've been on GLL for years now.

You know what I believe your main goal should be?
(consider this advice with a grain of salt. I'm nobody to exalt, just feeling compelled to say something)
Find a mentor in your life. Someone who has accomplished some of the things you want. Maybe that mentor can be a new friend you found, and he doesn't really need to know he is like a mentor to you. I really believe you need to find someone else in your life who will motivate you beyond the level you've been able to evalate yourself to, by yourself. And no I am not saying find someone online, or anything like that. I'm saying, someone IN your literal life!

Just recently I reconnected with a friend of mine (JAMES). He is in his 30's (all of my friends are 30-35 it seems). He makes money in my field of study (not that I care particularly about my field over anything else; however it is beneficial for me to learn things from him as I am pursing something in my field- because that is my best orthodox option, clearly) and he has many life experiences I have not had. He does not have the life I want by the age of 35, not by a long shot! He wants much more out of life and so do I. We are FRIENDS.

I just recently got him into GLL. (the whole GLL-lifestyle, I have a knack for this) He bought a Bathmate already and is in love with kratom and wants to make a big order basically NOW. (whenever I acquire an income I'm ordering a BIG kratom order, spilt 4 ways because I have introduced kratom to friends of mine that are willing to do things like this with me because we all have mutual interests and desires!) He's gotten back into the gym with a friend of his from work, and I also offered him a bit of nutritional guidance (from what I know, it doesn't take much nutritional knowledge to make a real difference, honestly). I introduced him to a few GLL articles concerning women/pick-up/success-principles and he's off to the races. Despite me being an unemployed young man, I have things to offer him; just as he has value to offer me. And we are FRIENDS! We talk for hours, and I mostly listen because I have more to learn. We have mutual respect though my man...

Find someone out there in your life. Maybe it is a young guy like me
(I am 25, and I am YOUNG.. so much to learn)

Find someone whom you have value to offer. So you'll likely build a relationship with someone who is really looking to get into shape (what you're an expert in). I don't know man, but you absolutely have to find someone, Deltsbrah.


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Part of your goal is to find a job.
I am in the same boat; despite the fact I do not "just" want a "job". I want a great opportunity.

@kingkratom I'm pretty sure that I'd be up for paying for such a motivational/action-taking post written with so much enthusiasm and editing!

Very good job making this a better community!

@Deltsbrah I'm quite sorry for your situation and I'd honestly like to get a coffee with you, you seem very smart and disciplined(based on your forum presence) but you have unhealthy views on women amd society.

Realize you ain't no special snowflake, you already look good just lower your fucking standards go to the closest campus dressed "ok" like Leather Jacket-Shirt-Necklace-Bracalet-Black Jeans-Boots, ask around for stupid shit like where is the info center and while you ask actually introduce yourself to people.

Then you should approach 2-3 girl in a super-friendly manner(forget about the whole GLL PUA) and try to get their number because you genuinely like them and try to hang out with their social circles(use some excuse, like I haven't got many friends around here, where do you usually go on thursday night,..).

This is an example of what I'd do if I was low on time and not as "social" as I am.

Frankly when I meet guys like you irl(I'm studying engeneering so it's a frequent thing) I get them into the social scene and on their own feet(like once other guys invite them to parties and so on)!

I spoke to a guy(very smart and friendly just like you) and he fucking told me I was the second person he talked to in the class after like 2-3 months WTF!?!?

How do these guys expect to get laid?
It's just not how it works!

Well he was a weirdo but I got him into the class group and introduced him to my crowd and he's been chilling with some of the nerds.

I could literally write a Guide on this topic if anyone finds it difficult to make friends/break into social circles but my take is so much on the abudance while focusing on a bunch of friends for the long run.

Liger wrote: Hey man, not to sound like an ass or anything but I really think you should seek professional help. Like you shouldn't compare your life to a scumbag who purposely decided to ruin his own life.

ive been to see a counselor at college and then more recently a psychologiest but they cant do anything. if anything i know way more than them about my own condition. They just talk about irrelavent stuff like how was ur week, what did you do etc etc. they never get to anything relavent until the 30mins are up.
My most recent one literally never even asked me about never having a gf at age 31, or about my thinking constantly about suicide or any of that even though i must have visited him at least 10 times. He even knew that i've never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend lol) because the nurse who took my initial history asked me when i had my first GF/BF (they don't know ur orientation at that point i guess) and when i said i never have had one she instinctively said something like "oh im sorry" or something like that lol

