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hahaha, i got the best remedy in the world for approach anxiety!
Here it is: I DONT APPROACH WOMEN, WOMEN APPROACH ME.
That's not a remedy though, that's avoiding the issue. When I see a woman I want, I want to be able to approach her. If that is not your goal, then that's all fine, but that begs the question: what are you doing on this forum?
25 y/o virgin before GLL
I did 10+ reps, most of them being 10 second hugs. Most of the girls were either standing or walking, but I did some who were sitting down as well. For some reason I wasn't in a particularly good mood today and it was a little bit painful. One girl actually enjoyed the hug but most found it uncomfortable (no shit) and tried to get off way before then 10 second mark I didn't get any too bad reactions though, just funny awkwardness. If the girl really pried herself off I would of course let her go at the 5 second mark or so. Don't wanna get too rapey
The funniest one was probably when I asked to use the bathroom at a bar in the lounge of a shopping mall. When I came back I did the drill on one of the girls who were standing at the counter. I said I washed my hands
Reacting to Bad Reactions
I got a couple of really surprising bad reactions; for example a hot girl on the street straight up walked past me and said "sorry, no thanks" - like I was trying to sell something! I was so caught by surprise that I just stared and said "what..?" after her. I wonder if I should've just run after her, grabbed her arm and stopped her. Then I wanted to high five a girl to get back into the rhythm of things but she wouldn't. I got so pissed off at that that I just stuck around and followed her for a couple of minutes to scare her. I told her she could've been polite and high fived me, but since she chose to be rude I would be rude back.
I don't know if there's really any point in investing into bad reactions like this. Maybe I'd be better off just shrugging it off and not reacting. In a way I want to have my little "vengeance" like this if a girl makes me feel bad, but it also just makes me feel worse in the end. When a girl is rude to me she obviously doesn't realize who she's dealing with, and that I'm quite capable of handling it, so it's as if I want to make her regret acting that way. But at the same time it's just a waste of my energy to spend it on some loser or an arrogant bitch like that.
Also one woman asked if I was some guy she was supposed to meet, and I said no and after that she said she didn't have time for this and wouldn't even shake my hand. For revenge I ordered a coffee from the coffee place right where she was standing so she could feel as awkward as possible. Then I went to talk to these women at a table, stopped a walking girl and held her hand, and high fived a couple of girls making sure she could see me doing it. Now, I get that she didn't want to get involved since she was meeting a guy for a date, but that she wouldn't even shake my hand...? C'mon now, that's just rude. And what's with the excuse "I don't have time for this"? She was just standing around like an idiot doing nothing.
I think I'm being too hard on myself; I did more than the program asked for, so I should be damn proud of myself. Yet I'm a little disappointed that I didn't do a really challenging rep at the end, like stopping a group of girls or doing the drill on a girl with a BF. But I don't need to be fucking perfect right now. It's consistency that makes the difference, not over-exerting myself on a single day. I've got my whole life ahead of me to approach and gain experience in a variety of situations.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
I think that's fucking awesome that your doing week 8. I'm going to stop after completing week 7 and then hit up week 8 later and in a different town. Bad reactions don't really bother me any more. I usually walk away, not because I'm being a pussy but just because I don't really care. Sometimes I'll say something if I really feel like it but I usually feel worse if I say something than if I don't. It's like it's just not even worth it to keep engaging with a total loser like that ya know (that's just me tho)
Of course, do whatever you feel is best but the week 8 is not so bad that you have to do it in another town.
I agree with you on the reactions - I don't care about them either, but sometimes I just feel like the person needs to be "taught a lesson" so to speak. But then again why should I have to be the one to teach them? I feel better to just focus on the next approach.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
I was hoping to get one number but instead I got 6 today!! I am in the process of becoming the ultimate approach machine Fuck I'm awesome.
I was feeling pretty anxious because I knew I had to do the small talk (something I'm not accustomed to) and ask for the number (something I'm also not accustomed to). So in a way this drill introduced two new and unfamiliar actions. That's why I did mainly easy targets (single girls or groups of girls, indoors and stationary). Since these were still just drills, I went for some that I didn't actually find attractive. I did count into my approaches some that obviously weren't interested from the get-go, but that's fine since the initial approach is where the hard part is.
One girl was one that I'd done the arm-squeeze drill on before, so I just small-talked to her and then went for the number. This was made difficult by the fact that she was talking to some other dude at the moment. That dude probably felt like a little bitch when I interrupted and told her we should have coffee sometime, and she instantly agreed She's one of the hottest women in the gym, too - a great physique and stylish. And there I was all sweaty with messed up hair and fart-stained sweatpants getting her number Then I approached some other intimidatingly hot girl with tattoos who was doing back extensions. I asked her what she did and she was a massage therapist, so I told her she could massage my ass. She said sure, and groin area too. She gave me her number
Then 2 of the numbers I got were friggin 16-17. No harm in that The other one was at a gas station and she was about to leave the whole time and didn't want to give her number out to strangers. I told her exception is the rule and she yielded. The other one was at the movie theater, and she laughed at literally everything I said It's interesting how some girls are just like brick walls when you try to talk to them, but when you say the same things to another one she makes you feel like you're the most interesting and funny person in the world
One girl at a nut shop (place that sells different kinds of nuts and stuff by the pound) also was clearly super into me, she asked questions and looked at me right in the eyes with a look like she wanted me to kiss her right there and then. She was about to give me her number but then her fuckin sister told her not to, because she had a boyfriend. I mean she was interested enough in me to possibly cheat on her boyfriend! How awesome is that??
I sent all of em a message saying basically this: "Nice to meet you today at xxxxx. Have a nice weekend -billybob" I hope that was the right thing to do??? Should I expect an answer to that message, or just text again sometime later with something different even if no answer? At least the good thing is that if it's this easy to get numbers they don't matter if I screw up. But I hate the uncertainty.
25 y/o virgin before GLL
Thanks for the comments everyone! I never thought I could actually do it when I started out, but as always there's so much more potential in every one of us than we realize.
So are you just going to start doing real approaches everyday now?
Yes. I think there's no point in running drills anymore since I get practice by doing approaches anyway. With approaches there's much more to gain than doing drills because you can ask for the number and stuff. I also feel much more relaxed, much more free now because instead of having to complete a set number of reps/drills I can just do what I want.
I'm feeling a little burnt out because of pushing so hard to finish the program so I'm gonna take it easy to let my mind re-adjust.
Also, life is full of opportunities to utilize my new freedom by doing all kinds of crazy stuff I've always wanted to do but couldn't. I love messing with people. For example, the other day I was just disturbing the peace at a library. First I loudly asked where the adult entertainment section was, then I picked up a gay mag and went to a girl asking "lookin' for this?". She laughed. Then I went to these other girls saying "look, I found a magazine for you".
25 y/o virgin before GLL
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