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1) The size of your school
Medium-sized, ~12000 undergrads. George Washington (GW).
2) More about the school (it is a commuter school or does it have 30,000 kids living on campus?) -- Almost all undergrads live on campus, as do I
3) Your current social life (friends, cliques, greek life, sports/activities)
So I have plenty of friends, but definitely not the kind you'd perceive to be cool and even want to go out that often. I'm definitely not part of any social cliques that you would consider top-tier, although I did pledge a middle tier frat this past spring, but am really not in the top social standing there by any means.
4) Your height, weight, what you look like (getting laid still comes down to look/sex appeal)
I'm 5'9, 153 lbs, and around 15% body fat (currently cutting down to hopefully 10-12% at 140-143 lbs). I've completely transformed my body since Fall of 2016, and have put on significantly more size than before, but I'm aiming for an ideal weight of 170 lbs while remaining ripped at 10-12% bf. I've significantly increased my knowledge on working out and diet and lift 3x a week, cardio almost every day while cutting w/ BCAAs. Although I have a good amount of work to be done here, I think I have the knowledge to finish "transforming" over the next year.
A little bit about me:
I went to an incredibly nerdy high school and in general am a pretty nerdy person. I am a minority. I was prude as hell in high school and only until about a year ago, I was firm on not having sex until marriage for religious reasons. I have never played a sport and was pretty physically unfit until recently. I'm decently outgoing and definitely do not think I have social anxiety of any sort, but my closed-off high school experience has left me pretty socially inept in terms of talking to girls and getting laid (all the girls at high school were prude as fuck and wouldn't want to have sex or even anything remotely sexual until after marriage). I got much farther with girls this year than I did ever before, but I got fucking played and became my ex from freshman year's bitch for the past year. Fucking wasted my time. I'm still a virgin and really hope to change that this next year. I also want to be able to stop getting attached to girls that are into me, and I know for a fact that its because of my insecurities and depressive past from high school, but I don't know how to change that. I did get some confidence this summer though because I invited my ex from high school to go clubbing with me, and managed to get her in bed with ease (she validated me in the uber on the way back to my place on campus, told me I looked like I've been hitting the gym and am way different than I was back in high school).
As a big city school, GW doesn't have a large prominence on greek life. However, I still feel I can move up in my frat if I improve my social confidence, style, and get better at talking to girls, but I don't know what my next step should be on this front.
My overarching question is, what should I next do for the rest of this summer/upcoming school year to improve my situation and finally get laid?
If any experienced guys who went to a city school could give me some advice, it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
GLL has a bunch of articles on college game, which is basically social circle game. Would recommend checking those out if you haven't
I hope your frat is kind of cool and does mixers with sororities that have somewhat decent girls. Unless things have changed in the past few years, the social scene in DC is not very big and it pays to be a top dog in a top frat.
For getting laid, see what alpha guys in your frat do at parties to hook up with girls. It will go something like this: get drunk, dance with girl, make out, bang.
If you want to be cool in your frat and potentially have more opportunities given to you (girls, etc.), take initiative: run for leadership positions, put together parties, bring girls through, be the guy that people want to be around. This is hard to fake IMO - if you are not a super social guy and/or not "fratty," fitting into that scene can be hard. Also, I wouldn't put in the time and effort if your frat doesn't have a good rep.
Alternatively, put yourself in a different position where you can meet girls and are preferably the cool guy in your group. Examples would be school clubs that aren't necessarily frats like ballroom, etc. I'm sure there's at least one group that you're interested in that also has chicks. With college, it's mostly just being social, seeing people (girls) you know at a party, and alcohol being involved. If you are cool, most of the work will already be done for you, you just gotta close
You could also get some friends and live in a house together. Invite girls from everywhere - class, other parties you've been to, maybe even "daygame" but in a casual way (like get the number and just invite them out as a social person vs. a "creep" - you'll get a bad rep otherwise), and just throw crazy parties. With that kind of situation, if you are the host, you can easily pull multiple times in one night because of insane logistics (literally in the same house) and the college atmosphere (alcohol and crazy, young sloots)
Former 21 year old virgin
2013: 1 lay
2014: 0 lays
2015: 7 lays
2016: 38 lays
My frat has a really good rep on campus (not necessarily as the coolest one, but in incredibly good standing with the university and girls generally perceive us to be not creepy/throw parties well). I've started the process of getting more involved with the frat by coming around to the house more often, getting to know the guys better and being more involved with social programming (I'm on that committee and am good friends with the chair, he and I both agree that our frat needs to throw down harder and hope to do that this next semester). To be quite honest, I'm not fratty at all, but trying to get there over time because it seems like my frat has a lot of potential and does have a pretty good rep that's been going up fast over the years. The house idea is definitely a solid one, will look into that for next year with some friends because as you said, the logistics are quite insane.
Do you think it'd be worth my time at all to start AA? Or is that not a good idea because of the "creep" rep that I could get on campus?
Yea the house idea could be good, just make sure it's off-campus.
Off-campus could be good for the frat thing as well, maybe you and some of your bros that you live with could host parties there since the school might be anal about stuff on-campus
Re: AA program. I wouldn't. Your campus isn't that big. I don't think approaching random girls is something you need to worry about so much in college. IMO that's more for when you're graduated, living in a new city, and don't necessarily have a social circle or environment (like a frat or college in general) from which you can meet girls via mutual connections. You're only in college once! (Usually, haha)
Others can chime in but I would focus more on being cool and socially connected, getting in shape, having basic or even "good" social skills, and knowing how to close when opportunities present themselves
Former 21 year old virgin
2013: 1 lay
2014: 0 lays
2015: 7 lays
2016: 38 lays
One thing that hasn't been mentioned yet, hit social media HARD, especially Instagram.
I notice that a lot of the guys I knew in college who did get tons of hot girls had a lot of Instagram followers among their classmates, 200+ likes on pics, and these were the same guys getting called to formals with the hottest sororities. If you go to these formals, notice that they will always end up on social media. Sorority girls have 1k+ followers if they are hot and so do most popular guys.
Get on social media because hot girls WILL be checking on your account to see if it is worth it to bang you and brag to their sisters about it. I skipped the social media phase in college, was way out of the loop.
Surprise parties will also be broadcasted on facebook as well.
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