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So My frats formal was this weekend (basically like a frat prom for those that don't know) and my buddy hooked it up with a friend of his date. She was essentially a blind date, both the girls came from another school. I got wasted and toward the end of the night my buddy was saying I had to apologize to my girl because I was being a huge dick to her. She said I kept calling her stupid and "the worst date ever". Although, I think this was said jokingly as I do call girls stupid in a playful tone quite often, usually it works better. The girl (my date) ended up being gorgeous, the type of girl I describe when I describe my ideal girl (physically)
Long story short she hated me said I was being too touchy about 20 minutes after I met her when all I did was put my arm around her which I would normally do to any girl, let alone my date. She also said I was being a dick and flirting with the bartender, not sure if thats true i just have a friendly joking personality. (that part was probably true) came to the conclusion she was just not sexually available or attracted to me and more or less a cunt. But today I found out she fucked another guy in my frat that night, he's white i'm asian but I would say other than that we're close to the same level of attractiveness.
My friend that hooked me up with this girl did agree that i was being a dick to her. I've hooked up with around 10 girls over my 3 years of college and they've all been girls Ive met out drunk/tinder hoes/ hitting up girls on FB I used to be cooler than in high school. I always seem to get fucked up by extremely hot girls like this one. Even now, I only met the girl for one night and probably will never see her again yet shes making me doubt myself.
Is it possible that I just lack social skills? If i was just "nice" to her would it have ended differently? Why do 9's and 10's always make me feel like i'm not good enough and they're unattainable? Is it possible that all the stuff I've read on this site actually made me worse with girls and normal social dynamics?
I told my buddy I was just too drunk and we laughed it off, but I don't think I was acting sloppy or incoherent even though I threw up a few times. I don't want to be the guy that can't get his own date and then subsequently needs to get hooked up with a hot one and then "ruins her night" Please help, any input would be appreciated I'm pretty bummed about this and don't know where to go from here.
I felt bad enough when I woke up that I texted her apologizing she came to another school and didn't have a good time and that I would make it up to her sometime. Partly cause she was super hot and I want to see her again and because my buddy told me I should. I immediately felt like a needy little bitch after the text, and she didn't answer
but I don't think I was acting sloppy or incoherent even though I threw up a few times.
Unless you pull it off great with other chicks while throwing up a few times I submit that you drank too much because you were not feeling comfortable and confident, and perhaps women you find very attractive are throwing you off because you lack a sense of entitlement around them.
Without knowing jack shit about you or the rest of your situation I suggest working on fucking lots of women and building that sense of entitlement, even if you have to lower standards a bit (easier done with the aid of erection/libido enhancement drugs if necessary).
That plus some regular FBs will help tremendously in getting your mind straight for this stuff. You may want to get good at sex too; while not absolutely necessary it can help boost your confidence around women if you know for sure that you can fuck them better than just about any other guy they could choose.
@scifen I thought she was just a bitch, but she ended up banging my boy like I said so Idk maybe I was just a jerk?
@mokele I threw up a few times to the side nobody saw, she certainly didn't. I don't think I was acting drunk, but you could be right. I'm tired of banging average-ish girls, this girl was the type of girl I've always wanted
You got her number right? Ask her out for coffee next week because it doesnt look like you're getting over this soon. She prob wont answer, but you need closure. You shouldve been over this by now. Been there done that.
You wrote that the guy she fucked was white and youre Asian, ask him how they hooked up. If shes a bigot, she just needed an excuse and labelled you a jerk.
My take? Get over it. You will never see her again.
I don't agree she was a cunt if his story went how he told it
1. You have never even met this girl so tonight is your FIRST IMPRESSION.
2. You get shit faced and are acting like a dick to her, still making a first impression.
I can't think of any girl, super sexy or not, who would have been happy/appreciated that. You just gotta feel things out, a lot of alcohol doesn't help you do that. If your goal was to fuck her, getting shitfaced and calling her the worst date ever probably wasn't the best idea.
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yeah ^ that was my objective conclusion johnson, but my ego wants to believe she was a bitch. You're pretty spot on though she said calling her stupid and the worst date was not a good first impression. Quite frankly i don't remember much of our conversation to recall if she had a good personality or not. Just going back to me believing that I lack social skills to court a hot girl in a date setting
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