TOPIC: Reviving my College Experience

Hey guys, new here. Hope you're doing well. I'm in college right now, and I kind of botched my experience. All hope isn't lost though. I have 3 semesters left, and I've only had sex with 6 women: pathetic, I know haha. I want to boost it up to 20(some hot sorority and music girls too) before I graduate. I'm willing to do whatever it takes.

I read the article on The Hierarchy of College. I'm kind of a loner and only have a handful of friends so I'm not exactly part of the hierarchy. I am in a frat, but not a white one. Also, I'm kind of a loser in there due to various things like not being able to dance, being a nerd, and not knowing enough about pop culture. But then I heard the podcast on beating the college system, which gives me hope. So how should I go about salvaging my college experience? I already know that I need to focus on looking good(self improvement) and doing approaches(numbers game) both at bars and some on campus, along with making more friends/expanding my social circle. Someone had recommended 3 Approaches a Day for me, on or off campus.

But do you have any more tips on what I should be doing on the macro level: how to get invited to parties, where to make cool friends, and how to do it as a dude not in the top 20% of the college hierarchy? I definitely need a good game plan: I'll do whatever it takes to salvage my college experience before I graduate.

Thanks!

What are your goals? What are you looking for out of the "college experience"? Do you want to party and do all that stuff or just fuck hot 18 to 22 year old girls?

If you're just looking to fuck, I would recommend focusing on that -- beating AA and getting your style, physique, dating profile, etc together.

I used to feel like I missed out on college, but I really just wanted sex with young -- which is something I beelive I can achieve long after college.

I missed out on college too. Didn't get my shit together til about 28. You can still hit on university students even after you graduate, so don't worry about missing out. I hit on girls on campuses all the time, and most of my lays are aged 18-21. (I'm 32).

Hey man,

Do not beat yourself up. I was in the best fraternity on campus and had success with a lot of girls. I still feel underachieved. If you are on the back end of college, you should hit up the bar scene if there is such at your school. The past 2 summers at college were incredible since I had some guys to go out with. Hit the gym, find some cool friends who want to go out to the bars and pull. College status is not end all be all.... believe me.

Dude in our generation the college scene can be very weird. Take the initiative and go out to the bars and look good. You will find a lot in that. Status only matters in college when you are a freshman or sophomore. The older girls will be receptive to you at the bars if you put yourself together.

I'd like to go to parties. I'm already doing that, so I'm not too worried about that aspect of my college experience. I do want to go to some more white ones though... So I gotta make more friends with white frat guys. How would you go about doing that?

And I'm definitely trying to fuck these college girls. I think I'm going to have to just Cold Approach really hard at bars and clubs if I want to succeed this month. Which I will.

KillTheInnerLoser wrote: I missed out on college too. Didn't get my shit together til about 28. You can still hit on university students even after you graduate, so don't worry about missing out. I hit on girls on campuses all the time, and most of my lays are aged 18-21. (I'm 32).

Thanks dude, that gives me some hope! I absolutely will not lose.

MaxYourself wrote: Hey man,

Do not beat yourself up. I was in the best fraternity on campus and had success with a lot of girls. I still feel underachieved. If you are on the back end of college, you should hit up the bar scene if there is such at your school. The past 2 summers at college were incredible since I had some guys to go out with. Hit the gym, find some cool friends who want to go out to the bars and pull. College status is not end all be all.... believe me.

Dude in our generation the college scene can be very weird. Take the initiative and go out to the bars and look good. You will find a lot in that. Status only matters in college when you are a freshman or sophomore. The older girls will be receptive to you at the bars if you put yourself together.

Definitely. I need to work on myself and approach hard for the rest of this month. I'm going to have to get around my low value at the moment by going hardcore in the approaches.

First off, sex with 6 women isn't pathetic. That's around the lifetime average for a man in the US, so you are way ahead of schedule. That alone changes your narrative.

You've already received advice but still asking for more. Instead, let's focus on more ACTION and less thinking.

You're in a frat. You should be leveraging that to the max. You have free access to a social circle, fun parties, etc. If your mates aren't complete jackoffs I would go to them first. Who are the 5-10 guys doing the best socially? Ask them for help. Be humble and tell them you know that you're socially inexperienced and nervous.

Hopefully you can control it so it doesn't just become an excuse for them to get your as drunk as possible. Give yourself a 3 beer max on any given night. Tell them you want to learn how to be social and better with women, not win a drinking contest.

