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Plisken wrote: My only grief with ghosting concerns the ones where you've already had sex with the girl.
If you've got the lay, she HAD to be into you, so how the fuck does it happen?
Girls have a right to change their mind, you know I've fucked several girls too whom I really didn't care to see again after the fact. They probably wondered the same thing. Either that or they just accepted that sometimes all you want with someone is a one night stand to get your rocks off.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
I used to get really heartbroken / depressed when I got ghosted and a girl I liked stopped replying. It was a trigger for me to go into depression, and even engage in negative / self destructive habits.
Over time though, as many of you will know - rejection just becomes something that comes with territory and we get used to and accept with less emotion involved. Getting ghosted is no doubt a very shitty way to receive rejection - but it is also now just one of many things we have to deal with in our digital era of interactions. So it's more common and more current with the generation we are in. It's funny once these terms become something that is discussed on the internet and more prevelant, it's almost like girls identify and find comfort in engaging in the practice of them. "Oh I ghosted his ass lol". Good ol internet.
I understand why girls don't reply and ghost - it's to a degree anxiety on their part. Offering a reason and sending it to someone is both opening themselves up to judgement and forcing themselves to concieve a reason in their mind WHY. When actually there might not even be a clear picture of what that is until they confront it at the point of having to explain it. By ghosting, they can alleviate themselves of the stress and self consequence of having to conjure that shit up and send it to someone. So in the sense it's easier to just no longer exist in the interaction.
I also understand that the girls I am after - are girls a lot of other dudes and fellas at any given time are also after. So they are no doubt bomb-fricken-barbed with attention from all directions. Giving them a perceived value and sense of ego that entitles them to due unto others and ghost at will.
Social media has given girls a before now completely unattainable window of surreal-faux-celebrity-ism. Any decent to moderately good looking girl can now get drumloads of attention and validation thrown at them all day, every day (all night even - Indian guys on Facebook are up messaging our girls when we sleep). So for them - ghosting is a simply a clean cut way and easy way of NOT DEALING with dealing with something.
Being in my own shoes and having many periods of ups and downs - I can safely say in my periods of ups when I have girls texting me or trying to get ahold of me some I am just plain not interested in that even the thought of spending my time to further engage an interaction (keeping it alive) just creates a sense of reluctance. So for this reason, sometimes I'll leave it, and maybe intend to reply later... but hey guess what their message gets buried or I get busy with other shit. I am a busy ass guy, and I'm not even that socially engaged. I can only IMAGINE what it is like for a young hot girl getting texts and Instagram DM's and facebook messages and snaps non-fucking-stop.
So... why ghost? The easiest way for many people who are overloaded with modern day life and all the influences and bearing responsibilities to deal with something that isn't wanted - is to ignore it and not deal with it. Cell phones have given human beings the luxury of being able to terminate human interactions without any emotions or explanations involved. It's dirty, it's inhuman, it's digital... it's now just another part of modern life.
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