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Trying to get my swagger back; where first? 12 Feb 2017 08:16 #277821

An update on my situation:

I'm feeling loads better, which I think is due to focusing on getting the rest of my life in better order first and building some much needed self worth. It's over six months since I made the original post and I'm quite happy that I've been able to make the changes I have.

The things which really made a difference over the long term are: lifting weights and training jiu jitsu again. Gradually improving my style (one item at a time), taking pride in appearance and realising how much confidence it gives when you're better dressed. And sorting my head and my ego out, so that I'm notconstantly feeling either anxious, angry or sorry for myself, and wondering why people are giving me a wide berth.

I think I've had to put my dating goals to one side to do this. If I was able to, I'm sure going out and sleeping with ten girls would've fixed me a lot quicker. However what I found from trying PoF and tinder was that the poor results I was getting were making me more depressed and angry. I needed (and still do) a big rethink of how to go about this, which I'll be going over to the online dating section shortly.

So in summary, much better now and ready to start working again. Thanks for the help and advice here.

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Trying to get my swagger back; where first? 20 Mar 2017 03:40 #280182

hey man,

congrats on your transformation. many things you touched on but i'd just like to give a comment specifically on tinder/online dating

i've literally fucked so many girls from tinder since i've got it in 2014. the downside to this is, as you said, is that sometimes i am going/fucking so many girls at the same time i feel like it's too much, and sometimes (like now) it's such a dry spell and i wonder why i'm getting such poor results off from tinder. particularly for me, i resent it that foreign/white girls don't find me as attractive bec they don't swipe back (this is confirmed : when i was on vacation in europe and north america last year and two years ago, i absolutely got no matches). tinder still has that basic element of GLL's numbers game - yes i've fucked a lot, but for each girl i've fucked maybe around 20 girls were unresponsive. and when you are in that dry spell phase, i commiserate that it's not a good feeling at all. it makes it worse bec i tend to lose focus (as is happening now, i should be studying), and i use tinder even more to compensate

anyway just sharing my current mood. so good on you for cutting back from online dating to focus, i wish i had the same willpower as you to cut off
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