TOPIC: Will I ever find an amazing girl who will really want me?

ULTIMATELOSER360 wrote:

Terminator wrote: You know what I think your main problem is OP? Desperation. If it seethes off you even half as bad in real life as it does through your post, you're fucked because no chick is gonna wanna be with you. I'm sorry, but that's the cold hard truth.

As long as you covet that which you do not have, you will be unhappy. Only when you realize that there is nothing lacking, will the world be yours and full of possibility. I'm paraphrasing a man much wiser than me, but it took me years to finally figure this out. Let me explain:

In a couple of years I've gone from a virgin to having 26 lay count and I've had loads of chicks love me unquestionably. It never made me feel any more special. It really didn't. I'm still the same man with the same insecurities about myself. And I recognize the mindset in you - you could get 100 lays and still be unhappy and stressed out about your sex life. You must first learn to love yourself, and only then will things start to fall in place (I'm still in this phase myself).

What I would suggest to you is take a break to realize what you already have. Remind yourself of all the good stuff in life, how privileged you are to breathe the fresh air, have two legs that you can walk with. Taste good foods and enjoy good drink. Visit your family. Spend time with friends. Then change setting - travel somewhere. Experience something new. Life is fucking awesome as it is, 99% of fun happy things you don't need chicks to do with. Don't look at yourself down bro. Admire all the good things in you.

This is probably too philosophical for you so I don't expect you to be able to take this into heart. But some day you'll understand.

Edit: Holy shit, reading alphabeast's post above I just realized something about myself -- the reason I'm still unhappy is I never changed into the person I want to be. I just got laid by taking enough action as my loser self. Ultimately this is a journey into something much bigger - chicks should just be on the sidelines, cheering you on as you win the race that is your life.

And who's gonna cheer for the loser? That's right, no one.

Wait, you guys are all saying that no girl wants to be with a man who feels so sorry for himself and is not happy with his life. Yet, Terminator, u just that there are guys out there who have been unhappy even though they have gotten 100s of lays. So, how do those guys hide those negative thoughts feelings in them while still getting laid so successfully?

Sandshark wrote: It took Chris 2 years to hit his peak.

In general, he says that your first year is about getting your looks and style down, beating your AA, and getting a few lays through online dating / social circle / approaches.

Your 2nd year will be better than the 1st year, 3rd year will be better than 2nd.

That being said, Richie went from being a virgin to being at 19 lays in 9.5 months, so things can turn around quick.

Honestly man, you sound like you should just take a leave of absence and go move somewhere with a lot of hot girls and with a GLL guy who will mentor you as long as you legit take action. Drive for uber or something just to pay the bills. Then after 2-3 years, go back to school.

Richie and I are moving to LA in August if you want to join us. PM me. I'll give you my number and we'll talk on the phone. I did the same thing with Richie before he moved here.

With your depression, inexperience, big workload, etc. I just don't see you pulling this off solo. And if you don't do it, it will keep eating you up inside.