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I spent about a min or two on the cold approach so I ain't surprised I got this answer.
I might make this a text log I might not.
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Girls have zero balls and will make excuses to not see you even if they like you if meeting up is out of their comfort zone. Better to be sure than to pitch meet ups over text imo where you're the most likely to get flaked on.
This holds especially true in online which I would imagine you could relate to the most where girls will give out their number based solely on looks (aka if they're interested and attracted to you) only to flake out last minute and go silent over text because they pussied out of a meet up. Hearing your voice not only makes them more comfortable with meeting up with a complete stranger, but it's more likely you won't get flaked on or some shitty excuse imo.
Granted, I just realized he said cold approach instead of online, but still, the phone call will always have a higher rate of successful dates imo than throwing out text meet up pitches. I actually didn't start having high levels of success until I broke down the initial wall of comfort with a lot of the girls with a quick call to small talk before pitching the meet over the phone vs just T'ing up my contact list with a cut and paste text message trying to set up dates over a keyboard. The phone call also shows you have huge balls which 99% of guys don't do either so just further differentiating yourself from every other chump who's hit on her before. I constantly get comments on how shocked they were I called and how much balls I have. Makes a dif bro.
I get where you're coming from dc7, but in a way texting also screens harder. That way you screen out those shy girls who take forever to warm up to you. But yeah I guess it goes the other way too; sometimes after talking to a chick on the phone I realize I don't want to date her.
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yo DC, i have a huge problem getting girls from cold approach to pick up the phone. Actually no girl has ever picked up the phone when I called. What time of day do you call? I think that might be the problem because i always call during the working hours of the week (M-F 9-5)
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Honestly, I actually have the opposite experience than you DC. In the beginning I tried calling girls from online. Some would pick up, some wouldn't. Either way they always ended up flaking so I began just texting girls instead and I've had a lot more succes that way.
Could be interesting to try calling girls again though, just to reconfirm this.
@ Bad Idea Bear - I usually call the girls in the evening hours to ensure a higher success rate (unless it's the weekend)
@ the thread - I have used only texting and only calling and actually a combination of the two successfully with online and cold approach many times for all three
It always boils down to whether or not the girl is available/interested
And anytime somebody says that they tried one of the above methods and it didn't work, my usual response would be "well for how long did you try it? because I can go a whole month using either method without it working just because the girls arent available and then the next month all the sudden everything works no matter what"
That being said, I agree with DC and Chris that calling girls is generally the best (at least in America)
Bad Idea Bear wrote: yo DC, i have a huge problem getting girls from cold approach to pick up the phone. Actually no girl has ever picked up the phone when I called. What time of day do you call? I think that might be the problem because i always call during the working hours of the week (M-F 9-5)
I try and setup most of my dates on a non-busy night where girls are typically sitting in their room doing fuck all. Sunday nights are perfect for blitzing and trying to set up your dates for the week. I had a hard time at first getting chicks on the phone from online and cold approach because they are timid and may have never even met you (online) so they can get scared off by you calling out of the blue. My screening was also non-existent at the time and I was just doing small talk and shooting for the number like crazy in all approaches.
To get around this I started throwing out a text like "hey I'm just finishing up cooking something in the kitchen, I'll give you a quick call in 5 to make plans.". When they see this text it lets them get mentally prepared for the phone call and are more likely to pickup. Sounds dumb, but realistically, if you think logically, when you call out of the blue, they see their phone ringing and only have like ten seconds to prepare themselves and in my experience they just get freaked out are much less likely to pick up as it is someone they aren't entirely comfortable talking to on the phone as they barely know you (unless you have screened them super hard then it's usually irellevant). Keep in mind, most guys on here DON"T screen insanely hard like Chris does during cold approach or online, so I find using a strategy and doing whatever you can to get girls on the phone to be the best course of action for reducing flakes and setting up dates. If you have screened super hard and she's still responding to you, I think the method of asking her out is probably less relevant. I don't screen crazy hard though so what I have described above works well for me. Doesn't scare off the timid broads, but also allows me to get more of them on the phone where my date is more likely to get set up, and they are more likely to stay obligated to their commitment vs. being flakey on some plans they made over a text message with some random douche they don't even know from online dating, a 30 second conversation on the sidewalk, etc.
Thanks dude, it feels like ive been losing a lot of girls in between them responding to my text and actual dates. im tryin this right now with an asian girl i hit on yesterday and she hit me back with 'hold on i need to shower first'
Thanks for everything you guys. It's time for me to move on to bigger things!
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