Win Big wrote: First off, sex with 6 women isn't pathetic. That's around the lifetime average for a man in the US, so you are way ahead of schedule. That alone changes your narrative.

You've already received advice but still asking for more. Instead, let's focus on more ACTION and less thinking.

You're in a frat. You should be leveraging that to the max. You have free access to a social circle, fun parties, etc. If your mates aren't complete jackoffs I would go to them first. Who are the 5-10 guys doing the best socially? Ask them for help. Be humble and tell them you know that you're socially inexperienced and nervous.

Hopefully you can control it so it doesn't just become an excuse for them to get your as drunk as possible. Give yourself a 3 beer max on any given night. Tell them you want to learn how to be social and better with women, not win a drinking contest.

Yeah, let's talk action! At the moment, I'm averaging 2 Approaches a Day. I'll bump it up to 3 in my last month of this semester.

I'm not on the greatest terms with some of my frat Bros but I'll definitely work that up too.

Personally I've been going on a 1 beer limit. I won't even lie to you, I could stand to lose 60 pounds. So my main focus before I graduate is getting this weight off me and going hard on my Cold Approach/Social Circle Game.

College is a weird topic, because while the usual rules still apply, it's kind of different in a few ways. When I was Uni, I just treated it as a big nightclub and hit up all kinds of girls. It was pretty fruitful. Got with 40 girls during that time.

However, I feel like if you're just in college to get laid, maybe you shouldn't be there.

Moreover, the idea that sex just ends after college is a mainstream idea. It's an idea for losers, basically.

Leaving college didn't affect my ability to get laid, literally, at all. In fact, it made it even easier, because now I don't have to waste my fucking time doing essays, studying for exams, going to class, and reading idiotic textbooks filled with useless abstract bullshit.

Last night, I just tagged one of the hottest girls I've been with in the last two years. And I'm 7 years older than her.

The idea that sex just disappears when school is over is funny to me, but also kind of sad, but not in a pitiful way, just sad.

It's a damn shame there are so many guys out there who are deluded into believing these completely non-sensical ideas.

Another hilarious non-sensical idea is that being older stops you from getting laid lol. Man, as you get older, it just seems like women are more and more attracted to you all of the time. Then again, I'm not 40 yet, I'm only 27. But thus far, it's rare that girls are like, "ew, you're 27."

It's happened a few times, but guess what? The next girl will be like, "oh my god, you're so mature and sexy."

I'm ranting now, so back on topic.

I can't lie to you and say that I figured out how to do the social circle thing in college because I didn't. I just treated it as a nightclub and asked girls out on dates. Probably not the best way, but it got me laid for sure.

And dude, if you need to lose 60 pounds, that's a huge hindrance. That's a massive accomplishment on its own.

In my honest opinion, I would just work on losing that weight during your college career and getting good grades/building solid relationships with people you might want to know in the future.

Don't worry about getting laid, because I said above, your sex life doesn't stop after college unless you allow it to.

setzer777 wrote:
Yeah, let's talk action! At the moment, I'm averaging 2 Approaches a Day. I'll bump it up to 3 in my last month of this semester.

I'm not on the greatest terms with some of my frat Bros but I'll definitely work that up too.

Personally I've been going on a 1 beer limit. I won't even lie to you, I could stand to lose 60 pounds. So my main focus before I graduate is getting this weight off me and going hard on my Cold Approach/Social Circle Game.

Off to a good start. So, invest in your brothers more. Join them to watch the basketball game. And perfect for your situation: start gathering a group of guys at the gym. You need to lose weight, so workout with your boys. You'll gain a lot of respect in short time if you take it seriously.

Win Big wrote:

setzer777 wrote:
Yeah, let's talk action! At the moment, I'm averaging 2 Approaches a Day. I'll bump it up to 3 in my last month of this semester.

I'm not on the greatest terms with some of my frat Bros but I'll definitely work that up too.

Personally I've been going on a 1 beer limit. I won't even lie to you, I could stand to lose 60 pounds. So my main focus before I graduate is getting this weight off me and going hard on my Cold Approach/Social Circle Game.

Off to a good start. So, invest in your brothers more. Join them to watch the basketball game. And perfect for your situation: start gathering a group of guys at the gym. You need to lose weight, so workout with your boys. You'll gain a lot of respect in short time if you take it seriously.

Yeah, I'm on it. I'm taking this stuff very seriously. You know, weirdly, my gut is telling me that even if I just lost the weight, had friends, got good grades, and tagged a handful more girls(say 6) I'd be decently satisfied.

But honestly, I'm here to go big or go home in all areas.