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We study together and we are both in the same study group.
Things aren't formal though. She texts me alot. She's came over to drink with me and my friends and has came over to just chill with me.
Her vibe seems very flirty and she always tell me how cool I am and how I live a interesting life.
Last week I was telling her about this place in the city that has good mojitos and she suggested we go this wednesday(today).
I tell her we can do that and go. She asked me were we still on over the weekend and then asked me again after class. So it seems she is more invested than I am at this point which is good. This whole time I have just been playing it cool and not really making an aggressive "yes" or "no" move on her.
However, I think its time. So today we plan on getting pretty tipsy over mojitos. So I am considering going for the makeout and seeing what happens from there if the vibes are good. This will let me know if things are smooth to move forward or if she is just being SUPER friendly(Although chicks are typically not this friendly because they are fearful of leading a guy they DON'T like on).
Thoughts on the situation? If it turns out she has just been "super friendly" and doesn't want to makeout or kiss, then I know that it was a false alarm. We have the type of relationship where I don't think it will make anything weird. I won't take it hard and in fact I really don't even care what happens. She's still a cool chick.
I'd rather pull the trigger and miss rather than regret never pulling the trigger.
You've already said it. Pull the trigger, man. But there is one thing. You should make out with her before drinks, so after drinks it will be MUCH easier to come home with her as she already knows you are sexually interested. I would do this way.
So it was interesting. She texts me and asks whether she should wear heels or not. I tell her to wear whatever she wants and feels like wearing...
And then she comes over my place before we leave and tells me she is wearing my favorite perfume I like.(she remembered this).
So at this point I knew it was a go.
Within a hour of being out, we get drinks at this one place, then I tell her we are leaving to go somewhere else and hop in a cab to go to another place. She tells me how she loves that I know what I am doing and where I am going.
At the next place, I put my hand on her hair grabbing lightly at her roots and makeout with her. Her tongue meets mine and things got pretty heated. We stop and after being at that spot for a hour or so. I then bounce her to a salsa spot. She loved that I knew how to dance and had a great time. I let her dance with other guys to show her I really don't care and just because we made out does not make her mine or I am not making any claims on her.
During the cab ride to the next spot I pull her close to me and then lay her down in the back of the cab. Lol It was pretty funny..The cab driver was just sitting there..No music. Just listening I guess.
The rest of the night went great. Today she texted me and has been talking to me since. We have math class together and we are both in the same study group, so it should be interesting to see if anyone in the group or class picks up on us. Lol I'm not gonna be hot though. I like being very low-key with my movements.
But yeah, it just shows that your instincts are usually right. Pull the fucking trigger.
OK congrats on moving things forward with this chick but two things:
1. You moved TOO SLOW and she was letting you know that. She gave you every indication that she wants you to lead and to validate her by telling her what you want. You need to do this pronto or you will lose her to a man who gives her this. So, TELL her to either wear heels or not -- and have a good plan for why you are choosing one or the other. LEAD-she's encouraging you to do this with her compliments.
2. You have to get her to sex at your next meetup ('date' I guess) or at least make every effort to do so. Even if she doesn't want to have sex and you don't end up having sex you have to make the effort or she will be insulted. Plan the date for sex and make it happen.
This chick is obviously very into you. Taking it slow or being timid now just works against you.
Yes. Agree with Mokele, the only one left thing to do is just fuck her. As Chris said, I grant you permission TO NOT BE SMOOTH. Really guy, this is pua arrogance to move girl from place to place. Your home should have been the second place you visited that night.
You should make out with her before drinks, so after drinks it will be MUCH easier to come home with her as she already knows you are sexually interested.
No no no wrong wrong wrong. Totally unnecessary. Can actually harm you in some cases. You should have made it very clear to the girl early on that you are interested by touching her/complimenting her looks. There is no need to makeout with her before taking her home. I actually think guys do that as an ego preserving thing. It's not for the girl, it's for you. You're making out with her 'just to be sure' she's really into you. If you made your intentions clear and you're on a date, there's no need for this. I've fucked probably 8 girls on the first date without ever kissing them. In fact, the only time I can remember making out with a girl before taking her home, I actually didn't get laid (until the 2nd date).
Really guy, this is pua arrogance to move girl from place to place. Your home should have been the second place you visited that night.
Correct. Reading about guys fucking around by 'bouncing' girls to multiple locations makes me want to drill a corkscrew up my nostril and pull out my brain.
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