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AA Program - When can you start approaching too? 05 Apr 2013 23:10 #28586

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If you read the intro to the program and listened to any of the audios, you've been reminded 55+ times not to do approaches while you are doing these drills.

I don't want you turning drills into weak indirect approaches, nor do I really want you doing ANY real approaches at all.

This is fragile time and even 1 lousy day of approach outcome-dependent approaching can undo ALL the positivity/social momentum that the program brings. The reason people quit is because (1) The aren't having fun; (2) They don't see the progress/results they want to. Since the AA program is out- Approaching, for a majority of guys with AA, will hurt their progress rather than help it.

Later in the program, however, following Day 46 to be specific- you are allowed to hit on girls when you are not doing the drills. That means- continue the drills, but find a separate time to hit on drills. Day 46 (usually comes at 2.5-3.5months for guys that are taking the program seriously) is a MILESTONE. You'll see why.

Not only "can" you hit after Day 46... you literally CAN hit on girls after Day 46.
It's possible and likely that you will begin to actually get somewhere with the ones that are available. make sure your clothing is cool.

Ideally, you will continue with the drills and also hit on girls (as well as continuing some online stuff).

So hold off until after Day 46, you'll be glad you did.

I was going to have people just discover this, but I've gotten the question a lot of times so that's the answer.

Truthfully, it won't be until day 60-70 that reasonable-aggressive approaches will be easy, but 46 marks 3months for guys and that is when most are ready. (the drill is just like the GLL quick screen approach)
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Re: I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 05 Apr 2013 23:14 #28587

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Thanks Chris. This really answers my question

When I see a girl and DONT approach her I get upset with myself and a little sad. But this is without doing drills.

I still pull, somewhat consistently, from online dating. 9 girls in like 2.5 months. Pretty good in my book.

So I still have that while I do the drills. Hell maybe I'll go to bars with some buddies but not with the purpose to hit on girls.

Anyways I am going on and on. Just thanks for clearing this up :)

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Re: I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 05 Apr 2013 23:27 #28590

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It's important to note that that Day 46 doesn't necessarily mark "the day you will be able to approach girls easily," it will only when most guys can start to do it and have it go well, or have it not go well but be psychologically tough enough to not care.
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Re: I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 05 Apr 2013 23:49 #28593

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Yeah, "being psychologically tough enough not to care" if approaches don't go well is a big achievement, actually.

It's not something to be taken lightly. It is a very valuable thing to develop and I'm glad you mentioned it Chris, because a while ago I got discouraged enough to take months off, and I don't want that to happen again so I'm doing the AA drills again daily, and so far, the progression of drills up to DAY 14 (I think) has been fantastic and it's given me that positive social momentum that I haven't felt in months!

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Re: I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 09 Apr 2013 00:47 #29109

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Yeah, "being psychologically tough enough not to care" if approaches don't go well is a big achievement, actually.

It's not something to be taken lightly. It is a very valuable thing to develop and I'm glad you mentioned it Chris, because a while ago I got discouraged enough to take months off, and I don't want that to happen again so I'm doing the AA drills again daily, and so far, the progression of drills up to DAY 14 (I think) has been fantastic and it's given me that positive social momentum that I haven't felt in months!


thats great man, I'm happy it's helping you out and I thank you for your patience
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Re: I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 02 May 2013 21:27 #32788

I started the drills...and I'm sure you have heard this before but I think I am already psychologically tough enough to hit on girls. I have gone direct and aggressive in the day time/nighttime and pulled plenty of SNL's. The thing is I am able to act even though I am sometimes a bit nervous. Think it has to do with having done alot of MMA fights.

I don't think I'm special or above the process. Just asking for a guy with well over a hundred lays should I really not approach to be able to do this program? I want to make sure my AA is totally smashed. But girls blowing me out or not taking my approach well dosen't hurt me.

NEXT is all I really think.

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Re: I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 12 May 2013 23:08 #34839

Why are you doing the AA drills then?
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I'm Listening and Doing the Program.. But When Can I Start Approaching Too? 27 Apr 2019 17:33 #316361

Awesome. I'll be hitting Day 46 right when I fly to Shanghai on vacation in the heart of the nightlife

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