At least the counselor at college (this was in 2008 whjen I was only 23) asked me about it, asked if i even wanted to have a GF so I told her no. she asked me if i was gay lol.
ps. it was a grad-student doing her Masters so she was pretty much my age haha

so yeah i dont honestly see the point. I cannot express myself like I do online with them either. its quite a waste of time.. oh eyeah and they keep putting me on meds that don't help plus put me to sleep for 16hrs a day which is terrible. I've tried phenibut myself but that doesnt work either. Alcohol doesn't work as well. I dont get more social I actually go more into my head and have this strange habit of trying to solve mathematical equations (not simple ones, more like proving Gaussian Theory, Stochastics, going thru the Fourier Transform etc, engineering/physics stuff) in my head when im drunk.. go figure...
Marijuana works but only to put me to sleep lol (only tried it like 5 times in my life im not a stoner).

only "drug" i use is nicotine.. but i stopped smoking in 2012 I just vape now.

Ajax wrote: Yes, why are you comparing your life to that of a baby killer and pedo?

im not saying im like him. I'm just contemplating how before he was caught, he had a much higher standing in society than me. I see this all the time, just plain bad people, and i don't mean people forced to do bad things because of being in bad situations, are loved by society because they are not socially retarded. its just has a twisted sense of comedy to me.

if you are socially deficient, you are at the lowest wrung of society.. i wonder how this played into the evolutionary process of humans when we used to live by the rules of nature..

Not saying you like, but saying why compare yourself to that dude. He is/was in a higher place because he went out and got it. He did something about it. Also, people thought he was an ok dude until they found out all the bad shit so it's not like people knowingly are talking and hanging out with a weirdo. Who knows, he may have been a nice respectful guy to others on the outside......hell the BTK killer was.

And there had been a social hierarchy since the beginning of time. It even takes place in the animal kingdom. It's just simpler than modern society.

Dude I feel for you.

For me a different story that provoke a similar feeling is when I read about guys with cancer. Yeah, it's sad, but then I read that they are surrounded by wife, children, and close friends.

I am much older than you. I have no wife, no children, no GF. Since this is Christmas time, I will be you Ghost of Christmas Future. For those who don't know, it's "A Christmas Carol" analogy

I've been have a stomach pain for the last 2 years. I am afraid it might be cancer. I also herniated a lumbar disc 1 month ago so I cannot work out or exercise, and I've lost 8 lbs. I am fortunate my parents are still alive, but they are too old to take care of me.

Imagine yourself 10-15 years from now. When you approach middle age you are actually at risk for real medical problems. You are in your 40s, you testosterone has dropped off the cliff. You hurt you back so you haven't been working out. So all the muscle you have now has turned into fat.

You have just been diagnosed with cancer and you have 6 month to live. You have no friends or family to take you to the hospital for tests or surgery. It's Christmas day today, you are stricken by another bout of excruciating cancer pain. You fell onto the floor of your apartment. You are alone. You have no wife, GF, friends, or family that you can call for help.

You lie on the floor, wincing, and thought back on your life.......

- You never loved anyone and on one has ever loved you.

- You were never passionate about anything, and you've never accomplished anything you are proud of. Sure you had a job and was not a leech to the society. Whoopie.

- All you have is a few photos of when you were buffed, but you weren't even ripped enough to enter competition or attract chicks on the beach.

- You looked back on those endless hours you spent debating guys on internet forums and realize what a waste of time it was.

- You then smiles and thought, damn, at least I banged a few hookers.




Our time on this earth is very very short. It's scary how little time we have. To be honest I am really scared. For you this is an imaginary future. Ghost of the Christmas future. For me this the The Ghost of Christmas NOW.

At least Uncle Scrooge has a nephew and Tiny Tim. You, me, we have nobody.

Yeah, I have sh-t for social skills. But what is the alternative. I don't want to look back on my life and see that all I did was argue with anonymous internet guys on why I don't like women and why I cannot make friends.

Bobby wrote: @kingkratom I'm pretty sure that I'd be up for paying for such a motivational/action-taking post written with so much enthusiasm and editing!

Very good job making this a better community!

Thanks a lot Bobby. I'd be willing to work on something with you; if it will help you out. I like the vibe and energy you are providing here in the GLL community man. The more good dudes we can attract to our community the better.

The irony about what you mentioned about my post , is that I honestly hate to hear/read/see anything that revolves strictly around "motivation". I feel like I always try to put more than just sexy-wording into my posts.

I don't know what I do, but I feel like what I write across the board is more than just purely "motivational", like "you can do it!" bullshit. Fuck that! Some topics that's all I can really do though. Like with this one.... Lol.

