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Guys, I kinda up my 20s and so when I become 30 in about a year and a month from now, I feel like it's too late to have any fun with girls if I want to have a family of my own. Also, I scared of physically declining in my 30s even though I've always worked out hard and consistently. I am also afraid of my memory declining noticeably too. Plus, after I graduate with my masters degree for my healthcare profession that I am working towards, which won't happen until I am 31 years old, I am thinking about going to PT or med school afterwards. If I go to med or PT school in the future more years including my youth will be sucked out of me for many more years to come and then I may never have the chance to enjoy my life as a man who is still young. I'll have to start thinking about settling for someone. Plus, my parents are old for parents of others around my age (my mom is 68 years old, my dad will turned 75 years old and I am turning 29 next year), and I want my parents to see my kids and be their grandparents for several years. I am so stressed about my future that I don't know how I am going to solve this. I feel like I am really having a quarter-life crisis.
Well, I am so screwed because I am in grad school and I can't make pickup my number one #1 priority. I have to wait until a few years until I can make it my priority. Until, I'll always be in an uncertain state of never knowing if I will ever get good with women. Idk how I am going to keep living on like this.
ULTIMATELOSER360 wrote: Well, I am so screwed because I am in grad school and I can't make pickup my number one #1 priority. I have to wait until a few years until I can make it my priority. Until, I'll always be in an uncertain state of never knowing if I will ever get good with women. Idk how I am going to keep living on like this.
Dude you've gotta take control of your own life.
I left UCLA to do this stuff.
Chris left law school.
Take responsibility for yourself. It's YOUR life. No one else gives a shit what happens to you
Lay Count: 96 (30 from cold approach since finding GLL)
1. Pay myself $5000/month from my business
2. Quit kratom completely (DONE)
Today I'm telling the people I started a company with I'm quitting.
As soon as I talk to him again, I'm telling a high school friend who runs a successful marketing company who I'm working with on one big project and we have several other potential money makers in the pipeline, that I'm out. Entirely. With everything. Might come back in a few years. We'll see. But for now, I'm out. I'm not putting one fucking second of work into career/financial shit outside my day job anymore.
In 9-18 months, as soon as I have enough money saved up, I'm taking a year off from work, which will definitely derail my career and make a big impact on my financial lifestyle and stability, to do nothing but try to get laid. I'll do it sooner if it's practical. I may even do it in a couple of months and get by on a part-time social job, if I get "scared" enough (specifically: more scared of not getting laid than potentially not being able to get by financially).
It doesn't sound like your career is fulfilling you. So then why pursue it? I am personally terrified of financial success, because it will consume my life and I will end up an old, wealthy, lonely, bitter man living alone in a giant mansion. I can't tell you how much that future scares me because I know, given my "default" personality (nerd), how very possible it is. Quitting my job entirely just to fuck around (literally) is the jolt to my subconscious I need. The only reason I'm not walking in tomorrow to my day job and quitting is because I'm not convinced it is feasible. Maybe I'll get even more serious about this and do it in a month, and just figure out as I go how to survive money-wise. Money is not making me happy. I have a six-figure job and enough money to waste quite a bit of it every month and still build a bank account. Doing computer programming all the time isn't fulfilling me. I'm not happy with my current life. So... I'm going to disrupt it. I'm going to throw it into the trash, even if I permanently ruin my upward mobility in my field, because that does not matter to me. I am unhappy and unfulfilled because I do not have a sex life. I don't care if I'm "gifted" or a right-brain prodigy or whatever. I'll throw that "gift" into the fucking trash because I'm a human, my sex life matters to me more than anything else, and the only way for me to fulfill what I know now is my destiny is to commit myself, which means paying the opportunity cost, to my #1 goal.
I've been hanging around GLL for 18 months now. Fucked two girls. Okay (especially since I started in a 4 year dry spell and was starting to get bitter and misogynistic) but not very impressive. Because this entire time, I've been half-assing and juggling it with other priorities, and taking months off from doing anything about it. Don't repeat my mistake. I am living example of Chris' 1st rule of success: nothing in moderation, dedicate yourself to and become obsessed with your #1 goal. You can't have two #1 goals. If you have to drop out of grad school to do this, will you? It sounds like it's that important to you. I'm quitting a company I spent the last 6 months slaving to build it's core technology. Because of this, I might end up not making a dime off any of that work. I. Don't. Care. However much money I could make will not make me happy. At best it would allow me to take 1+ years off earlier, but that's highly unrealistic and too much of a gamble. I can already feasibly do that soon enough with my one job, and I do not want to wait 9-18 months to have any sex life. I'm done, I'm at my breaking point, and I'm literally quitting all of this shit and returning to the AA program to finish it properly and work my fucking ass off getting into great shape, and then quitting my day job as soon as I can. I can't take this anymore, I can't stand the direction my life is moving in, and I have to make a big, dramatic break.
If you don't have a love life, it is human nature for that to become your #1 priority. That is more important than money or career, I don't care what anyone says. And it sounds like you know this is true. If you want to quit everything else and dedicate a period of your life (it's only a period) to figuring this out, then do it. Don't throw your life away being a slave for corporations droning away in their offices for the "prize" of a bunch of money that will buy stuff that won't make you happy.
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