TOPIC: slippery slope into misogyny

I've never been like this before. Or rather, maybe a bit, we all have, but lately it has been getting worse. i am more pissed, angry, upset whenever women flake or act like they do. It is weird because I'm supposed to be used to it -- I thought I actually was -- but the past few days have been really depressing

i won't go into much detail except one example, but basically i've acted... i dunno, too aggressive ? really angry, like i blow up. like sometimes even unprovoked (or maybe a bit, but not too much to warrant my behaviour)

for example (and this is just one instance, like in the past two days i've raged too), this girl from Tinder i was chatting up before (and then on her viber, she gave me her number), suddenly messaged me just this morning out of the blue. keep in mind, last time we had contact was late september, and we only talked on the phone once before; she would either usually not reply, or not pick up. here



by this point my temper was getting the best of me, she wouldn't pick up my calls, so aside from my rude texts i also posted rude comments on her Instagram account (she had just followed me, this was after i spent the whole of september asking for her account)



i won't post the rest of the convo bec it is just too depressing and spiteful. suffice to say that she is "never talking to me again"

i was angry bec i felt like she was too nonchalant about it -- she never replies, never returns my calls, and suddenly here out of the blue she messages me whenever she wants thinking that she could just expect me to forget that ? i dunno guys, tell me if i'm justified in feeling just a little pissed. NOT my overreaction, that sure as hell was awful maybe i could have communicated my annoyance more subtly

i dunno, maybe i've been feeling really depressed lately. i haven't had sex in a while- i'm seeing a fitness girl for quite a while but she won't put out until boyfriend/girlfriend, i just got a handjob from a girl last monday i'm not even attracted to (so never called her again), have an upcoming tinder date on tuesday (she looks great, not bitchy, and have the same interests, but i also mildly lashed out at her and while i was able to recover, i think the damage has been done), but aside from that it's been a dry spell. i've heard that maybe dry spells cause some sort of depression ?

either way i'm not proud of my actions i feel awful (but morbidly satisfied for calling out a girl on her bs ??), but the weird thing is that even before and during my outbursts, i already knew this wouldn't help anything -- heck, the girl was interested in me, she messaged me, even put up with my initial shit ! and she had a great body (gymnast). objectively, the moment she messaged me again i knew if i just played it cool and don't make a big deal - hell, just be a normal person -- this could turn into something, but i knowingly threw all that shit away.

i guess i have this constant visceral need to call girls out on their shit -- which isn't plenty helpful/healthy, but i dont know why i can't just get used to it even after so long. I repeat : I am quite used to this (in the sense that i have so many experiences already under my belt) when girls "flirt and flake", usually i just don't mind it or yeah get pissed a bit but move on

plus, two days ago and also yesterday, i relapsed back into (femdom) porn. so yeah self-esteem pretty low nowadays. maybe i have anger management issues ??

not asking for sympathy here, my recent actions have been rude and hateful. i've seen extreme expressions of this on TV like those virgin kids who go on shooting sprees bec they feel like they don't deserve the crap they get. i'm not saying i'll go do this lol, but i'm afraid how this might transform into a slippery slope, and i need some help to keep my shit together

sorry for the ramble, this particular incident happened just this morning and my mind has been/is still a mess. like it all happened so quickly

I think youre making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. that girl was obviously not taking you as seriously as you were taking her. I have done that too. so what? you felt the need to blow up on her and you did... congrats, you did what you wanted to do and it probably felt pretty good. I have blown up on random POF girls before. no big deal. Just relax and do what you want boss

Big Sexy wrote: I think youre making a bigger deal out of this than you need to. that girl was obviously not taking you as seriously as you were taking her. I have done that too. so what? you felt the need to blow up on her and you did... congrats, you did what you wanted to do and it probably felt pretty good. I have blown up on random POF girls before. no big deal. Just relax and do what you want boss

Yeah I get that, but I also regret it a bit -- who knows, maybe i could have set up a date and eventual lay if i played it cool. and i just didn't wanna have to be (too) rude-- douchebag yes, but not rude
_{but i do admit, it did feel pretty good haha}

thanks tho, i'm glad to know i'm not the only one who's done this. BTW, i've read your logs, really good shit there man

Aw shit dude. We all do this. In fact, I just did this exact shit to a hot black girl the other day. She wouldn't answer my calls EVER, but she wanted to text. You'll learn not to waste time on girls like this. Girls that like you will almost ALWAYS answer the phone.

Not a big deal man. Do what you want. If you wanna tell a chick every now and then that she's retarded, do it. Big Sexy is right. Just relax and do what you want.

This won't be the last time that a girl does this to you man. Learn to love it and laugh at it lol, although I know it's hard AS FUCK to see the humour in these retarded girls some time.

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Let me make this clear to y'all motherfuckers because a lot of people don't seem to understand. I didn't read the text convo, but I don't really care.

It is not misogyny if you're angry a women for being stupid, mean or rude. Misogyny is the hatred of women for simply being women. You're mad about something else.

