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Day 1-4 05 Feb 2014 14:19 #98823

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What did I do?

- Not a new member and it's the second time I'm doing the AA program. I've already sent Chris some photos of myself - he told me that I'm good looking - tweaked my style a bit since then. I basically also have a fuckbuddy even though I won' t be seeing her for about the next 2 weeks so needyness shouldn't be a problem either.
- Asked about 20 people for the time in the last two days.

Things I noticed:

- The drill itself does not give me a huge rush but the surroundings (people etc.) really creep me out. I already know from last time that your AA is always higher in crowded places in the beginning.
- Frustrating to feel the difference in social freedom. Stuff that I was quite comfortable with towards the end of my last AA streak (day 14) which I could do in the most crowded places without that many problems - now even asking for the time in very crowded places creeps me out again.
- But now I know it better: It does not matter how slow you go - as long as you are out there you are moving forward. Does not matter if one rep will take you 30 minutes or 1 hour - as long as you continue to go out you will be successful if there is enough time. I have about 5 months time which should be sufficient.
- What Chris said about being a perfectionist really sticked with me: Today was far from being perfect (I could have approached lots and lots of girls in high pressure situations like in mixed groups or where there are lots of people standing around which I did not do). In former days I would become frustrated and quit because "If you can't do it 100% don't do it at all" - which is basically called daydreaming.

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Day 5 06 Feb 2014 14:20 #99142

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What did I do?

- Asked about 20 women for the time.

Things I noticed:

- Did the first 5 in 20 minutes, the second 5 in 10 minutes.
- Lost some steam afterwards because subconsciously I knew that I already fullfilled my "goal" for the day. The next 10 took me about 1 hour.
- Cannot approach in the busiest street in my town - looking forward to going back to my city with millions of people haha. I want to get that under control within the next few days. Probably too many memories about the last time I tried to beat AA on that street.
- Slowly entering the grind again. I want to do twice as much as necessary the first few days to get the volume in quickly or even take it a bit further. If I stick to 20 mini-approaches per day, 6 days a week I will have approached approximately 2.500 women by the end of june - should be sufficient for beating AA I would say haha.

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Re: Beating Approach Anxiety! (Remedy) 07 Feb 2014 14:11 #99482

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- My cold got much worse again, shouldn't have started approaching on Wednesday already. Feel like shit it's ridiculous - no point in complaining though, shit happens, gonna resume the program as soon as possible.

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Day 5 10 Feb 2014 15:59 #100267

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Yo homeboys,

What did I do today?

- Finally back at it again, hope that I'm going to stay healthy for a while now ;)
- Repeat Day 5 - did about 10-12 sets I think cannot really remember

Things I noticed:

- Still cannot approach on the busiest street, looking forward to going to back to a big city in 2 weeks for a mental restart
- No anxiety though in other parts of the city
- Even though I'm not really moving forward drill-wise I noticed some reductions in social anxiety and general tension around other people in other circumstances for example being with friends or talking to chicks from social circles
- Consistency is key, the more I go out and approach the more I will reduce my AA - easy as that

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Day 6 11 Feb 2014 17:58 #100605

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What did I do today?

- Did 5 sets of Time, Directions, Have you been there?

Things I noticed:

- Anxiety level much lower than the last few days, some kind of muscle memory getting back to where I used to be the last time
- Broke my dry-spell on the busiest street, that's the thing I'm the proudest on today
- Don't really give a shit about the reactions, cannot remember any of them (maybe somehow 2-3)
- Actually was quite fast with the drill today (15 reps in approximately 1 hour)
- Not stressing myself out, I got enough time - better completely kill AA than half-ass it and not get anywhere

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Day 7 12 Feb 2014 14:52 #100898

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What did I do today?

- Did 2 sets of Time (Get in there!), Directions, Have you been there?


Things I noticed:

- Received some bad news yesterday evening which resulted in lack of sleep this night and led to some weird anxiety during the day today.
- Actually started off very well, approached the first 3 women without hesitating, then I got in there again and proceeded but suddenly I lost all my motivation and some hardcore anxiety creeped in - like out of nowhere the reactions have been positive or neutral.
- Working on your AA seems like some kind of cleansing process for the mind - I'm generally quite a stable and rational person who rarely gets fazed by anything but throughout the program I feel high on life one day and anxious and weak as fuck the next day.
- Had no motivation to approach which in combination with intense anxiety made me go home. Gonna get at this shit again tomorrow of course.

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Day 7 13 Feb 2014 13:38 #101202

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What did I do today?

- Did 5 sets of Time (Get in there!), Directions, Have you been there?


Things I noticed:

- A billion times easier than yesterday, even though I did not really feel like doing the drills in the morning. Actually it was kinda fun.
- The background anxiety in crowded areas seems to start to go away slowly. Before starting the program I always used to be a bit stressed and anxious when I walked through the city by myself like worrying about everyone around me. Now I don't give a shit about that.
- Amazing how different one can feel from one day to another. Yesterday I felt completely hopeless and weak, today strong and motivated as fuck!

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Day 7 15 Feb 2014 14:00 #101753

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What did I do today?

- Did 5 sets of Time (Get in there!), Directions, Have you been there?

Things I noticed:

- For anyone wondering why I am not going on with the program I think I am at a turning point right now. The drill itself is easy but I cannot approach every women in every circumstance meaning I still have problems with very crowded areas. The last time I did the AA program I thought it would not matter but that fucked up my chances of successfully completing the program. Gonna repeat that day until I can approach in the city centre and till I am really comfortable approaching in very crowded areas.

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Re: Day 7 15 Feb 2014 20:16 #101803

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What did I do today?

- Did 5 sets of Time (Get in there!), Directions, Have you been there?

Things I noticed:

- For anyone wondering why I am not going on with the program I think I am at a turning point right now. The drill itself is easy but I cannot approach every women in every circumstance meaning I still have problems with very crowded areas. The last time I did the AA program I though it would not matter but that fucked up my chances of successfully completing the program. Gonna repeat that day until I can approach in the city centre and till I am really comfortable approaching in very crowded areas.


I know exactly what you mean man. For me, it is hard to approach women that's going through checkout lines in a grocery store or people in a group. What I am going to start doing is make it a point to do 1 approach in a harder situation like that and do the rest in easy scenarios so I won't overwhelm myself. Work my way up.
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Day 7 17 Feb 2014 17:13 #102326

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What did I do today?

- Did 2 sets of Time (Get in there!), Directions, Have you been there? because I met up with some people afterwards.


Things I noticed:

- I felt very strange like totally different not really in a negative or positive way though the whole day.
- Today I felt much much calmer and my anxiety was much lower, I did every approach on the busiest street I hope this is a sign of progress as I feel like working on my AA now is really possible. Like I'm surrounded by some protective aura and the negative emotions don't affect me that much anymore. I know that sounds random but that's the best I can describe it.
- Gonna stick with this day as I think I can progress a lot by reducing lots of the general anxiety one feels in crowded areas.

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Day 7 18 Feb 2014 19:28 #102750

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What did I do today?

- Did 1 set of Time (Get in there!), Directions, Have you been there?

Things I noticed:

- Felt some ridiculous anxiety today, like having problems with looking people in the eyes and walking up and down the street by myself. Seems like a breakthrough lies ahead.
- Honeymoon period seems to be over
- Gonna be in a big ass city by monday where I will go beast mode with approaching.

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Re: Beating Approach Anxiety! (Remedy) 20 Feb 2014 06:31 #103205

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- Currently on holiday, gonna be back at it in a few days.

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