I really feel like I'm about to start fucking chicks again (got 3-4 from Tinder that are pretty keen on making something happen THIS WEEK or THE NEXT); so I know I'm going to be talking about those experiences and how they relate to P.E/Batemate and Kratom/Phenibut and what not.


Shoot me a PM about whatever aspiration you have concerning some work you'd like me to be involved in. Don't be concerned about what you'll "pay" me. I'm most interested in just staying busy and acquiring experience, as well as developing relationships with good people. Everything else will work itself out, I believe. And until I acquire a good opportunity or a good "real job", I have plenty of time to work on things.

KK

KingKratom nailed it,that's tough love in it's purest form.

Just go to the gym once a week and have a maintenance workout (believe me one good work out will do,I do squats 5x5x80%max if I only train once a week),eat at maintenance calories and make your one and only goal of 2017 to get laid and make a good social circle,everything you need to know is on this site,I'm learning from the answers that are given here actually,but it means nothing if you don't apply it,come on you have the looks,the confidence,I'm certain girls would love to take the time to talk to an alpha male like you,claim that pussy DeltsBrah,that pussy's owing you mad money,go collect that money with your camshaft if you're such an engineer,I want internal combustion with the opposite sex to be your only goal this year.Prove with her the different theories of sex.Just wear a differential.
If you're a sweet heart find a girl who loves you.Women are bored and are waiting for you,there's a woman out there who loves you.

KingKratom wrote: Yo Deltsbrah, you're making me pause my video to post this (!)

I've read your posts on/off over the past two years on here...
Recently you wrote that your primary goal was: "Maintain a regular sleep schedule."

This doesn't seem like a bad goal (especially considering you are in-shape and want to be in better shape- SLEEP IS IMPORTANT AM-I-RIGHT). Your "hobby" is quite a big outlet for you, right? But it truly is more of an ESCAPE, right?

No it's not. actually going to the gym is the only productive thing i do right now. plus I train more hours per week in Braziliian Jiu-Jitsu (train 7 days a week when I can but a slight glute strain has kept it down to like 3 days the last couple of weeks). I only lift weights 3 times a week.

IF not for lifting I'd literally just sit at my computer 16hours a day. When I mean I wanted to get a job I didnt mean I im in college or whatever and needed a part time job. I finished college and grad school in 2012, but I havent worked in 2 years since my last company let me go due to their contract with AT&T running out in Jan 2016.. (consequently i had to leave the US, move back home to Asia, then decided to move to Australia.. its a long story)

Also the sleep thing, I didnt mean im not getting enough sleep. I sleep 8-10hours a day (not hard when you are unemployed). I mean I would like to go to sleep at a normal time like midnight to 8am) instead of 7am to 4pm or something like that.. I dont think i've had a proper sleep schedule since I was 18years old, with my bizzare college like and then with work (usually worked from 10pm to 6am).

I said in that thread my primary goal is to find a job, because I have to since my savings are running out now and I won't make it past July of next year without a job.

GoGetter wrote: KingKratom nailed it,that's tough love in it's purest form.

Just go to the gym once a week and have a maintenance workout (believe me one good work out will do,I do squats 5x5x80%max if I only train once a week),

i dont think u guys get it. you're telling me to stop the only thing that gets me out of hte house.. like i mentioned I had a slight glute strain last coupel of weeks so I had to stop going to train in Jiu-Jitsu and take a few days off from the gym.. the days withpout BJJ I would literally stay in the house all day, play video games, watch youtube and fap to hentai all day..

if u tally up the time I spend on each activity, lifting only takes about 9hrs a week, BJJ takes 9hrs a week as well..
Video games, youtube and other stuff on the computer takes me 94hrs per week..

In fact my life would be much worse if I didn't start lifting.

I was always a fat as a kid. because I didn't do any physical activity at all (absolutely not exagerating here)
maybe I wasn't fat based on American standards but by the time I was 15 I was already 220lb, and a few incehes shorter than I am now. I would have just kept gaining weight.

If i didn't lift this would be me now:



quit literally from some guys from my past who were tha same size as me but kept getting even fatter as time went on.

Come to think of it when i was a kid my father would always tell me by the time I was in my 30s I would be fat as fuck, losing my hair, and need glasses (beaucse I play video games).

At least I proved all that wrong.






(pics taken yesterday no flexing, no pump, no filters or half-natty lighting tricks.. probably best representation of me when I go outside.

I know by most standards I'm ugly as fuck but at least I have managed to look the same as from when i was 18. people still ask me if i just moved here for college.