When you go around in public do you think "wow look at all these bitches everywhere"? Of course not. The only reason you're angry is because of this particular woman and of all the women in your past that acted like that.

You're not hating the gender, you're hating the behavior. And though there's a high correlation between the two, there's a difference.

alejandro,
It's pretty typical to feel this way when you're expecting normal human interaction. Unfortunately that's not what goes on in text convos with strangers.

You're feeling this way because you're letting yourself get invested in the girl before anything has happened.
I suggest setting some boundaries for yourself so this sort of thing is less likely to happen. e.g., since they're all just a bunch of electrons until you actually meet them in real life perhaps decide that you will only exchange enough texts to pitch a meet a few times and then you're done, move on, no more fucking around. Having some rules like that can help you from getting too wrapped up in a 'text relationship' with someone you don't even know yet (and is probably just attention whoring anyway).
Know what I mean? Kinda silly to let yourself get all worked up over a girl you haven't even done anything with.

thanks bros, glad to know i'm not alone here. for a moment i thought i was already toeing the line

Poseidon wrote: You got nice muscles, bro.

Tinder girl seems like a weirdo.

Stay pimping.

thanks man you referring to my avatar ? i don't have it up on my tinder profile tho

@Mokele Mbembe, I get that but sometimes it even happens to RL relationships of mine. All my past "exes" or flings have always told me that I had a short fuse. you're right i shouldn't let myself get affected by total strangers though

Most girls are fucking stupid. Accept it and just laugh it off. Don't get me wrong. We all get mad at girls sometimes, but I think you need a thicker skin man. If you get this mad at random girls online who based on the texts didn't really do much wrong (FYI most random chicks you meet online won't want to talk on the phone) I can't imagine how you will react in night life when random whores push you out of the way slap you, cuss you out, and throw water on your face - for asking them to dance with you.

What about cold approach? Better, but expect a ton of flakes/wasted time/rejection. Expect girls to tell you they'll meet you somewhere than never arrive or answer your phone call. Shit like that happens all the time.

There are sweet girls out there that have some semblance of intelligence and decency (well at least they appear to be sweet at first). However, nearly all of the "keepers" aka decent human beings look for a BF. If you go for girls looking for sex rather than a relationship be prepared to deal with the bitchiest of the bitchiest and the stupidest of the stupidest (no, I'm not saying all girls that are looking for sex rather than a relationship are like this - just be prepared).

If you don't want to drive yourself crazy with anger, again you need to learn to laugh shit off. Me and my friend have been getting girls together at bars/clubs now for over a year and guess what meeting a bitch that isn't batshit crazy or satan's daughter herself in this environment is a rare occurrence (okay, I'm exaggerating but most of the girls we meet including the ones we fuck make us angry/annoyed). We deal with all of the incredible amounts of bullshit we experience by laughing at how retarted the girls are. Plus we have good stories to tell.

If you want to avoid misogyny find a nice shy GF that's cute - like a 7 out of 10 who doesn't have a social media account (or barely uses it), doesn't go out clubbing/partying, is feminine, respects you (of course, for that to happen you must be a man - not a boy - with ambitions first), and is a positive caring person. I promise these girls still exist in America, you just need to look in the right places.

If however, you choose to continue pursuing sluts you will learn many many unpleasant things about women in the process that have the potential to turn you into a misogynist - if you are irrational and assume all girls are this way.

Don't regret your act. It is part of the process.

Now you are mad at girls and you argue with them.

But in the future you will simply learn how to recognize girls that don't like you and just stop communicating with them.

I used to be very mad at girls that :
1. Gave me their phone numbers
2. Answered my texts
3. Accepted a date with me
4. Went to the date with me
5. Aaaaaaaaaand nothing happened to the date (because resistance to every of my moves)

I was : "WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU DUM BITCH ?!? SO YOU GO TO A DATE WITH ME AND THEN YOU HAVE YOUR BULLSHIT BEHAVIOR ?!? IF YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN ME JUST DON'T COME TO THE DATE !!!"

But the reality is that you must not confuse signs of interest with actual interest. When you talk to a girl that likes you, you just feel it, you just feel : "damn this girl likes me !". And vice versa : if there are signs of interest it doesn't mean that the girl likes you. After a while you will feel : "this girl is so laughable : she shows signs of interest but I feel that she doesn't like me hahaha learn to be logical stupid human !" You will think she is very stupid but you will not feel angry, you will feel superior.

P => Q
Yet P then Q
But you cannot say : yet Q then P

P = girl likes you
Q = she shows signs of interest

You can also conclude :
Not Q (no sign of interest), then not P (she doesn't like me)

my advice

1) force yourself to exercise and clear your head.

2) go out somewhere and be around women. Just being somewhere like the mall with tons of girls always helps remind me how many girls are actually on this planet. Go out and compliment people. It might not seem related but when you go out and make someones day by giving a simple compliment you will feel better.

Did you have any kind of relation to this girl other than just texting with her?