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So english is not my first language and sometimes I struggle taking the hints.(looking at my lays, that proves that what you say doesn't matter as much as sex appeal and other things)
So last night I was at the gym and was texting this chick, and asked her out, but she said she was very busy, but the way she was talking about it is making me think that she was asking me out or making me ask to join her. Idk... read the convo, and let me know...
Is she asking me out or not? O.o
"yes i have plans, but i'm free X-night at Y-time"
(something along these lines cuzzz)
something i've learned so far.. is that saying 'yeah i'm free all week' or w/e... is a terrible idea. even if you're not busy, you're busy. she needs to know that she doesn't have the ability to see you at the time she wants to see you. she gets to see you when you can and want to fit her in.
but as i said earlier.. if i ran into this i wouldn't think to ask what others thought. i'd just say fuck it imma say something and whatever happens happens, haha. screen, get an answer.
lol- you added some more pics.. oh well. i predict this is your 11th lay
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[edit, disclaimer: OK rambling a little bit so don't be offended--some of this isn't directly related to OP but is relevant to a lot of what guys are doing on this board with these sorts of questions]
Some simple concepts to stick with:
-Girls DON'T like to be pinned down too specifically in commitments (they want to always have an out so they can flake)
-Girls DON'T want to be asked a ton of questions by a guy ('clingy, needy guy' type questions)
-Girls DO like to be invited/asked out by men
-Girls DO want men to 'be men' take the lead, make things happen, take responsibility etc.
Now, this girl is acting like she isn't ready to just up and commit to a one-on-one date with you just yet and she seems hella flaky
How about you decide what cool things you are going to be up to, throw out an invite for her to join you at some point while you are being awesome during your amazing weekend, and let her decide whether she wants to show up or not instead of trying to nail down a date with her
...aaand then you have to be cool with whatever happens not because you are trying to 'not give a fuck', but because you have your activity options so well sorted out that there is no possible bad outcome that depends on whether she shows up or not--you will have a great time either way. Even better if you get some other girls to come along too--she can either hear about it or see it when she shows up MASSIVE boost to your status in her mind.
In other words, always be working to create win-win situations with this stuff, with nothing depending on what the girl does. You will be happier and cooler, she will be more relaxed about hanging out with you, and most importantly, your 'outcome-independence' (what is really meant by 'not giving a fuck', and a VERY attractive trait) will be high and on display for her to appreciate. Mentality: You're having a great life and she is invited to join in. If she does, great, game on as per normal. If she doesn't, no worries you'll just catch her next time (and really, her loss--she could have had a better time with you than with whatever else she was doing).
Spot on, I've learned it the hard way. Coming to the US from a culture that highly values the ability to commit and bond, was a complete shock. I didn't understand why they were flaking on me, I'd take it very personal! Everyone is so obsessed with have the freedom of choice, they don't want to feel limited!
I just changed city and I don't have many acquaintances that I can create that kind of scenarios. But I still frame my invitation in a casual way, and not make it look like a date...
That's more like it.
Definitely be proactive about just setting a time when you are going to do your thing and let her know and if she can't make it/wants to change it around to fit her schedule--tough shit. If you dance around too much for her she'll lose interest in you.
Perfect setup for this here--she let you know Mondays and Tuesdays are good so just throw her a time during that period when you're going to let her join you if she wants and let her come to you. Never go further than that to accommodate a girl you aren't in a relationship with. Give-and-take scheduling and negotiation with a woman can have a place but only after you're already fucking each other and you've both demonstrated that you bring value to each other's lives.
Don't pm me asking questions if you are not going to message me back with a thank you after a lengthy answer or if you are going to debate with my experiences. If you can't say please and thank you, ask your mother to teach you some manners.
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